What's My Attraction Style?

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Flirting. Touches. Steaminess. Butterflies. Passion. Attraction . There are so many different aspects to our own desires, and to most of us, our own attraction style is a mystery.

We’re here to help you crack the case. Answer these simple questions honestly and go with your first instinct. And at the end of the quiz, we’ll tell you everything you need to know about your attraction style.

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Questions Overview

1. Pick a word to describe what excites you most:
  1. Tension
  2. Gentleness
  3. Passion
  4. Banter
2. What’s your dealbreaker?
  1. Someone who I don’t have a spark with.
  2. Someone who isn’t in touch with their emotions.
  3. Someone who isn't also a close friend.
  4. Someone who doesn’t match me intellectually.
3. How would you describe love?
  1. Thrill: A feeling of over-the-top passion and excitement.
  2. Magic: A feeling of wonder and connection.
  3. Calm: A feeling of home in another person.
  4. Deep: A feeling of intense understanding and connection.
4. Which of these flirtations would make you super into someone you just met:
  1. If they teased me playfully.
  2. If they talked to me for a long time at a party and gave me lots of attention.
  3. If they laughed at my jokes.
  4. If they complimented me on something unique and subtle, like the book I was reading.
5. Which one is you:
  1. Constant flirter, never in a relationship.
  2. Constant crushes, never acting on my feelings.
  3. Constant relationships, never single.
  4. Constant friendships, never meeting someone I would date.
6. What's most attractive to you?
  1. Sparks.
  2. Emotional sensitivity.
  3. Charm.
  4. Intelligence.
7. Are you a chaser, or do you like to be chased?
  1. I like to chase.
  2. I like to be chased.
  3. I like when it's clearly mutual.
  4. It depends on the person.
8. How do you draw others in?
  1. With confidence.
  2. With sweetness.
  3. With my eyes.
  4. With mystery.
9. How fast do you fall for someone?
  1. Immediately. I could fall just on a look…
  2. I fall fast, but it takes a few weeks at least.
  3. I take a normal amount of time. At least a few months.
  4. I take a long time, sometimes years.
10. I would never admit it, but I really just want:
  1. To feel alive.
  2. To melt into someone else.
  3. To never have to be alone.
  4. To finally meet someone who makes me feel less alone in my own head.

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As a Fire Type, your superpower is your vivaciousness and charm. You have a natural way with flirting, and when you want someone, they\u2019ll feel the heat. You\u2019re exciting, you\u2019re funny, you\u2019re witty, you\u2019re unforgettable.<\/b>

  • Your soulmate:<\/b> An intelligent wallflower who comes out of their shell with you<\/li>
  • You\u2019re attracted to:<\/b> Charisma, humor, and wit<\/li>
  • Your kryptonite:<\/b> Someone who\u2019s passionate<\/li>
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    As a Soft Type, your superpower is your kindness and empathy. You flirt by showing interest, listening attentively, and sweetly complimenting your crush. You have a natural way with romance, and even though you move slowly\u2014you leave a giant impact on the people you date.<\/b>
    • Your soulmate:<\/b> Someone loyal with a tough exterior, but who melts into a super sensitive softie when they meet you<\/li>
    • You\u2019re attracted to:<\/b> Loyalty, creativity, and kindness<\/li>
    • Your kryptonite:<\/b> Someone who is generous<\/li>
    • Your turn off:<\/b> Rude people<\/li><\/ul>","edit_links":[{"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Is-Romantic-Attraction"},{"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like"}],"link_data":[{"title":"What Does It Mean to Be Romantically Attracted to Someone?","id":14293472,"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Is-Romantic-Attraction","image":"\/images\/thumb\/8\/80\/What-Is-Romantic-Attraction-Step-12.jpg\/-crop-200-200-200px-What-Is-Romantic-Attraction-Step-12.jpg","alt":"What Does It Mean to Be Romantically Attracted to Someone?"},{"title":"18 Telltale Signs that You\u2019re Feeling Sexual Attraction","id":14006682,"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like","image":"\/images\/thumb\/5\/5d\/What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like-Step-18.jpg\/-crop-200-200-200px-What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like-Step-18.jpg","alt":"18 Telltale Signs that You\u2019re Feeling Sexual Attraction"}],"minimum":0},{"text":"Your attraction style is Warm Type.","meaning":"To you: attraction is about warmth, positivity, partnership, kindness, and fun. When you first meet people, you tend to be attracted to vibes\u2014you love someone who keeps things fun, friendly, and fresh. Your dream partner would love other people as much as you do and help you live an exciting, bustling life, filled with friends.

      As a Warm Type, your superpower is your charisma and sunniness. Everyone loves you because of your curiosity, energy, and openness and you\u2019re attracted to similar qualities in other people. You\u2019re not so much a natural flirt as a natural friend, and sometimes, people can\u2019t tell when you\u2019re into them (or on the flip side, they think you\u2019re into them when you\u2019re just being friendly). But trust us, one day you\u2019ll find your dream parnter to truly share a life with!<\/b>
      • Your soulmate:<\/b> Someone who\u2019s similar to you, but with enough differences to keep things interesting<\/li>
      • You\u2019re attracted to:<\/b> Outgoingness, warmth, and fun<\/li>
      • Your kryptonite:<\/b> Someone who is your best friend first<\/li>
      • Your turn off:<\/b> Judgmental people<\/li><\/ul>","edit_links":[{"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Is-Romantic-Attraction"},{"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like"}],"link_data":[{"title":"What Does It Mean to Be Romantically Attracted to Someone?","id":14293472,"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Is-Romantic-Attraction","image":"\/images\/thumb\/8\/80\/What-Is-Romantic-Attraction-Step-12.jpg\/-crop-200-200-200px-What-Is-Romantic-Attraction-Step-12.jpg","alt":"What Does It Mean to Be Romantically Attracted to Someone?"},{"title":"18 Telltale Signs that You\u2019re Feeling Sexual Attraction","id":14006682,"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like","image":"\/images\/thumb\/5\/5d\/What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like-Step-18.jpg\/-crop-200-200-200px-What-Does-Sexual-Attraction-Feel-Like-Step-18.jpg","alt":"18 Telltale Signs that You\u2019re Feeling Sexual Attraction"}],"minimum":0},{"text":"Your attraction style is Bright Type.","meaning":"To you: attraction is about witty banter, knowing glances, great conversation, and intellectual challenges. You\u2019re smart, and you see the world in a unique way. In order for you to be attracted to someone, first you have to be attracted to their mind. So when it comes to a relationship, you have to have the intellectual compatibility, and your worst nightmare is ending up with someone who doesn\u2019t challenge you.

        As a Bright Type, your superpower is your curiosity, your individuality, and your intelligence. Because you\u2019re so attracted to someone\u2019s mind, flirting is less physical with you. You like subtlety, and you love verbal flirting. An observant compliment or a little playful teasing goes a long way with you.<\/b>
        • Your soulmate:<\/b> An intellectual or creative who helps you break out of your shell<\/li>
        • You\u2019re attracted to:<\/b> Passion, success, and creativity<\/li>
        • Your kryptonite:<\/b> Someone deep and intense<\/li>
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How Can You Tell If Attraction Is Real?

So, you like this person. Actually, you’re head-over-heels for them! You think they’re cute, funny, and oh-so-amazing. But how do you know if they’re attracted to you too? Check out these common signs that someone likes or is attracted to you:

  • Prolonged eye contact. Chances are, if you catch them glancing at you or maintaining eye contact longer than usual, they like you.
  • Mirrored body language. Are they mimicking your behavior or copying your body language? If so, it’s likely a subconscious sign they’re into you.
  • Teasing. If they engage in playful banter and make jokes with you, they’re likely trying to build trust, intimacy, and connection with you.
  • Spending time with you. If they go out of their way to make plans with you or be near you, it isn’t an accident. They’re showing you that you’re a priority.
  • Remembering details. Do they bring up something you mentioned out of the blue? Do they remember little details about you now one else does? If so, it’s likely because they like you.
  • Physical contact. More often than not, an accidental brush of the hand or bump isn’t so accidental. This is their subtle way of trying to get closer to you.
  • Being vulnerable. A telling sign someone may be attracted to you is if they open up to you. They want you to know you’re someone they feel safe around.

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