I don't know what to do with my life
I’m 21, and I feel hopeless. I’m working full-time at a cafe, barely getting by. I hate it but can’t find anything else to do. I don’t know what I want to do, I don’t really feel like I’m good at anything, and nothing really excites me. I feel like all I can do is survive.
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Consider the people in your life that you look up to and observe what they do. What are successful people accomplishing and what do they do in their day-to-day life? If you want what they have, start asking questions about what they do and how they do it.
Sometimes it can be helpful to look back to your childhood or teenage years and think about what you were interested in then. Try picking up some old hobbies, or try new things that you never thought you could do. Sometimes that excitement from your youth can come back and remind you of a passion you completely forgot about.
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Sometimes it can be helpful to look back to your childhood or teenage years and think about what you were interested in then. Try picking up some old hobbies, or try new things that you never thought you could do. Sometimes that excitement from your youth can come back and remind you of a passion you completely forgot about.
I am too needy how do I think of others first when the way life works scares me too death, I am afraid of moving on, it's too late I live an a AFC home and still need it. I am not Gary Puckett I am his Son Jason Puckett.
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Try doing what u are supposed to do like u can do anything that u feel like doing
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First of all, you need to figure out why your needy and why your so afraid to be alone? What about you? Don't you deserve to love yourself and be confident in yourself? Nobody is going to do it for you, you will never find anything worth while till you become worth while for yourself. Look at you from the inside, your insecurities are only areas in your life you haven't secured yet. You will never find it in someone else it can only come from you. Stay out of a relationship till you become good to yourself, grow your confidence, grow your securities, cuz your the only one that can and will do it for yourself.
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Try connecting with other people who are doing work that inspires you and that is similar to careers you've considered.
Most importantly, just try the thing! Talk about new career options with friends. Experiment. There is nothing as useful as trying something new and getting real experience as a way of learning. You may not want to quit your job just yet, but you don't have to in order to start exploring your options.
It’s also really important to start networking. Find people who do work that interests you and set up meetings with them.
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Most importantly, just try the thing! Talk about new career options with friends. Experiment. There is nothing as useful as trying something new and getting real experience as a way of learning. You may not want to quit your job just yet, but you don't have to in order to start exploring your options.
It’s also really important to start networking. Find people who do work that interests you and set up meetings with them.
The first thing you must do is define "life purpose" so you know what you're trying to find. You will realize there are different definitions out there. It’s really up to you to work towards creating your own working definition and then your own meaningful sense of purpose aligned with that definition.
My current definition would be something like this: There is a meta-purpose, a higher purpose to life: to discover our true selves and to be more and more of our true selves each day, mostly by stripping away all that is not who/what we really are, to reveal and experience our true essence, and this gives meaning and purpose to life itself. Then, coming from our true selves, we get to decide how we wish to live and how we wish to make our lives meaningful—which is often by how we wish to contribute to life on this planet—as in "the difference we want to make while we’re here."
The actionable steps or practices that help you establish what is meaningful to you is greatly facilitated by discovering, clarifying, and prioritizing your personal values.
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My current definition would be something like this: There is a meta-purpose, a higher purpose to life: to discover our true selves and to be more and more of our true selves each day, mostly by stripping away all that is not who/what we really are, to reveal and experience our true essence, and this gives meaning and purpose to life itself. Then, coming from our true selves, we get to decide how we wish to live and how we wish to make our lives meaningful—which is often by how we wish to contribute to life on this planet—as in "the difference we want to make while we’re here."
The actionable steps or practices that help you establish what is meaningful to you is greatly facilitated by discovering, clarifying, and prioritizing your personal values.
If you’re unsure about what to do with your life, don’t stress—figuring out a career is a journey, not a one-time decision. Here’s how to start:
1. Reflect on your interests: Think about what excites you or what you naturally gravitate toward. What hobbies or activities make you lose track of time?
2. Identify your strengths: What are you good at? Consider skills others compliment you on or tasks you find easy and enjoyable.
3. Explore your values: What matters most to you? Is it helping others, creativity, financial stability, flexibility, or something else? Knowing your values can guide your choices.
4. Research careers: Start looking into industries and roles that align with your interests and skills. Use tools like career quizzes, job shadowing, or informational interviews to learn more.
5. Try new things: Internships, part-time jobs, or volunteering are great ways to test out fields without long-term commitment.
6. Consider education or training: If a particular career excites you but requires specific skills, explore options like certifications, workshops, or degree programs.
