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When a guy ignores your texts, a million thoughts can flood your head. He could be busy, he could be trying to stay off his phone, or he might have a problem with you. Trying to figure out why he’s ignoring you could feel impossible, but there are a few reasons as to why. We spoke to Licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Sarah Schewitz and Dating Coach Lisa Shield to get expert advice when it comes to being ghosted. In the article, we break down reasons why he’s ignoring you, how to respond when he ignores you, and knowing when to move on.
Why is he ignoring your texts?
There are many reasons why a guy may be ignoring your texts. He could be busy or he may not have seen your message. He could also be the type of guy that prefers face-to-face communication over texting. Or, he just may not be into you. Reach out and ask him if there’s anything going on. If he doesn’t respond, move on.
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Reasons Why He’s Ignoring Your Texts
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He’s busy. We all have personal lives, and his may be keeping him away from his phone at the moment. If he’s not responding during the day, he could be busy at work and not have time to respond. If you’re nervous or unsure, send a kind text.
- Text him saying “Hey! I hope you’re having a good shift today :)” to let him know that you’re thinking about him.
- If it’s been 24 hours and he hasn’t responded, he may be ignoring you for another reason.
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He’s taking a break from his phone. Everyone spends time on their phones, but he may have put his down for the sake of his mental health. Too much screen time can worsen your mental health by increasing feelings of depression and anxiety, and he may be trying to avoid this. If he suddenly goes ghost over text but continues to talk to you in person, he might just be taking a break from his phone. [1] X Research source
- If you’re unsure, ask him about it.
- Check to see if he’s active on social media while you wait for a response. If he’s not, chances are he may be taking a break from his phone.
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He doesn’t like to text. Everyone has different preferences when it comes to communicating with others. If he’s eager to talk in person and you guys have fun, in-depth conversations that just don’t translate well over text, he might not like to text. [2] X Trustworthy Source Simply Psychology Popular site for evidence-based psychology information Go to source
- If you’re worried about him not texting you back even though you guys are fine in person, ask him whether he likes to text or not to avoid unnecessary hardship.
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He needs space. If he’s usually good at texting but suddenly slows down, he might just need some space. Reflect on the time you guys have spent together. If you’ve been seeing each other everyday and he’s started to become cranky, then he stops texting as fast, he might just need space. Remember, we all have personal lives.
- Everyone is different. Your partner may only need a day to themselves, or they may need a week. If you suspect that he needs space, talk to him and ask. [3] X Research source
- If he always wants to be away from you or always needs space, that may be a sign that he’s not into you.
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He’s unsure of his feelings towards you. If you guys just started talking and he’s not responding as frequently as he used to, he may be trying to figure out how he feels about you. Inconsistency is a big sign that a guy is still figuring out his feelings about you, and if that’s the case, you might want to see what’s making him unsure. [4] X Research source
- If you don’t want to be with someone who’s unsure, don’t be afraid to cut things off, especially if you feel like the relationship has run its course.
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He’s afraid of commitment. If you guys go on dates and spend a lot of time together but don’t talk about the future of your relationship, he may be afraid of commitment. Fear of commitment can lead to anxiety, especially when it comes to texting. If he’s afraid to commit to you, he may not be as eager to text back. [5] X Research source
- If he doesn’t want to commit to you, don’t wait for him to change his mind. He has to deal with his commitment issues before being able to be a good, healthy partner.
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He’s just not into you. If he always takes a long time to respond to texts, only sends short responses, and doesn’t talk to you in person, he may not be into you. If you’re always texting first and he never reaches out, that’s another sign he may not be into you. [6] X Research source
- Don’t try to force him to like you. If he’s not into you, he’s not worth your time. Instead, focus on loving yourself and you’ll find someone that likes you for you.
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References
- ↑ https://summer.harvard.edu/blog/need-a-break-from-social-media-heres-why-you-should-and-how-to-do-it/
- ↑ https://www.simplypsychology.org/bad-texter-or-just-not-interested.html
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/how-to-give-space-in-relationship/#Spacing_out_the_right_way
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-is-confused-about-his-feelings-for-you/#20_ways_to_tell_if_a_guy_is_confused_about_his_feelings_for_you
- ↑ https://www.thecouplescenter.org/commitment-issues-in-a-relationship-signs-and-how-to-overcome/
- ↑ https://www.eharmony.co.uk/dating-advice/attraction/he-is-not-into-you/
- ↑ https://lifehacker.com/when-it-is-and-isn-t-ok-to-double-text-someone-you-1850012867
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-therapists-education/202203/how-to-have-healthy-fights-with-your-partner
- ↑ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5704672/
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