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16 Ways to Make Him Fall in Love with You (According to Experts)

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Show him what a perfect match you are with these simple tips

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While you can’t control how a man feels about you, there are some things you can do to get his attention and show him that you’re a catch. By being an authentic, positive, and attractive person in a man’s life, you might be able to encourage him to fall in love with you. If you’ve got your eye on a certain special someone, keep reading to learn how to win his heart, with expert tips and tricks from dating and relationship coach Mark Rosenfeld.

How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You

Attract him by taking care of your health and appearance. Smile and make eye contact to lure him in, and entice him with good conversation once you have him. Show him you're genuine, kind, and independent. Ask him questions, support his interests, and be a positive force in his life. Once in a while, let him miss you.

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Put effort into your appearance and health.

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Show your man that you value your looks and good health. You will also feel more confident about yourself if you feel healthy and strong, and confidence is always attractive. Stay active by going to the gym regularly. Don't skip your workout to spend time with him. Invite him to join you or take a rain check. Other things to keep in mind: ^{[1]
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- Keep your hair clean and styled neatly, and pay close attention to your personal hygiene.
- Put on a little signature scent in the morning or before you go out, or wear scented body lotion for a subtler scent.
- If you wear makeup, aim for a look that's flattering but simple; don't try to overdo this aspect.
- Studies suggest that people find soft and pleasant textures pleasing and soothing. Try wearing clothing made from microfiber, silk, faux fur, or other soft textures that he'll want to touch.
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Smile at him often.

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Your smile is always available, completely free, and can't be overused. Flash a genuine grin as often as possible, whether it's directed at your guy or not. It makes you look approachable, and it might actually make you happier. ^{[2]
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- Find something to smile about. If you're a bit blue, think of a happy moment or amusing joke to spark a smile. Do you have a favorite pet? A favorite memory? Whatever it is, think of it as often as you need to.
- Try a slow smile. If you've made eye contact with the man you love, smile at him slowly, letting it spread over your face. If you tend to blush and look down when he's looking at you, let it happen after the smile — you'll be irresistible.

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Make frequent eye contact.

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Eye contact is a crucial component of flirting. Gaze into his eyes when he is talking to you and don’t be afraid to lock eyes with him even if you are both silent. Rosenfeld says, “When it comes to eye contact, you've got to hold it a lot more than you think you do. Hold it for three to four seconds, and once you can do that, add a smile as well.” He says this will give the main object of your heart’s desire the “green light.” ^{[3]
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- If you are too nervous to gaze into his eyes or you don't think it is appropriate yet, use quick glances to make frequent eye contact with him.
- By looking at him for a moment and then looking away, you can show him that you are interested and see if he is interested too.

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Emphasize your similarities.

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Create a sense of connection through shared interests and hobbies. If you have things in common with him, emphasize those things in your conversations. For example, if you both love a certain type of music or band, talk to him about it. Just make sure that you do not overemphasize or lie about things you have in common. Doing so may cause him to see you as desperate or dishonest. ^{[4]
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- You want to be your most authentic self. If you pretend to be someone you’re not, he won’t be able to fall in love with the real you, which is the ultimate goal.

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Demonstrate your independence.

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Showing him that you have a great life and that you don’t need someone else to be happy will intrigue him. According to Rosenfeld, “setting boundaries” and “being independent” are both really important when establishing a relationship with a man: “Men want to be able to respect the woman that they're with” and notes that “a woman who takes responsibility for their problems and takes action is very attractive.” ^{[5]
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Be kind and considerate.

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Being rude is a quick way to make him lose interest in you. Be polite and kind to him and show that you are also kind to others. Demonstrating your kind personality will increase his affection for you. Rosenfeld notes how much having a “positive attitude” factors into attraction for men. ^{[6]
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- “The energy you bring is very important. Men, especially, are attracted to energy. And if you bring a happy, grateful, enthusiastic energy to his life— he’s going to love that. That's big,” Rosenfeld remarks. ^{[7]
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Show him what makes you special.

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It will intrigue him and make him want to get to know you even better. For example, if you are skilled at playing an instrument, look for an opportunity to play in front of him. Or, if you are an excellent baker, whip up some cookies and share some with him. ^{[8]
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Be a positive force in his life.

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Most people are drawn to someone who looks on the bright side of things. Instead of focusing on what's wrong with your life or talking about the people who annoy you, try to emphasize what's right. Moreover, be pleasant in all that you say toward him and avoid gossiping. Be a positive person in his presence and aim to be positive in general. ^{[9]
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- This isn't to say that you can never complain around him. Everyone complains. But it can be exhausting to listen to someone gripe constantly. Try to keep a rein on it so that he feels warm and fuzzy about his time with you, not tired and down.

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Make him feel needed.

