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Is it possible to live without being scared?

Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA
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Julia Lyubchenko is an Adult Counselor and a Hypnotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Julia opened her practice in 2012, Therapy Under Hypnosis, specializing in resolving emotional and behavioral problems. She has a Certificate in Clinical Hypnosis from the Bosurgi Method School and is certified in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy. She earned an MA in Counseling Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy from Alliant International University and an MSc in Developmental and Child Psychology from Moscow State University.

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Not really, but that's okay. Our brains are trained to search for danger. We're always passively seeking out things that might put us in harm's way, so it's natural to be scared every now and then. The trick is to find ways to cope with that fear and accept it!

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How do I engage in self-care?

Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA
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Julia Lyubchenko is an Adult Counselor and a Hypnotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Julia opened her practice in 2012, Therapy Under Hypnosis, specializing in resolving emotional and behavioral problems. She has a Certificate in Clinical Hypnosis from the Bosurgi Method School and is certified in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy. She earned an MA in Counseling Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy from Alliant International University and an MSc in Developmental and Child Psychology from Moscow State University.

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This is a big one; a lot of people don't know how to do this. It's all about learning how to love yourself. They think that it's just about taking a long bath or doing something you enjoy, and that's great, but you really have to accept yourself in the moment. Knowing that you deserve the love you're expressing towards yourself is the key.

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How do I relax mentally?

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Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in Florida. She specializes in working with adults on anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout. She is also the Chief Wellness Adviser for global esports organization Misfits Gaming Group. Dr. Rubenstein holds a BA in Psychology from Duke University, an MA in Psychology from Harvard University, and a PhD in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. She also has a Certification in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing through the EMDRIA (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association).

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Whenever you're feeling overwhelmed, try asking yourself "How can I make this easier on myself?" We tend to forget that there might be ways to make the situation easier. Put the big questions and the big stressors to the side and start handling the most pertinent things first. You don't have to take everything all at once.

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How can I solve all the problems in my life?

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Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in Florida. She specializes in working with adults on anxiety, perfectionism, and burnout. She is also the Chief Wellness Adviser for global esports organization Misfits Gaming Group. Dr. Rubenstein holds a BA in Psychology from Duke University, an MA in Psychology from Harvard University, and a PhD in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. She also has a Certification in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing through the EMDRIA (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing International Association).

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Well, you can't. What you can do is focus on the problems that you're able to control. Once you stop worrying so much about what's not in your control, you'll start to feel a sense of peace, as you'll realize there's more within your domain than outside of it.

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