7. Talk to people: Connect with professionals in areas you’re curious about. Hearing about their paths can give you ideas and inspiration.
8. Don’t fear mistakes: Your first choice doesn’t have to be forever. Every step you take teaches you something about what you do or don’t want.
Starting small and staying curious can help you gain clarity. Focus on what feels right for you now, and trust that you’ll figure out the next step as you go!"
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1. Reflect on your interests: Think about what excites you or what you naturally gravitate toward. What hobbies or activities make you lose track of time?
2. Identify your strengths: What are you good at? Consider skills others compliment you on or tasks you find easy and enjoyable.
3. Explore your values: What matters most to you? Is it helping others, creativity, financial stability, flexibility, or something else? Knowing your values can guide your choices.
4. Research careers: Start looking into industries and roles that align with your interests and skills. Use tools like career quizzes, job shadowing, or informational interviews to learn more.
5. Try new things: Internships, part-time jobs, or volunteering are great ways to test out fields without long-term commitment.
6. Consider education or training: If a particular career excites you but requires specific skills, explore options like certifications, workshops, or degree programs.
7. Talk to people: Connect with professionals in areas you’re curious about. Hearing about their paths can give you ideas and inspiration.
8. Don’t fear mistakes: Your first choice doesn’t have to be forever. Every step you take teaches you something about what you do or don’t want.
Starting small and staying curious can help you gain clarity. Focus on what feels right for you now, and trust that you’ll figure out the next step as you go!"
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The best advice I ever heard is that “sadness is a lack of options”. You're feeling stuck and sad because you don't have options. So you have to find options. And to do that, you have to get really curious. Find places to volunteer just to learn what it’s like to do different types of jobs. It doesn't really matter what they are right now. Just trying new things with low stakes will show you so much.
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You're still so young, and you have so much time to figure it out. You have to just keep trying things and give it time. Sometimes it’s actually more helpful to figure out what you don't want to do because that helps you narrow down to the kinds of things you do.
The thing that most people don't know about passion is it has to be cultivated. You're not going to start anything and immediately be good and motivated to do it. You have to push through the initial resistance and know that it gets better. You have SO much time ahead of you. The only really important thing right now is to keep trying new things and not give up.
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The thing that most people don't know about passion is it has to be cultivated. You're not going to start anything and immediately be good and motivated to do it. You have to push through the initial resistance and know that it gets better. You have SO much time ahead of you. The only really important thing right now is to keep trying new things and not give up.
that's a hard situation..but a lot of people work in a job they don't really like but that's life..sometimes you need to find positive things in your job...if it gets really bad change it
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I'm 21 as well, and I also thought same as you are thinking right now, but I had plan for my future that I wanted a corporate job and it required graduation. when I completed my graduation I had started preparation to get the job I got rejected many times but did not gave on it, after many attempts finally I got selected now I am here where I want to be, and it made inspired me about to facing challenges in life so that set your individual goal and be curious to achieve it.
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I'm bored. let's just say that. I'm single, I'm an introvert and never have anything to do. When I am doing something it's for school or work. I hate watching all my friends out having fun but I too scared to go out with them. I feel like I will overdo it or under do it.
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MAN SAME. just trust yourself on being who you are. and if your really introverted and don't do anything, then find your hobbies. and if you want to, you could try to people please to get others to like you. or you could just practicing talking to people socially for 3 hours a day and go out more, and then you might become an extrovert. Instead of thinking of what your gonna say and overanalyze a situation, you should instead try be present in situation, and learn how to not be akward. or just learn about how extroverts sociallize. and then reapet some of the sociall habits extroverts have. yeah. just be you, and don't get discord from being a total introvert because your you. 1 of a kind.
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I totally can relate to this feeling. I always feel like I don't quite belong or I'm not special enough to hang out or be that close friends with co workers or acquaintances. I go to work, the store, gas station, and home. I occasionally do chill with maybe 3 or 4 of my friends and to be perfectly honest, I'm just realizing that I'm friends with these 3 or 4 peeps because they partake in things I do and are more of connections... I honestly am ok with being more reserved or introverted with myself and my time. But I also recognize how short our lives are and that we should just do the things we want to do. Do what brings you joy and happiness. Don't conform to what's "normal" Most importantly, I want to emphasize how imperative it is for us to feel the feelings we have. Allow yourself to go through the emotions you feel even when they don't feel very good. We cant avoid the "ick" of life. We've all been through trials in our lives that seemed like the end of the world at the time, that now only seem trivial or minimal. They might have even made you who you are today. I hope you find what brings you joy soon, it is within you ❤️
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Take 100 people. Which one is normal? How do you define such concept?
