Pitfall Avoid saying things like... Or... Talking badly about anyone he’s going out with. “She’s pretty spoiled, right? I mean, you’re going out with her, you would know. She just gets everything she wants.” “He’s just so awkward. It’s so hard to start conversations with him.” Criticizing his personality. “Why do you freak out about stuff like that? You’re really dramatic sometimes. Just relax.” “You can get super annoying about this kind of thing.” Pushing him to talk about serious things. “You must be freaking out about your parents splitting up, right? Are you OK? Do you wanna talk about it?” “I heard your dog just died. How old was he? Are you OK? You can talk to me about it, you know.” Holding a grudge. “Well, if you want me to be on time, maybe you shouldn’t have been so late to my party the other week.” “You never returned that pen I lent you last month, remember? So why would I let you borrow that video game?” Moving the friendship along too quickly. “Why would you hang out with him, though? You don’t need to now that we’re friends. Let’s just do something on our own.” “We just met last week but it’s like you’re my best friend already.”