When you meet someone, it’s hard not to ask the big question: Is she the one? That totally depends on how you feel about her—and we’re here to help you figure it out!
Give an honest answer to these 12 questions, and we’ll tally the numbers to tell you exactly how much you like her on a scale from 0-100 (and if you should make your move!).
Questions Overview
- I'm never not thinking about her. She's like a song I can't get out of my head.
- She pops into my head a lot, and I often wonder what she's up to...
- I think about her once or twice a day, when I catch a quiet moment.
- I'm usually too busy with other things to think about her much.
- I have everything planned out. I've even thought about our wedding.
- Sure, I've daydreamed about what we'd look like living and loving together.
- I've thought about asking her out, but haven't thought very far beyond that.
- I haven't really thought about a future together, no.
- Every time, and I'm always disappointed when it's someone else.
- I perk up, sure, but I try not to let it get to me.
- Sort of, but I don't really get my hopes up too much.
- Not really. I don't really expect her to hit me up at all, and I don't mind.
- Absolutely. I actually don't think I care what she looks like, as long as she's still herself.
- Probably! Her looks are just the cherry on top.
- I'd have to think about it, but I could definitely still be interested.
- Probably not.
- No way. I want all or nothing. I don’t think I could be around her and just be friends—it would break my heart.
- Maybe, but it'd be hard for me.
- We could be friends, but only if romance didn't work out.
- Sure. Actually, I might prefer just being friends. I’m not sure.
- Absolutely. As long as I'm with her, nothing else matters.
- Sure, but it'd be pretty hard for me. Hard, but worth it.
- Probably not, unless she was headed somewhere cool.
- Definitely not. I'm not that attached.
- Definitely not. I couldn’t think of anyone else that way right now.
- Probably not. I wouldn't give up my chances so easily.
- I'd consider it, but it'd really depend on who this new girl is.
- Sure, as long as I'm also interested in the new girl, I don't see why not.
- 100%, easiest decision of my life.
- I'd take my chance, but I'd definitely be nervous!
- I'd have to weigh my options and be totally sure I like her.
- I'd probably let the chance go. There are other fish in the sea, and that’s not a lot of time.
- I'd be a wreck. I don't know what I'd do with myself.
- I'd definitely be sad, and I'd be thinking of her often.
- I'd be bummed, but it's just one month...
- I probably wouldn't notice.
- Like everything is right with the world. Everything makes sense.
- I feel a little more alive whenever I see her. My senses sharpen and my heart quickens.
- I stand up straight and check my appearance. I want to make a good impression.
- I don't feel any different.
- Pretty much everyone knows how much I like her at this point. I can't contain it.
- My close friends all know, but I don't really talk about it to anyone else.
- Only 1 or 2 of my best friends know. It doesn't feel worth mentioning to other people.
- I haven't really felt like talking about her with anyone.
- We chat all through the day. We're never not talking.
- We have a couple convos each day, but I wish it were more.
- We check in with each other like once a day, maybe less. It's chill.
- We don't really message, or I haven't gotten her number yet!
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If you're already with her, then our sincerest congrats! You've landed the girl of your dreams, and you get to spend the rest of your life basking in that glow.
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But if you and her aren't already an item... What are you waiting for? Make your move! Ask her out<\/a>! Text her and say you want to meet for drinks or lunch, or invite her to the next time you're hanging with your friends. Of course, it's important to respect her boundaries and be considerate of her own wants. But if you've got the green light, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain!","edit_links":[{"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Show-a-Girl-You-Love-Her"},{"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Show-Love"}],"link_data":[{"title":"How to Show a Girl You Love Her","id":1004141,"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Show-a-Girl-You-Love-Her","image":"\/images\/thumb\/e\/ed\/Show-a-Girl-You-Love-Her-Step-14-Version-2.jpg\/-crop-200-200-200px-Show-a-Girl-You-Love-Her-Step-14-Version-2.jpg","alt":"How to Show a Girl You Love Her"},{"title":"How to Show Love","id":70031,"url":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/Show-Love","image":"\/images\/thumb\/e\/ef\/Show-Love-Step-18-Version-2.jpg\/-crop-200-200-200px-Show-Love-Step-18-Version-2.jpg","alt":"How to Show Love"}],"minimum":0,"image":"","image_url":""},{"number":3,"text":"You're 50% into her.","meaning":"She's caught your eye more than once, and she's crossed your mind now and then, but you're not super sure what this feeling is. Is it a crush? A casual curiosity? Will it pass? Do you want it to? Only you have the answer to that last one, but if you ask us, this is something worth exploring! We think you're pretty obviously interested, and if she's single and your type, what have you got to lose?
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Levels of Affection
You’ve probably heard lines about it in movies. The world seems brighter, everything feels right, you just know. All the old cliches. But what does being in love actually feel like? How will you know when you’ve met the one? And how can you tell a passing interest in someone apart from a crush, and how can you tell a crush apart from serious romance?
Glad you asked! Let’s look at some levels of affection, what they mean, and how they feel:
Interest
This is the most casual level. The other person is on your radar, and you start wondering how the two of you would get along, but you aren’t quite thinking about making any sort of move. They’re a stranger or an acquaintance, but they might be something more one day, whether that’s a friend or a romantic partner.
Liking
This is the level most friendships are at. You have some emotional investment, and you care about the other person’s well-being, but you don’t necessarily feel sexual attraction or passion. It can be a strong bond, and can even be platonic love, but it’s not like you’re planning on spending the rest of every waking moment with this person.
Infatuation
Infatuation
is interest or obsession, but without intimacy or investment. You can’t keep your mind off of someone, and you feel intense feelings for them, but you’re not super familiar with them, and you haven’t forged any real connection. It’s a natural phase of affection that many people go through many times.
Lust
Lust is sexual attraction without emotional investment. You like the other person for how they make you feel physically, but you’re probably not telling them your deepest secrets, or calling them when you’re in trouble. Again, it’s a totally natural aspect of attraction, but it isn’t quite love.
Crush
A crush is when the gears of romance start turning. You’re interested in someone physically and mentally, and want to get closer, but you haven’t made that first move yet. Crushes often mix together liking, infatuation, and lust, but there’s no real end result just yet. A crush is more an intention than a real love—you intend to tell them how you feel
and to be in love, but aren’t yet.
Romance
This is when the wheels start spinning. You’ve grown closer to each other, gotten to know each other, and want to know even more about each other. You’re attracted to each other physically and mentally, and are now actually invested in each other. You want the best for them, and they want the best for you. Usually, “the best” means building a life together.
Companionship This is perhaps the final stage, but that doesn’t mean the love stops! Companionship is the goal for many people, when you know somebody so well that it feels like you almost know them as well as you know yourself. You know all their flaws and ugly sides, and still want to wake up next to them every day. You’re in it for the long haul. Interestingly, companionship doesn’t have to be romantic—sometimes the best of friends turn into life companions!
Want to learn more?
For more information about forms and levels of affection, check out these helpful resources: