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My friend had a crush on me and I don't like him back. What should I say to him?

Paul Chernyak, LPC
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Be honest and tell him how you feel towards him. If you prefer to just be friends, then make it clear to him.

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My friend told me he likes me right in front of my boyfriend. He was very forward and creepy, and even a bit rude towards my boyfriend. Should we remain friends? What should I say to him?

Paul Chernyak, LPC
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Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.

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Clarify to him the status of your relationship. Be clear that you consider your friend as a friend strictly. Also be clear that you are currently seriously involved with your boyfriend and prefer to keep your relationship with him on friendly terms. Basically, set some clear boundaries.

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How can I gently let someone know I don't want to see them anymore?

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It's best to just be honest, but try to be as nice and polite as you can. Don't just ghost the person—you might be trying not to hurt their feelings, but that can create loose ends that can be more emotionally wounding in the long term.

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She threatens suicide every time I talk about ending the relationship. What should I do?

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You shouldn't feel compelled to stay in the relationship just to keep her safe - suicide threats are manipulative, and you don't need to stay in a relationship you're unhappy with. That being said, you can take steps to help her stay safe after you end the relationship. During the breakup, you can make it clear that there are people that care about her, and that while you don't want her to hurt herself, you can't control her actions. Afterwards, make sure she has access to a crisis hotline and can reach people who care about her; you can also call 911 if she's at an immediate risk of suicide. How to Break Up With Someone Who Is Threatening Suicide has advice that can help you end the relationship safely.

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