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Asking him for a small favor can increase his feelings for you. Asking him to help you with something or even just asking for his advice can make him feel needed and important. For example, you might ask him to help you move some furniture in your bedroom or ask him to help you make a decision about your car insurance.
- Rosenfeld says, “We all want to be seen for our best selves… if you're appreciating them, then they’ll never feel taken for granted, which is a big attraction switch for both genders.” ^{[10]
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Act cool and casual.

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Keep the vibes light and easy. Remember: you can't actually make him fall in love with you. He's free to choose what he wants. Beyond that, though, people can't always control who they love. If it's simply not there on his end, resist the temptation to punish him for it. Accept that if the relationship is meant to be, it will happen; if not, then you're meant for something better. ^{[11]
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- Avoid using the "girlfriend" term until he has said it first. If you say it too prematurely, he may run and never look back. Even more importantly, avoid all talk of marriage and babies––that will definitely scare him away.

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Pay him genuine compliments.

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Tell him specific reasons why you think he's special. It’s clear that you already think highly of him, which is why you’re romantically interested in him, but let him know what it is that you truly admire about him . Maybe it’s his work ethic or impeccable sense of style. Perhaps you find his love of animals really endearing, or his sweet relationship with his mom. ^{[12]
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- While it’s totally fine to let him know how attractive you find him, complimenting who he is as a person will not only show him that you’re paying attention, but that you’re putting thought into what you say… which can be very attractive.

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Make him his favorite meals.

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They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach! Research shows that being offered a home-cooked meal taps into our earliest and most tender memories of being fed by our mothers who loved us so. It also serves to help regulate emotions for both the cook and the eater. Ask him what his favorite meals are and plan to make them for him ahead of time. ^{[13]
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- Consider saving his favorite meals for special occasions, or just surprise him with steak frites any day of the week!

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Be supportive of his interests.

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If your man is in a band, go listen to him play. If he plays kickball in a community league, go cheer him on. If he volunteers at a soup kitchen once a week, join him. Expressing interest in his interests can go a long way in fortifying your connection, potentially leading him to take you more seriously. ^{[14]
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- However, it’s important to have your own set of interests, friends, and boundaries. You don’t want to devote all your time and energy to him, especially very early on, so striking a balance is key.

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Show him you appreciate him.

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Learn his love language to show that you consider and appreciate him. If his love language is physical touch , hold his hand and hug him close, especially if he’s feeling down. If his love language is acts of service, hem his favorite fraying shirt or learn how he takes his coffee in the morning,g and have a mug ready for him. He’ll feel extra special, all thanks to you. ^{[15]
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Go deep during your conversations.

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Asking questions is the best way to deepen your connection. Maybe this lucky man in your life started out as a new friend whom you don’t know that much about, or maybe you’ve known him since kindergarten. No matter the case, try asking him some of the following questions in order to truly get to know him— his answers could surprise you: ^{[16]
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- Who's your favorite person in your life?
- Do you envision yourself having kids?
- What song could you listen to on repeat forever?
- When do you feel most fulfilled?

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Let him miss you.

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Give him some space sometimes. While the honeymoon phase can often mean hanging out constantly, challenge yourself to detach a little bit. Let him hang out with his friends, and once in a while, say that you can't come if he invites you along. It’s not necessarily about playing hard to get or being dishonest; it’s about reminding him that you have your own life.
- Rosenfeld says, “The real way to make someone miss you is to trust the energy that you share during your interactions when you are together.” That’s what makes you “attractive” to them.” ^{[17]
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Show him that you're kind and considerate to everyone. You can't truly make someone fall in love with you, but you can show him that you're a kind and thoughtful person, a great listener, that you ask good questions.

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The guy I like is my flatmate and he is older than me. What should I do?

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Consider all the possible outcomes of dating your flatmate. If your dating relationship doesn’t work out, do you think you both could still continue being flatmates? Would living together be too much of a strain on a new dating relationship? If the age difference has you worried, consider how much age will truly impact your dating. Also consider how compatible you are together, your temperament, values, interests, and priorities. If these all seem to be a close match, then age shouldn’t matter so much.

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I think the guy who I like, likes me back! How do I know for sure?

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The only way to know for sure it to talk with him about it. No need to spend time and energy trying to guess at what he means when he says something ambiguous. Find a good time to chat with him, tell him how you’ve been feeling, and ask him if he feels the same way. For example, “I have really enjoyed getting to know you over the past few months, and I am interested in pursuing a dating relationship with you. I thought you might feel the same way, but wasn’t sure. Are you interesting in going out to dinner sometime?

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Say things like "I trust you, you can do it, don't give up" etc. This helps him have more confidence when he's down and he'll also know that you love and care for him very much.
Be yourself! If you fake who you are and he falls in love with you, once he sees how different you really are, he might be as into you anymore. Just don't change yourself.
If you're ever feeling nervous around him and you don't know what to say, act like you're talking to your best friend and bring up whatever pops into your mind.
Don't rush it. He may be feeling down but not communicating that, so treat him like one of your other mates at first, then slowly build up your relationship!

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