Body language Flirty nonverbal communication can range from subtle to very obvious. Someone is most likely flirting with you if they’re: Making deliberate eye contact (or batting their eyelashes) Glancing down at your lips Lightly brushing your hand or arm Putting their arm around you Leaning inward toward you Playfully nudging your elbow (or knee if seated) Touching their face Preening (e.g., running their fingers through their hair, minimal clothing adjustments) Sitting or standing with open posture (no crossed arms) Mirroring your body language Slight parting of the lips and/or puckering Tone of voice The way a person speaks may be a sign of flirting. People who are flirting often use: Playful and animated speech A slightly lower speaking voice than usual Type of speech Listen to what the person is saying and how they’re guiding the conversation. Someone might be flirting with you if they: Give you lots of compliments Exhibit moderate amounts of laughter (more than in normal conversation) Mention that they are romantically available Share personal information Point out their own weaknesses (and then compliment you on your strengths) Bring up the topic of sex (or make innuendos) Playfully tease you Ask you more personal, in-depth questions Context Before you assume someone is flirting, consider the location. People are more likely to flirt at: Bars Restaurants Parties (particularly singles mixers) Dances Concerts Coffee shops Gyms