Be clear about your expectations and rules. “I want you to be home on weeknights by 9 pm. On the weekends, you can stay out until 10.” “You need to finish your homework every night before you watch any TV.” Give explanations for the rules you set. “You can spend a ton of time on your phone without realizing it. I do the same thing. So limiting the amount of time you can have it on will help you be more productive. “I know it’s annoying, but you know how important it is to keep your grades up. If you want, we can record the shows you miss when you’re doing your homework.” Ask for their input or feedback. “What do you think about that? Having a rule like this is really important to me, but I want it to work for you too.” “I want us to agree on these and I think you should be able to have a say in your own rules.” Agree on pre-set consequences. “If you make your curfew every night for the first two weeks, we can relax it a little on the weekends, OK? But if you start missing it, I’m going to shorten it by 15 minute intervals.” “If you don’t take good care of your car, we’re going to start putting a limit on how much you can drive it. You need to take care of the things you own.” Agree to check back in and see how the rules are working. “I want us to try this out. We can talk about it again after a few weeks and see how it’s working.”