If there were only 2 people, would there be a normal one?
What if there are 8 billion, who is the default model for normality? Or is it in between some group, but no one specifically? Should all of us be like that person?
If in 100 people you chose the 51th to be the normal one but the 2nd is the only one who can do a specific important task for society due to being away from normality. Is the 2nd person healthy? Are they necessary?
I don't intend to offend, please give me the right to be wrong, also, but I question "normality". Sometimes I think it is a term people use for away-from-purpose objectives. It's like fashion clothes and other stuff people come up with to sell ideas and manipulate others. The purpose of the cloth is to protect, not to create comparison. Unless we have the perfect enlightenment to know each one's mission here, we're prone to lack of precision with those terms like "normality". The athlete's normal is different from the priest, yet each one has their importance in society.
We should take spirituality more seriously and society less, sometimes. Instead of looking for "normal", maybe we should look for "virtuous", or "balanced", "happy", "love-based", "self-synchronized", "sustainable", etc.
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If there were only 2 people, would there be a normal one?
What if there are 8 billion, who is the default model for normality? Or is it in between some group, but no one specifically? Should all of us be like that person?
If in 100 people you chose the 51th to be the normal one but the 2nd is the only one who can do a specific important task for society due to being away from normality. Is the 2nd person healthy? Are they necessary?
I don't intend to offend, please give me the right to be wrong, also, but I question "normality". Sometimes I think it is a term people use for away-from-purpose objectives. It's like fashion clothes and other stuff people come up with to sell ideas and manipulate others. The purpose of the cloth is to protect, not to create comparison. Unless we have the perfect enlightenment to know each one's mission here, we're prone to lack of precision with those terms like "normality". The athlete's normal is different from the priest, yet each one has their importance in society.
We should take spirituality more seriously and society less, sometimes. Instead of looking for "normal", maybe we should look for "virtuous", or "balanced", "happy", "love-based", "self-synchronized", "sustainable", etc.
You made me think 2 stuff...
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One day we'll be older. What would you prefer if you look back to past? To think "I didn't risk doing what I wanted due to fear of what other people might think" or "I took my risks, maybe got a bit hurt, but got experience and now I can do better / explore new stuff due to experience"?
Staying in our comfort zone may hurt too. Personal experience. I hurt myself gaming too much. Risk is unavoidable. Pick yours wisely and "look for balance in all areas of your life", like say angel numbers.
We must have faith in God and also in ourselves. There is always a good part within that won't force both faiths to be mutually exclusive. Focus the Light!
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Don't compare yourself with others. People don't have all the same mission here, so we're unable to judge each other, we've too little wisdom for that. So the same is valid for others judging us, right? Still, we want to be accepted, to be part of something. But what do you do when you go shopping for a shirt? You look at it, check it, prove it... etc. You might not know if it fits you unless you try it. With time, you learn what works well for you, and how to listen to your instincts. Meditation and prayer also help a lot with that.
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One day we'll be older. What would you prefer if you look back to past? To think "I didn't risk doing what I wanted due to fear of what other people might think" or "I took my risks, maybe got a bit hurt, but got experience and now I can do better / explore new stuff due to experience"?
Staying in our comfort zone may hurt too. Personal experience. I hurt myself gaming too much. Risk is unavoidable. Pick yours wisely and "look for balance in all areas of your life", like say angel numbers.
We must have faith in God and also in ourselves. There is always a good part within that won't force both faiths to be mutually exclusive. Focus the Light!
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Don't compare yourself with others. People don't have all the same mission here, so we're unable to judge each other, we've too little wisdom for that. So the same is valid for others judging us, right? Still, we want to be accepted, to be part of something. But what do you do when you go shopping for a shirt? You look at it, check it, prove it... etc. You might not know if it fits you unless you try it. With time, you learn what works well for you, and how to listen to your instincts. Meditation and prayer also help a lot with that.
I was there, studying and working on a low duration work.
Sometimes you need to be bold and go beyond surviving! Take calculated risks, go out of your comfort zone a bit here and there and with time you get back living instead of surviving. Do a sincere prayer for help, remember the strength from God comes from within you and explore new ways to invest energy, creativity and also to recover your batteries. Meditation might be necessary, but every person has their ways into meditation, and into "understanding" / talking to God, afaik. Not all meditation must be sit down, you just need to get in tune with yourself sometimes.
