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You’ve halted all contact with a guy after a breakup, but now you’re left wondering…what’s he thinking? For most guys, a “no contact” period will make them realize how much they care about you or make them jealous, confused, or remorseful. It’s a time full of emotions, and we’ve put together a thorough list of what he might feel while you’re giving him the silent treatment. Read on to see how the male mind reacts during “no contact.”

This article is based on an interview with our licensed clinical psychologist and relationship coach, Sarah Schewitz, founder of Couples Learn. Check out the full interview here.

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He’ll start to get curious about you.

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  1. It’s common for most men to expect (or hope) that their ex will be the one to break the ice, and he’ll worry when you haven’t called or texted in a week. He’ll be obsessed with trying to figure out what you’re thinking. [2]
    • When he can’t find out what you’re up to, he’ll start making his own stories—maybe that you’re seeing someone, or you’ve given up on him.
    • The less he knows about you during this time, the more he’ll think about you during “no contact.”
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He could feel angry or upset.

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  1. It’s normally short-lived and comes from his ego being bruised, but it’s still unpleasant. He might think you’re being rude or fake, and may even try to confront you about it or get a rebound girlfriend in response. [7]
    • Anger usually gives way to remorse after a few days or weeks and is a normal response to breakups or the silent treatment.
    • In some cases, a burst of anger could lead to him trying to beg or persuade you to come back. [8]
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He’ll show signs that “no contact” is working.

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  1. The biggest and most obvious sign that your silent treatment is working is that he’ll try to contact you. It could be a simple “Hey” text, or he might even flatout ask to get back together. Other signs your ex misses you during “no contact” could be: [11]
    • He asks mutual friends about you (or they tell you that he misses you).
    • He’s super active on your social media and follows you closely.
    • He’s way more responsive to your messages (if you’re in contact).
    • He makes sudden changes or improvements to his appearance.
    • He makes sudden lifestyle changes, like hitting the gym a lot more.
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He’ll finally reach acceptance.

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  1. In this final stage of “no contact,” he’ll stop reaching out as frequently (or at all), his social media activity will die down, and he’ll stop trying to “accidentally” bump into you. There’s no more ambiguity in the relationship—you’re exes. [15]
    • This period can be very sad for both exes. He’ll feel down if he wanted you back, and you might feel sad that he’s officially not a part of your life anymore.
    • If you were hoping to get back together with him, it’ll be up to you to reach out after the “no contact” phase .
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