How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?

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Wondering how compatible you are with your significant other? Our quiz will ask you probing questions about you, them, your relationship, and more to determine just how compatible you are—and your odds of having a successful relationship! Hit “Start Quiz” to begin!

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Questions Overview

1. True or false: you know your partner better than you know anyone.
  1. Definitely true.
  2. Mostly true.
  3. Mostly false.
  4. Definitely false.
2. Your partner’s birthday is coming up! Do you know what to get them?
  1. Totally!
  2. I’ve got a pretty good idea.
  3. I’m not really sure…
  4. No clue.
3. You just got great news! Is your partner the first person you tell?
  1. Definitely!
  2. Probably!
  3. Maybe.
  4. Probably not.
4. Do they feel like home to you?
  1. Absolutely.
  2. Mostly, yes.
  3. Sort of.
  4. No, not really.
5. When you think about the future, is your partner there?
  1. Of course!
  2. Most likely!
  3. Maybe.
  4. Probably not.
6. When you’re in a pinch, can you rely on your partner to help you out?
  1. Definitely.
  2. Most of the time.
  3. Sometimes.
  4. Not really.
7. Do you think they love you?
  1. I know they do!
  2. I’m pretty sure they do.
  3. They might.
  4. They probably don’t.
8. Do you enjoy spending time together?
  1. Yes, I love it more than anything!
  2. Yeah, I really enjoy it.
  3. Sure, sometimes.
  4. Not really.
9. You’re about to watch a movie together. Do you agree on the movie?
  1. Almost always!
  2. Sure—but if we don’t, we just take turns picking a film.
  3. No, we usually disagree.
  4. We never agree—we like totally different movies.
10. Your partner’s away for the weekend with their friends and you’re stuck at home. How do you feel?
  1. Excited for them! I’ve got plenty to do here and I’ll see them soon.
  2. A little sad I’m not there, but it’s fine. I hope they’re having a good time.
  3. I’m kind of bummed. Are they having fun without me?
  4. I’m really jealous and insecure. Do they even like me?
11. You and your partner just got into an argument. How did it go?
  1. We were both patient and tried to understand where the other person was coming from.
  2. We tried to be calm and respectful, but it’s difficult. We both want to win!
  3. We got a little rowdy. It felt like we were talking past each other.
  4. It got pretty chaotic, and we didn’t really resolve the issue.
12. Would you say you share the same values and beliefs?
  1. Yes, definitely.
  2. We share a lot of the same values, but there are some things we disagree on.
  3. We butt heads a lot, but we have a few shared beliefs that connect us.
  4. We have almost opposite beliefs.
13. True or false: your partner is curious about you and your inner world.
  1. Very true.
  2. Pretty true.
  3. Sort of false.
  4. Definitely false.
14. You had a rough day and you’re telling your partner all about it. Do they make you feel better?
  1. Yes, they almost always do.
  2. Probably—they try, anyway.
  3. Probably not.
  4. No, they make me feel worse.
15. Say your partner wants to live in one city, but you want to live in another. What does this mean for your relationship?
  1. Absolutely nothing. We’ll figure it out and find a compromise.
  2. It means one of us will have to sacrifice what they want, but it’s no big deal.
  3. We’ll try to make it work, but this might be the end.
  4. Our relationship is probably doomed.
16. In your heart of hearts, what result do you think you’ll get? (We won’t tell.)
  1. Very compatible.
  2. Pretty compatible.
  3. Not very compatible.
  4. Not at all compatible.

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What Does It Mean To Be Compatible in a Relationship?

While sparks might fly in a relationship, without compatibility, it’ll be pretty hard to keep that flame alive for the long haul. But what is compatibility, anyway, if it’s not sparks?

Compatibility refers to how well-suited you and your partner are for a relationship, as opposed to love, which is more about the feelings you have for your partner. They’re both essential for a relationship to thrive—but while a lack of love may spell doom for a relationship, it is possible to overcome compatibility issues with lots of hard work and compromise.

If you and your partner aren’t as compatible as you wish you were, don’t throw in the towel just yet! It might just be a matter of developing more of a go-with-the-flow mindset and giving up the desire for you and your partner to be more alike. As long as you have love, your goals are more or less aligned, and you’re able to resolve disputes effectively and efficiently, you and your partner have more than a fighting chance.

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