Accept it and move on Unfortunately you can’t control anyone’s feelings, so try not to take it personally and move on. * If your friend explains that your crush likes them back, let it go * Letting go may be hard at first, but you’ll feel better over time Be honest with both your crush and your friend Letting your crush and your friend know how you feel will make you feel better than trying to push the whole situation away. Examples: Speaking to your crush “This is really awkward and it makes me sad but I guess there’s nothing I can do—if you like each other I just have to accept it.” “I really liked you but I can’t help who you like back so, while I’m kind of upset, I guess I understand.” Speaking to your friend “I feel hurt and betrayed that you took them from behind my back. I need some time away to get over this.” “You really hurt me but I can’t change who you like and who likes you… so I have to move on. I hope you understand that I need some time away for now.” Take care of yourself If you’re feeling hurt and angry, do what you can to boost your mood and self esteem. * Distance yourself from your friend and your crush * Take a day for rest and relaxation (e.g., a spa day at home, leisurely walks, gardening, cooking your favorite meal) * Partake in your favorite hobbies (or start a new one) Hang out with other people Isolating yourself when you are upset may only make you feel worse, so hang out with other people or make an effort to find new friends. * Join a dinner or movie meetup group * Join a book club * Spend time in public places where you might meet friends or a new love interest (the park, coffeeshops, libraries or bookstores, gyms, music venues)