Q&A for How to Talk to a Girl You Don't Know

Then you say, "No worries, I totally understand," and call it a day. It may feel weird being turned down after you've worked up the courage to approach her, but you can't force anyone to talk to you. It really isn't a big deal, so don't worry about it!

Just say hello and introduce yourself. There's no secret to it. Just be genuine and treat her like a normal person.

If you're respectful and authentic, sure. I think a lot of people out there think it's not okay to do this, but there's nothing wrong with going up to someone and talking to them.

First of all, do not follow the girl. This will make most girls very uncomfortable. If you see her again, just go up and talk to her. Ask her about the time, the weather, where a certain store or restaurant is, anything you can think of. Be confident and polite. What's the worst that could happen? She doesn't want to talk to you? Everyone faces rejection, it's no big deal, but if you don't try, you'll never get anything you want.

Talk to her, see what she says, who knows she might like you too. Next time you see her tell her how you feel and maybe you will hang out and get to know each other. She's probably just nervous to talk to you.

Don't stare or watch her. Just give her short (but sweet) gazes every so often. If you stare at her for too long she might find it creepy.

Be yourself, you are amazing! Be honest with her and tell her how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same way, know that you are awesome and someone out there feels the same way towards you.

If you're waiting until she's alone, you're going to live a lonely life. Just say "hi". Give her time to see if any feelings develop, and in the meantime, get to know you. Besides, if she's in a group, one moment of courage introduces you to the entire group. You never know what could come of it.

"Hi, I'm [your name], what's your name?" Then just say whatever comes to mind. Talk about the weather, school, local sports, etc. If you know something about her, use that in the conversation, i.e., "Don't you know [her friend's name]?"

You can look at her, but it would be weird to stare. However, if she catches you looking at her, then yes, you should smile!

I would suggest you do nothing, leave her alone. If she blocked you, that's a definite sign she's not into dating you. Of course, it could be she wants to exit the online world and enter the real life world, but those chances are slim at best. However, if you've been giving her some attention and then stop, then she will either be relieved you can now be just friends, or miss the attention and come to you for more. She'll take the initiative if she's interested in you.

The way this goes is: you meet, you say hi, she says hi, you send some texts and she does one of two things: she keeps replying and sends you texts first as well, or she does not reply or sends one-word answers. If it's the first, listen to her; pick up on what she says, ask her out IRL. If it's the second, stop sending her anything. After the first, anything can happen: love, friendship, sex, marriage, etc. After the second, likely one of two things will happen: either she's relieved you finally left her alone (you took the hint), or she misses your attention and contacts you herself.

If you want her, you should be willing to wait a lifetime. If you're not willing to wait, look for someone else.

Yes, but don't make her uncomfortable.

Nothing. Don't rush anything. You don't know anything about her yet, so find out more before you fall in love. Talk to her again, see if she wants to talk to you as well. Listen to her, give her a chance to get to know you. Remember that nine times out of ten it simply doesn't pan out, and that's OK, because that one time is worth all the heartache in the world. Just go slow, no expectations, be nice and kind and open and honest. Give her a compliment, share something personal. Then go silent for a while, give her a chance to come to you.

You have to think of the message you're sending. Flowers are romantic; if you offer them, she also knows you're offering her your love, or at least that you're interested in her. By accepting, she may think that accepting means sending you the message "I like you, too", which puts her in an awkward position when you present her the flowers if she doesn't feel the same way. Even if she does kind of like you, but isn't ready to say so yet, putting her on the spot too soon robs her of a chance of romance with you, which is unfair.

It's a sweet idea, go for it. Buy chocolate, go up to her and casually say "It's your birthday isn't it? I was thinking of you and I bought you chocolate". Chocolate is a simple gift that has no strings attached when it is accepted, not like buying her a house. Keep your conversation short, but hook it into a next conversation: "Hope you like it! Let me know tomorrow if it was good, I've never tried this flavor myself."

Just start with hi, see what she says, and go with that. There are lots of things you are interested in, so share those with her. You cannot control beforehand what the conversation will be like, because she controls half of it, too. Listen more than you speak, remember something she said, then come back to that later.

The how is the same as in any other case. You talk, get to know her, give her a chance to get to know you. Flirt, give a compliment, see if your feelings actually grow, and see if hers grow too. But in this case, you have to be prepared to move to her country. If you have your life where you live and expect her to give up everything to come over and make your life richer without you having to give up anything, well, that's not how this works. You have to be prepared to give up everything--your school, job, parents, sports, language, culture--just to be with her. If she's worth that, let her know.

Most likely, she's not sure herself yet. People don't know immediately whether they actually like someone. Sure, we all decide rather quickly on a superficial level, but if she agreed to have a conversation, that at least shows she's somewhat interested. Do it again: "Hey, last time I got so nervous I froze up, remember? Let's try that again..."

Trust that if she wants to talk to you, she'll come to you. Unless she's in a break area with tables or chairs or whatever, the gym is not really an opportune place to speak to people. You can offer help with weights or something, maybe ask for tips about this or that machine, but if she's not giving you signals that she's open to conversation, then it usually means she's not open for conversation. The lack of a confirmation is in itself confirmation that she's not interested.

Nothing, sadly. Not sending a reply is also a signal. She has seen your message and friend request, has considered it, and has decided not to accept or reply. It's not a nice feeling to reject someone, and it seems women have to reject people more often than men, so they often just don't reply at all, because they want to focus their energy on the people they do like. You now have to back down. If she misses the attention you gave her, she'll come to you. Otherwise, she'll be relieved you're not stalking her. It's OK to have asked, that's allowed. She has declined, that's allowed too. It hurts, I know, but take some time to heal, then pick yourself up and find someone else.

"Willing to wait until she's open"? You do realize that is rather sexist, as if all that is required for you two to be together is for her to be single? It doesn't matter how many guys like her, it doesn't even matter if she has a boyfriend, and it definitely doesn't matter what your personality is. The only thing that matters is whether she likes you back. To find out, be friends. Stop thinking about a relationship with her, and get to know the person she is. And if she doesn't want you to get to know her, then you can't. Move on.

One thing you can do is say, "Hey, you make me feel like I want to do something nice for you. What are some things that you like?"

If she is friendly to you, she likely still wants to be friends with you, but if she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship with her, you should believe her. If you are okay with being friends without having a romantic relationship, continue talking to her! It may help to ask politely if you are making her feel uncomfortable; otherwise, she may interpret your continued conversation as flirting.

It seems like she likes you and is interested in talking to you! If you are also interested in her, start a conversation! Once you have gotten to know each other a bit, be honest about your feelings for her.

Sure! It's normal to approach someone to have a conversation with them. If she doesn't want to talk to you, you should accept that, but it is likely that she will be happy about being spoken to in a kind way.

Just be honest, let her know that you understand that she may not have any romantic feelings for you anymore. Then, just tell her that you miss her conversations and ask if she'd like to hang out sometime.

Go for it, but respectfully! Many girls are comfortable hugging guys that they consider close friends, without it being romantic at all. Best thing to do is just ask politely if she’s dating anyone right now, and respect her answer.

Hang around your front yard or the street, maybe playing sports, washing cars, or helping a neighbor do some chores. When she walks around the street, say something simple and polite like, “Hey, you live around here, right? I’m (your name), how’s it going”. Try to keep busy as to not look strange. Neighbors like to get to know each other all the time, so it’s not strange to try and talk to them. Just be natural.