Why Does Your Girlfriend Call You Daddy? (Plus, How to Respond)

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If your girlfriend has a habit of calling you “daddy,” you might be a little thrown off or confused. We’ve got good news for you, though. You can rest easy tonight—this is a very common pet name, and it’s a sign that she’s really into you ! Even if it seems a little odd right now, hopefully it will make sense soon. Read on to learn more about why she does this, and why it isn’t anything to worry about.

Why Your Girlfriend Calls You “Daddy”

“Daddy” is a term of endearment that signifies care, love, and protection. If your girlfriend calls you “daddy,” it means she likes you and feels comfortable around you. Alternatively, she might call you “daddy” because it turns her on and she wants you to take charge in the bedroom.

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Why does my girlfriend call me daddy?

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    Generally speaking, dads tend to be caring, loving, and protective . Calling you “daddy” implies that you’re all of these things for her! It’s a good thing, and she’s doing this because she’s comfortable around you , so don’t assume there’s something problematic going on here. She’s not literally saying you’re her father! [1]
    • While “daddy” often means “father,” people also use it casually as a synonym for “boss,” “protector,” or “provider.” She is 100% using “daddy” to mean the latter here.
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    She likes how strong and authoritative you are. Regardless of whether it’s true or not, dads have a stereotype for being the “stronger” parent in a hetero-normative relationship. Dads are also known for being “tougher” on children than mothers are. She may be calling you daddy to signal that she thinks you’re the dominant person in the relationship, which probably appeals to her. [2]
    • Some people like being the “follower” in a relationship. They like the comfort and security of feeling like someone else is taking the lead. Even if it doesn’t really make sense to you, it makes sense to her!
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    It might turn her on . If she says this when the two of you are getting intimate, it's probably a turn-on for her. A lot of people like it when their partner is in charge in bed. If she likes it when you take the lead, she might like being more submissive when you're hooking up. [3]
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Is calling me daddy a red flag?

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    "Daddy" is becoming more and more common of a pet name, and it's not unusual for women to use it to refer to their partners. There’s a cliché out there that women who call their partner “daddy” have daddy issues, but that’s really not necessarily the case. A lot of women just like it as a pet name! [4]
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    A lot of people feel like a hero when they “protect” their girlfriend, and one of a dad’s main responsibilities is to protect their children. If your girlfriend calls you daddy, she’s signaling that you’re keeping her safe and happy . From that perspective, the fact that she’s trying to make you feel good about protecting her is a sign that she really cares about you. [5]
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    Professional therapists, counselors, and psychologists all generally agree that pet names are a sign of a healthy, functional relationship. [6] While your girlfriend’s choice in the pet name department may strike you as odd, it’s a good sign that she’s using them at all. [7]
    • If everything else is going well in the relationship, you have nothing to worry about here. It’s just one of her little quirks!
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    "Babe" and "baby" are popular pet names for couples, and they can be used to lean into the dominant/submissive aspect of a relationship if you're into it (even if you're not, they're still a safe bet!). You could also go with something like “cutie” or “sweetie” if you prefer. [8]
    • Your best bet is always to ask your girlfriend what pet names she likes. She might like "babe" or "baby," or she might prefer something else. Find out what she likes!
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    If you don’t like it when she calls you daddy, feel free to tell her. It’s very unlikely that she’ll have a problem picking a new nickname for you, and she'll probably understand where you’re coming from if you approach the conversation politely. [9]
    • You might just say, “Hey, I love that you’re so affectionate with me, but I’m not the biggest fan of you calling me daddy. I know you mean well, and it’s sweet, but it’s not for me. Any way you could find a new pet name for me?”
    • Always use "I" language when addressing a conflict with your partner. That helps prevent them from feeling defensive. [10]
    • If she’s doing it ironically because it makes you uncomfortable and this is a kind of running joke between you two, you can fight fire with fire by calling her “daughter” or “son.” That might be good for a laugh and get her to cut it out.
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    Should you break up with a guy who doesn't like being called Daddy? Seems like he's limiting affection.
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    No! He might just be uncomfortable with being called daddy, but if he's a good partner, you shouldn't break up with him just for that. Try giving him another pet name or create one that he's comfortable with.
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      1. ↑ https://www.instyle.com/reviews-coverage/why-your-friends-are-calling-hot-guys-daddy
      2. ↑ https://dc101.iheart.com/content/2018-01-12-women-are-really-getting-into-the-daddy-fetish/
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      4. ↑ https://www.instyle.com/reviews-coverage/why-your-friends-are-calling-hot-guys-daddy
      5. ↑ https://hernorm.com/boyfriend-wants-me-to-call-him-daddy/
      6. ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5926812/
      7. ↑ https://newrepublic.com/article/117881/why-do-people-call-significant-others-baby
      8. ↑ https://newrepublic.com/article/117881/why-do-people-call-significant-others-baby
      9. ↑ https://www.instyle.com/reviews-coverage/why-your-friends-are-calling-hot-guys-daddy
      1. ↑ Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 27 October 2021.

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