And don't think your work is for nothing. Money might be important later, we don't know when we will need it. I myself am taking risks which are costing me money, so don't be in a rush for answers, trust the process.
If stuff is too uncomfortable, observe the discomfort. Where is it? What type of discomfort is it? What is it asking you to do? Try to see it as an ally, a signal of something.
For an example, if you're angry with people, you don't need to punch them, but maybe think "why am I angry with people?"
It's not about suppressing everything, but getting to the root of the problem and seeing as opportunity to grow, then exploring it.
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Sometimes you need to be bold and go beyond surviving! Take calculated risks, go out of your comfort zone a bit here and there and with time you get back living instead of surviving. Do a sincere prayer for help, remember the strength from God comes from within you and explore new ways to invest energy, creativity and also to recover your batteries. Meditation might be necessary, but every person has their ways into meditation, and into "understanding" / talking to God, afaik. Not all meditation must be sit down, you just need to get in tune with yourself sometimes.
And don't think your work is for nothing. Money might be important later, we don't know when we will need it. I myself am taking risks which are costing me money, so don't be in a rush for answers, trust the process.
If stuff is too uncomfortable, observe the discomfort. Where is it? What type of discomfort is it? What is it asking you to do? Try to see it as an ally, a signal of something.
For an example, if you're angry with people, you don't need to punch them, but maybe think "why am I angry with people?"
It's not about suppressing everything, but getting to the root of the problem and seeing as opportunity to grow, then exploring it.
Yeah I've been feeling like this a long time and I am 28 now. The best thing I've figured out is just to try to have patience with oneself, keep an open & curious mind about other paths whenever possible, and to try to remember that you don't HAVE to be stuck where you're at if you don't want to be, ie nobody's holding you at gunpoint to do what you're doing. I know though the feeling is really miserable and it's so easy to get sucked into it and get stuck.
Try to use any off-time you have to look at any material that might help - perhaps it's reading articles or watching videos online about fun or interesting things one way or another, or perhaps it's hearing from some friends about what they like doing. Anything that could provide some kind of inspiration.
I've found keeping this in mind helps stave off the negativity somewhat, and to try to have some curiosity about what might be a good way forward. Any little bit counts. I really wish you the best with this and I hope this comment can help somewhat!
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Try to use any off-time you have to look at any material that might help - perhaps it's reading articles or watching videos online about fun or interesting things one way or another, or perhaps it's hearing from some friends about what they like doing. Anything that could provide some kind of inspiration.
I've found keeping this in mind helps stave off the negativity somewhat, and to try to have some curiosity about what might be a good way forward. Any little bit counts. I really wish you the best with this and I hope this comment can help somewhat!
Maybe pay attention to what makes you happy, if you just don't know what that is, try something new! You have so much more of your life to live, and it might not be easy, but you can find what you're meant for in life. There's always hope even if you can't find it in the moment~ and all these people bothered to respond to you, which proves there are people that care about you and know and hope and want to help you find what you're meant to do!
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I would go see a therapist and see what they think you should do. its also good to have someone to talk to .
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I advise you to discover new things,to get out of your comfort zone,so you can find something your'e passionate about,for me it's the arts (music,paintings,theater,sketching,etc) Don't quit your job just yet though,but practice,get in touch with people with similar passions,ask them how they reached success,if you don't know any there are probably people on YouTube with 30 minute Ted talks or smthn,but keep going you can do this
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sometimes we all feel the same way but what is important is to remember that ,you can be a hard worker ,a fighter ,whatever you desire,life is like a run way and you are the designer
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I remember feeling that! Try an adventure, see new things, meet new people? I became a truck driver at 21 traveled 48 states Canada and lived in Europe for 2 years. Not to mention the pay was better than average I almost felt on vacation seeing the country and getting paid for it while meeting new people I would take one day off a week wherever I was and find something fun to do. I know the social norm looks down upon truck drivers but in reality we are the glue that holds it all together. And you would be amazed how much you can figure out in life with so much alone time behind the wheel to think ponder analyze.. probably have to be a sigma male to enjoy it but I found driving relaxing and stress detoxing. It's been a decent lifestyle for me and was plenty enough to figure out what I wanted in life, now I feel successful, accomplished, enjoying life, have virtually no stress, already very independent self-sufficient and sustainable. I built a 24-ft refrigerated straight truck into a motorhome that's twice as insulated as traditional motorhomes (very crucial, as temperature control is about 70% of energy cost) fully solar-powered with mini split AC and heat, full kitchen, full bathroom, TV, internet, PS4, dual recliners, loft bed, plenty of storage, a zero electric dual sport motorcycle I can charge off the solar, 500 gallons of fresh water now I live off the grid full-time nomadically and I absolutely love it! True freedom. No mortgage, no rent, no electric bill, no trash bill, no sewer bill. I sacrificed a whole lot of time behind the wheel of a truck, but very well worth it as I was able to figure out what I wanted in life and achieve it rather quick and easy compared to most. I'll be retired at 45 years old, freeing up my time to pursue my own ambitions (inventions) instead of exchanging all of my time for currency just to put a roof over my head and food in my mouth.. when you're living extremely cheap, comfortable, mobile, off-grid, self-sufficient you don't need much income in retirement. My total cost of living will be $500 to $1,000 per month depending how much traveling I do. Just one simple man's perspective but don't be afraid to think outside the box and live the way you want! Good luck to you, God bless 🙏
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I know this isn't expert advice, but what I would do Is just sign up for every job you are eligible for and sign up for the highest-paying one that accepts you. if you are not happy with this job, keep your mind open to ones that you usually wouldn't choose to do if you do end up liking it.
