Think about how you feel when you talk to your parent, and ask yourself what kind of boundaries need to be in place for your wellbeing. “It makes me feel embarrassed and bad about myself when she mocks me like that.” “He keeps yelling at me and threatening me, and I shouldn’t have to deal with that when I’m around him.” Tell what the hurtful behavior is and why you need them to stop it. “It’s not okay for you to give me the silent treatment like this. It’s not resolving anything, and it’s just making us more upset with each other.” “When you criticize my choices like this, it’s really hurtful.” Set consequences if the behavior continues. “If you keep yelling at me when we spend time together, I don’t think I can have a relationship with you anymore.” “The threats need to stop. I’m not going to have this conversation with you if this keeps happening.”