“Is it OK if we talk about some of the arrangements in a couple days? I can talk to a lawyer who can help us figure it out.” “I think it’s best to hold off on those kind of negotiations until we have a lawyer to help us out.” “Thanks for waiting to meet today until we got professional help. I wanted to talk about how we’re going to divide up the house and our things. Is that OK?” “My lawyer and I think that joint custody would be the best solution for the both us and the kids. What do you think?” “I’ve been thinking about where the dogs should go, too. What are your thoughts on that?” “I know you wanted to keep the dog with you, but my job is more flexible, so I’ll have more time to walk him. Would you consider that solution instead?” “My lawyer and I think that the kids are old enough to have a say in custody arrangements. Would that be OK with you?” “I know the hardest part about this is deciding about the house. I think it’s best if we both explain our opinions without interruption, then try to talk about them as civilly as we can to find the best solution.”