A Guide to Playfully Flirting with a Girl over Text Message

Make her laugh and create some sexual tension with these funny and flirtatious texts

Co-authored by Jason Polk, LCSW, LAC and Dev Murphy, MA

Last Updated: August 30, 2023 Fact Checked

Whether you’re chatting with your girlfriend or a girl you’re crushing on, teasing is a great way to make her laugh and strengthen the bond you share. There are lots of different methods to choose from when teasing a girl over text, from poking playful fun at her taste, mocking her, or giving her a cute nickname. Keep reading to learn about the many ways of successfully teasing a girl over text, as well as the purpose of teasing and advice about how to tease appropriately.

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Give her a nickname that pokes friendly fun at her interests or personality. It’ll show her you’re comfortable around her and that you see her.
Tease her about her taste or other aspects of her personality. This could lead to a friendly debate between the two of you that’ll increase intimacy.
Joke about the two of you dating to hint that you’re interested in taking your relationship to the next level.
Stay attuned to signs she’s not comfortable with your teasing, and be sure to avoid subjects you know will cross the line. If she seems unhappy, back off.

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Give her a fun nickname.

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Nicknames are a great way to enhance the intimacy between you both. Giving her a nickname can make her feel seen and appreciated, especially if it’s unique. Come up with a nickname that pokes playful fun at her personality or interests, or one that references an inside joke you both share, but avoid teasing her about subject matter you know she might be sensitive about. Nicknames may seem like superficial fun on the surface, but they indicate that you’re paying attention to her, you feel comfortable around her, and you value your relationship. ^{[1]
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- Think of a nickname that playfully mocks something about her—for instance, if she’s a big reader, you can make fun of her reading habits by calling her Little Miss Word Nerd .
- Come up with a nickname that puns on her actual name: for instance, if her name is Catherine, try Kitty Cat .
- Rhyming nicknames are always popular, like Sexy Lexy or Hannah Banana .
- If you’re not dating and you want to be, give her a nickname that’s “sarcastically” romantic, like Boo or Babe , “as a joke.” Eventually, play romance may turn into actual romance.

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Joke about her flaws or embarrassing habits.

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Making playful fun of her hobbies shows you accept her for who she is. Does she have a habit of eating her sandwiches without the crust? Maybe she has a lucky T-shirt she refuses to chuck, even though it’s faded and riddled with holes. Maybe clumsiness is her defining trait. Making fun of the embarrassing or silly aspects of her personality is a way to show you’re paying attention to her enough to see her flaws—and you like her anyway. ^{[2]
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- “You’re such a klutz, Margaret! This is why we can’t have nice things!”
- “Wah, little baby can’t handle sandwiches with crust on! Lmao!”
- “When did you get that T-shirt again, Sasha? Circa 200 B.C.?”

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Mimic her.

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Poke friendly fun at her by imitating what she says or does. Mimicking her isn’t just a way to provoke her and get her playfully riled up, it’s also a way to show you’re paying attention to her and may subconsciously make her feel more drawn to you! ^{[3]
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Research source} In person, you can suggest you’re mimicking her by changing your voice; in text, however, you can suggest you’re mimicking her by putting what you say in quotation marks or even going over the top and making it obvious you’re making fun.
- For instance, if she says, “Ugh, I don’t want to go to work tomorrow,” reply with, “My name is Kallie and I’m too lazy to work tomorrow!”
- If you notice she uses a particular word or phrase a lot—such as “no bones about it” or “copacetic” —use it in a sentence back to her so she knows you’re making fun of her language habits (and that you’re paying attention to them).
- Tack a laughing or winking emoji onto the end of your text so she knows you’re messing with her.
- It can be difficult to tell what someone is feeling over text, but if she stops responding, responds with a question mark, or suddenly says goodbye, consider these signs she didn’t appreciate your text. Apologize or change topics.