Just be yourself Talking about shared interests will help you stay relaxed and confident. Keep the conversation going by asking questions, which will show that you are interested and eager to learn more about them. “I also love jazz! What are some of your favorite bands?” “I love that you’re so passionate about writing, I dabble in poetry myself. Can I read some of your writing sometime? I’ll trade ya!” Give compliments Paying your crush a compliment will show them that you notice and appreciate their best qualities. “You did a great job with your presentation today, you’re so charismatic on stage!” “You light up the room with your smile, it’s so nice.” Use body language Physical queues can speak volumes and communicate that you are interested in a person. Examples: Eye contact A slight, natural smile Glancing down at their lips every so often Light touches on the arm Open body language Soft, playful nudges Tell them in person Be direct or leave little hints that you’re interested in a future relationship. Give them time to react and avoid putting pressure on them to respond right away. “I like you a lot and look forward to getting to know you better.” “I really like you—nobody makes me laugh like you do.” Write a letter Speaking in person is best, but if you feel too nervous to tell your crush face-to-face, giving them a handwritten letter or sending an online message is a good way to express your feelings. Keep it light and brief. “I’m glad we’ve become closer friends and I want you to know that I have feelings for you…” Respond appropriately Your crush will either say they like you too or just want to stay friends. In any case, react in an appropriate, understanding way. If they like you back: “I’m so happy to hear you feel the same way! I’m excited to take you out on a proper date.” If they don’t like you back: “I understand and appreciate your honesty. I just wanted to let you know and I still value having you as a friend.”