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Just relax and chill first of all.
All you need is a break. Meaning not doing much (not thinking much as well)
Do not think that the situation you are in makes you unique.
Quit the job. Calculate financial stuff so u could have a better idea of it, how to just go through. Start from zero doing anything like cooking. Do all sorts of researches, food, diet, health (lifestyle generally). Dont push yourself of doing a lot of tasks, just make it super simple.
Dont do games (unless it is educational)
Dont do youtube, tiktok and same stuff.
No social network (few contacts on whatsapp side)
Try to actually live the life doing minor activities just like the old people.
Have a break. :)
Just try to have a healthy one.
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All you need is a break. Meaning not doing much (not thinking much as well)
Do not think that the situation you are in makes you unique.
Quit the job. Calculate financial stuff so u could have a better idea of it, how to just go through. Start from zero doing anything like cooking. Do all sorts of researches, food, diet, health (lifestyle generally). Dont push yourself of doing a lot of tasks, just make it super simple.
Dont do games (unless it is educational)
Dont do youtube, tiktok and same stuff.
No social network (few contacts on whatsapp side)
Try to actually live the life doing minor activities just like the old people.
Have a break. :)
Just try to have a healthy one.
I'm 46 and still trying to find what I need to do with my life. I have a wife no kids living in a trailer with no car having to pay a idiot to take me to work. I have a high school special education diploma and everything I ever wanted to grow up to be I can't do because that means i would have to go back to school and I hate school. I have a learning disability and that's the main reason going to college is something I don't want to do besides how would I get there Uber? I don't make enough money to pay all my bills and pay uber much less the idiot that is cheaper then uber and the idiot is VERY independable. There alot lot more to my story but I'm here to help you. Not me.
But after reading every single comment/reply to your question! It reminds me of everything people told me that would help me with my problems except no one never told me that I would some times have to make sacrifices to get what or where I want or to be later in life. Some times we just have to learn things on our own. Every thing we are telling you might help you but what helps the most is you learning on your own. Because alot of us might be telling you stuff you don't want to hear and so it sounds like it's to hard to do or to much to handle. No one never told me to be patient about getting what I want in life. Patience is a virtue for sure. Rome wasn't built over night. There is a reason for all these saying's we hear through out our life.
The most important thing that I ALWAYS hear or keep learning about in life is... Life is what you make it! (No one said this in a comment yet??) So if your life sucks then only you can change it. Your allowing your life to not be good because your afraid of change or you think if you do change it then something bad is going to happen. Look back on the past few years of everything bad that has happened to you. Was the results as bad as you thought they was going to be? The good thing is it will go away. But yes over time. It's up to you to find your way to make your way to live the way you want to live. And if I can do anything I put my mind and heart to. You can too. It's in all of us. We are human!
I hope you read all of this. At least some one. All we can do is help you understand what might work for you but not your solution. Only you can solve your problems. You can do it. Why? Because you are only human. Try and try again till you got it. Believe in your self even if you feel no one else does. You are all you got in this world and you are all that you need. Believe that or not. You will see in the end 😉
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But after reading every single comment/reply to your question! It reminds me of everything people told me that would help me with my problems except no one never told me that I would some times have to make sacrifices to get what or where I want or to be later in life. Some times we just have to learn things on our own. Every thing we are telling you might help you but what helps the most is you learning on your own. Because alot of us might be telling you stuff you don't want to hear and so it sounds like it's to hard to do or to much to handle. No one never told me to be patient about getting what I want in life. Patience is a virtue for sure. Rome wasn't built over night. There is a reason for all these saying's we hear through out our life.
