How to Stop Shouting at Your Parents

PDF download Download Article
PDF download Download Article

Anger is a funny thing. Often the people we lash out at are the people we care about the most. As painful as it is, sometimes we lose control and do things we don't want to do. This article will help you to stop shouting at your parents.

Steps

PDF download Download Article
  1. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/5\/5c\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-1-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-1-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/5\/5c\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-1-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-1-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    Write out reminders to stop shouting and to remain calm where you will see them often. This can be an affirmation to deal with conflict constructively.
    • Put a note on your bathroom mirror or locker.
    • Wear a special glove or bracelet to remind yourself.
    • Set an alarm on your phone or watch for every hour or at times of day that are stressful.  When your alarm goes off, remind yourself, "That was to remember to stop yelling. I'm not going to yell."
    • Remind yourself verbally. Tell yourself that you respond to conflict calmly and with courtesy. Always use positive self-talk to boost the behavior you wish to use instead.
  2. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/3\/3f\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-2-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-2-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/3\/3f\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-2-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-2-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    If you have someone you can trust, tell them about your goal. Be aware that telling someone won't work for everyone. For some people, the objective works best if it is a secret.
    • Don't tell someone if you think they will respond negatively.
    • Pick the one person you know will understand and encourage you.
    Advertisement
  3. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/f\/f4\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-3-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-3-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/f\/f4\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-3-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-3-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    If you feel a fight coming on, immediately leave the situation. This will give you the necessary space to calm down, cool off and think clearly about how to approach the matter in a calmer way, later.
    • If you can, tell the person you were going to fight with what is going on. Tell them that you need some time to yourself to calm down.
    • If the fight is too far along to explain yourself, just leave. You can apologize later.
    • Go somewhere safe.
    • Calm down.
  4. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/d\/de\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-4-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-4-Version-2.jpg.png","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/d\/de\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-4-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-4-Version-2.jpg.png","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    Be responsible for your own words and actions. Apologizing is actually a really good learning tool, as you don't forget how it felt.
    • Apologize only when the other person has calmed down.
    • Be brief and sincere.
    • If they accept your apology, say thank you and move on to another topic.
    • If they reject you, leave again.  Apologize once more, at another time, but don't pester them with apologies. (No one likes to hear "I'm sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry...")
  5. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/6a\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-5-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-5-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/6\/6a\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-5-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-5-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    • Tell yourself, "It's happening again. I have to go."
    • Leave.
    • Don't go back until you are calm and so are they.
    • Don't worry that by backing down you have let them win.  The winner is the one who leaves and recognizes that fighting is worthless.
  6. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/9\/9f\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-6-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-6-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/9\/9f\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-6-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-6-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    • Write down every fight, big or small.
    • Why did you get angry?
    • Why do you think they got angry?
    • What could you have done differently?
    • What could they have done differently?
    • How long did the fight last?
    • What did you fight about?
    • How important was (is) the fight to you?
    • Do you think you will continue this fight in the future?
  7. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/9\/94\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-7-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-7-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/9\/94\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-7-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-7-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    If your parents are yelling at you, don't yell back. Stay calm and lead by calm example.
    • Wait until they are done talking (unless you are getting too angry; then leave immediately).
    • Tell them calmly and softly that you don't like it when they yell at you.
    • Tell them that since you are making an effort to change your ways, you expect them to do likewise.
    • If all else fails, say, "You're upset right now. There's nothing I can do to change that. I'm going to go somewhere else.  Come find me when you are calm." Then go away.
    • Don't look back.
  8. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/e\/e1\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-8-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-8-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/e\/e1\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-8-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-8-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
    If your anger issues become too much of a problem, it may be time to seek professional help.
  9. {"smallUrl":"https:\/\/www.wikihow.com\/images\/thumb\/6\/6e\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-9-Version-2.jpg\/v4-460px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-9-Version-2.jpg","bigUrl":"\/images\/thumb\/6\/6e\/Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-9-Version-2.jpg\/aid5811953-v4-728px-Stop-Shouting-at-Your-Parents-Step-9-Version-2.jpg","smallWidth":460,"smallHeight":345,"bigWidth":728,"bigHeight":546,"licensing":"<div class=\"mw-parser-output\"><p>\u00a9 2024 wikiHow, Inc. All rights reserved. wikiHow, Inc. is the copyright holder of this image under U.S. and international copyright laws. This image is <b>not<\/b> licensed under the Creative Commons license applied to text content and some other images posted to the wikiHow website. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc.<br>\n<\/p><p><br \/>\n<\/p><\/div>"}
     Everyone has something they struggle with. Tell yourself, "That was wrong. I'm going to try to fix it. And I won't do it again." Recognize that you are doing your best.
    10. Advertisement

Expert Q&A

Ask a Question
200 characters left
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Submit
      Advertisement

      Tips

      Submit a Tip
      All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published
      Submit
      Thanks for submitting a tip for review!
      Advertisement

      Warnings

      • Do not hurt yourself or attempt suicide. If you have a desire to do so, report this immediately to someone who will help you get prompt medical assistance.
        Thanks
      Advertisement

      You Might Also Like

      How to
      Deal With Catching Your Parents Having Sex
      How to Deal with Emotionally Abusive Parents & When to Cut Ties
      How to
      Deal With a Terrible Dad
      How to
      Get Your Phone Back when Your Parents Take it Away
      How to
      Deal With Your Parents Fighting
      How to
      Get Your Mom to Forgive You After You Do Something Stupid
      How to
      Stop Being Rude to Your Parents
      How to
      Deal With Your Mom When You Are Mad
      How to
      Deal With Your Parents Shouting at You
      How to Deal With Parents Who Don't Understand You
      How to
      Stay Calm when Your Parents Are Scolding You Badly
      How to
      Tell if Your Parents Are Abusive
      How to Deal With Your Mom After a Fight: Expert Advice
      How to
      Deal With Your Parents' Divorce
      Advertisement

      About This Article

      Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 33,474 times.

      Reader Success Stories

      • I I

        Oct 7, 2020

        "I have really started yelling at my parents ever since I entered teenage years. This article has helped me a lot."
      Share your story

      Did this article help you?

      Advertisement