Am I a Big Spoon or a Little Spoon?

Take this quiz to see what your spooning position says about you!

To hold or to be held, that is the question. And make no mistake, being a big spoon or little spoon is about so much more than how you like to cuddle. It’s about your personality, your romantic style, the way you navigate the world.

Answer these 12 quick questions, and we’ll run the numbers and tell you if you’ve got more of a big spoon or little spoon personality, and what that means.

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Questions Overview

1. What's your favorite physical way to show a partner some love?
  1. A big, warm hug. I want to be as close as possible!
  2. I like to cover them with kisses whenever I can!
  3. I like just to hold their hand, whether we’re out in public or at home.
  4. I like to touch them in small ways, like tousling their hair or squeezing their shoulder.
2. Do you prefer to give gifts, or receive them?
  1. I'm definitely a gift giver. Nothing beats making someone else happy.
  2. I love receiving gifts! It makes me happy to know that someone thought of me.
  3. Why not both? I like both.
  4. I don't really like doing either, honestly. It makes me feel awkward.
3. How do you feel about goodbyes?
  1. I hate them. I never want to part from the people I care about.
  2. They're bittersweet. It's sad to see someone go, but I know I'll see them again.
  3. I feel good about them, actually. When they're hard, it means our time together was worth it.
  4. I don't really feel any sort of way about them. I live in the moment, and that's where I stay.
4. When it's time to wash up, which do you prefer?
  1. Hot shower
  2. Cold shower
  3. Hot bath
  4. Cold bath
5. Do you take the lead in a relationship, or follow your partner’s lead?
  1. I definitely take the lead! I know what I want, and I like bringing someone else along for the ride.
  2. I like following the lead! If it makes my partner happy, it makes me happy.
  3. A little bit of both! I think a relationship is a give-and-take, after all.
  4. I’m not sure!
6. Do you sleep with stuffed animals on your bed?
  1. Yes. So many. There's barely room for me.
  2. Sure, there are some plushies on my bed.
  3. Not really. It's just a couple of pillows and blankets.
  4. Not plushies, but I do have loads of pillows.
7. How do you want to be remembered by the people you’ve dated?
  1. As someone who tried to be kind and make the world a better place.
  2. As someone who was loved and admired by countless people.
  3. As someone who lived a quiet life, but was totally genuine.
  4. As someone who overcame the odds and made something of myself.
8. Choose a flavor profile:
  1. Sweet 🍬
  2. Spicy 🌶️
  3. Salty 🧂
  4. Savory 🍖
9. What's your love language? (Choose the one that feels best.)
  1. Acts of service (Doing nice things for other people)
  2. Receiving service (Getting gifts or having favors done for you)
  3. Physical touch (Coming into contact with someone you love)
  4. Words of affirmation or quality time together.
10. How do you deal with conflicts in your love life?
  1. I stop everything and focus on finding a solution. I won’t even sleep until it’s sorted out.
  2. I give my partner plenty of space before I bring the problem up gently.
  3. I pretend it doesn’t exist and hope it goes away on its own, but if it’s a real problem I’ll do my best to face it.
  4. I ask my close friends or family for help, or to talk to my partner about it, instead of me.
11. Be honest: Can you keep a secret?
  1. Always. No matter how big or small, it's safe with me. I won't tell a soul.
  2. Sort of. I can keep it mostly to myself, but I might tell one or two of my closest friends.
  3. Not really. I tend to let it slip sooner or later, hard as I try.
  4. Not at all. The pressure just kills me. I'd rather not hear it at all.
12. What do you want most in this world?
  1. Love and affection
  2. Money and fame
  3. Power and control
  4. Peace and stability

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What Your Sleeping Position Says About You

Nothing beats a good spooning session. What’s better than cozy, quality time with someone you love? It’s a fabulous form of affection, and believe it or not, it’s also scientifically proven to bring numerous health benefits, like relieving stress, boosting your mood, and strengthening your relationship.

Of course, spooning isn’t the only sleeping position out there! Your spooning position can say a lot about you, but so can other sleeping positions. Let’s check some out:

Sleeping Position Personalities

Big Spoon: You’re a guardian, a caretaker, a responsible partner. You feel happiest when you’re making your partner happy, and you do that by holding them close and making them feel secure. If there’s a problem, you won’t hesitate to find a solution. Other people’s happiness is your happiness.

Little Spoon: You’re a cuddlebug! You bask in the warm glow of affection, and you’re happiest when your partner is showing you how much they love you. It’s a two-lane street, though: being the little spoon is how you show affection to your partner. It’s one way of saying that you’ll be there to love and support them, no matter what.

Side Sleeper: A classic. You like things to be stable and predictable. You’re also ready for anything, like if you ever have to roll out of bed at 3 a.m. to go comfort a friend, or even just to pick someone up from the airport. You’re reliable, and you like things to be practical and comfortable.

Stomach Sleeper: You’re the kind to flop into bed and go totally limp. You’d sleep with your face in your pillow if you could, but alas, you gotta breathe, right? This position is more about comfort than effort, which is just the way you like it. Why break a sweat trying to catch some Zs when you could just become a ragdoll and let the Sandman take care of the rest?

Back Sleeper: You’re a positive thinker. Or, you just fell asleep while scrolling on your phone. In either case, it’s probably pretty easy for you to doze off, or sleep tends to find you when you least expect it. Whatever the case, you’re going full starfish.

Fetal Position: When your waking life is filled with stress and anxiety, you like to curl up in a little ball and doze it all away. Your problems can’t hurt you when you’re playing armadillo, right? But seriously, you’re probably keeping all that stress in your shoulders. Breathe in, breathe out, let it go. Just be sure to stretch your back in the morning.

Toss ‘n’ Turner: You and sleep have a rocky relationship. You’re never comfortable for long, and pretty soon you’re rolling over or flipping to the cooler side of your pillow. You need sleep and want the rest, but at the end of the day, you’d rather be up and about, still getting things done. Our advice: take a warm shower or bath or try some meditation before bed to get a better night’s sleep.

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