Help, I am in love with my bff!!

03/31/25 12:08pm

We met on social media few months ago.I have never made a friend so easily before.We have the same thoughts about the world and our likes are mostly the same.We became best friends and I have started to feel more things for her 2 months ago.I don't really fall for someone easily,so it was hard for me to handle.I told her about it.And we agreed that it's just the pure friendship.But my heart still knows that I love her.Since we are the same gender and because she is a aroace person,I can't tell her again.I know that her answer will be the same again.I just need to get over this feeling.My heart just can't take it anymore.

View hidden comment

Reply to Post

Sort By:

Expert Comments

wikiHow Editorial Team

03/31/25 12:09pm

Having unrequited feelings for anybody is so hard, let alone a good friend. It took a lot of guts to confess your feelings. It's very admirable. It sounds like, despite the heartbreak you're dealing with, you're handling this really maturely and not trying to put any pressure on the situation. Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you!

It sounds like your friend doesn't want to let unreturned feelings negatively affect your relationship, which is awesome, but it might be harder for you to move forward if you spend a lot of time together or talk every day. You may want to give her a heads up that you need a little space for a while, but if you're still interested in staying friends, reassure her it's just temporary while you process things.

In the meantime, try spending some time with other friends or even on your own, diving into your hobbies and personal passions (or exploring new ones). Doing fulfilling things without your crush can be a helpful reminder that life goes on, and that it can still be enjoyable without them. The feelings will fade over time. Just try to be patient, show yourself grace, and never doubt that you deserve love!

View hidden comment

Theonewithanoname

04/01/25 7:49am

Thank you for your advice.But I have a problem.I can't stop talking to her since I am her best friend now.She has told me so many times how her life was before meeting me.No matter how much I tell her,she refuses to make new friends.I just don't know what to do.

View hidden comment

Joshua Pompey
Relationship Expert

03/31/25 1:06pm

Truth be told, if you are falling in love with your friend, I don't necessarily think there is a way to stop falling in love with them unless you meet somebody else and come to terms with the fact that your friend doesn't return your feelings. If you A) can't come to terms with that or B) are unable to develop feelings for someone else because you're interested in your friend, I think unfortunately, you have to do the hard thing and then just break up the friendship until those feelings dissipate or go away.

View hidden comment