When you're in love with someone, it's normal to want everyone around you to love that person, too—especially the people closest to you. Unfortunately, if it turns out that your parents don't like your partner, it can leave you feeling frustrated and like you're stuck in the middle. Dealing with the situation won't necessarily be easy, but if you can keep a clear head and talk openly with everyone involved, it will be easier to figure out the right thing to do.
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QuestionWhat if my mom hate my boyfriend?Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.If your parents say that they'll never accept your partner, let them know that you're sad they feel that way. Express that you still love them and you hope they'll change their minds, then end the conversation. As hard as it is, try to remember that your parents probably just want what's best for you. However, that doesn't mean that you have to live your life according to their beliefs.
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QuestionWhat if my parents say they won't accept my boyfriend?Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.Tell them that you know that they disapprove because they care and they want you to protect you. Ask them to trust you, and tell them that you'll keep their warning in mind. Don't debate them or end the relationship—show them that you're calm and rational, and chances are they'll come around.
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