The most important thing that I ALWAYS hear or keep learning about in life is... Life is what you make it! (No one said this in a comment yet??) So if your life sucks then only you can change it. Your allowing your life to not be good because your afraid of change or you think if you do change it then something bad is going to happen. Look back on the past few years of everything bad that has happened to you. Was the results as bad as you thought they was going to be? The good thing is it will go away. But yes over time. It's up to you to find your way to make your way to live the way you want to live. And if I can do anything I put my mind and heart to. You can too. It's in all of us. We are human!
I hope you read all of this. At least some one. All we can do is help you understand what might work for you but not your solution. Only you can solve your problems. You can do it. Why? Because you are only human. Try and try again till you got it. Believe in your self even if you feel no one else does. You are all you got in this world and you are all that you need. Believe that or not. You will see in the end 😉
...don't worry things will get better one day...try finding something nice in your job or try your chances of changing it. or think of what you like to do.if the job bothers you a lot you need to change it into something else.
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Find something that not just interests you, but something that you want to know more about. Somebody may find psychology interesting for example and really wants to know more about human behavior. For the moment remove the financial earning potential and replace it with the knowledge and skill potential of what you're interested in.
Most people want money, which is not bad at all. But, most people don't assign purpose to money. So, if you had money what would you do with it? Again, most people don't know. You can't eat or drink money. You can liquidate it into food by exchanging it at the grocery store or restaurant, or draw it from the ATM and use it as fuel for a fire. So, for now remove the financial earning potential and replace it with the skill and knowledge potential. Your skills and knowledge will earn you money as a consequence. But, more importantly your interest, interest to want to know more, and skill and knowledge focus will give you direction.
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Most people want money, which is not bad at all. But, most people don't assign purpose to money. So, if you had money what would you do with it? Again, most people don't know. You can't eat or drink money. You can liquidate it into food by exchanging it at the grocery store or restaurant, or draw it from the ATM and use it as fuel for a fire. So, for now remove the financial earning potential and replace it with the skill and knowledge potential. Your skills and knowledge will earn you money as a consequence. But, more importantly your interest, interest to want to know more, and skill and knowledge focus will give you direction.
I got “I set myself on fire to keep others warm”. I do like helping people and will put in the time when I can, but if I have something going on I won’t drop everything if l have something planned. This sounds like my sister A LOT and I am not like her. Thanks for the quiz anyway :)
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You should start doing more of the things that you WANT to do and less of what you feel like you have/need to do. Next time you pull yourself over mentally and attempt to check yourself, thinking of something that you should be doing, don't. Do exactly the opposite.
Always remember, no matter how things have been going, no matter what the results have been, good or bad, it is never too late to STOP doing the right thing.
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Always remember, no matter how things have been going, no matter what the results have been, good or bad, it is never too late to STOP doing the right thing.
please dont feel like you are not good at anything. maybe you are having some deep lying issue. resolving it helps alot. and after that its good to explore the life like going out more often,meeting new people. and soon you will find what excites you.
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But you have to sit your self down and tell your self what you will like to become
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I'm 21 and I ran my own business, I'm barely hanging in there. Because despite the fact that I have a boyfriend who is considerate, happiness is far from me. I don't understand why but I feel disconnected from everything and everyone.
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Please don't lose hope why don't you try finding someone? Or take yourself on a date
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If you didn't finish High School..enrol in local further education college asap.Do the basics eg GCSE, might have to attend 3 nights a week for first 2 years. No one really wants to employ someone without this most essential qualification. You will then be able to choose a career that interests you. The next five years will be VITAL to a fabulous career... But.. only if you don't give up and drop out!! Just keep doing all the training you need to do. Best of luck. I'm sure you have the guts and courage to make it!! Best of luck
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I'm sure that you'll be good at something 😃. Everyone is. I mean, i thought i was hopeless until I discovered my talent 😺😺😺😺
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No one is hopeless! You must have some quality that you haven't discovered yet. Don't give up now!!! You got this!!!!!!!😺😺😺
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Everything is possible if you let it.I'm just a teenager but i feel the same way!!
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what do you like to do, what do you enjoy doing. When you have a job, career, you actually spend more time at work and traveling to work than at home, so you must enjoy it.
Not sure what you want to do, then start pushing boundaries, try something. If you do what you have always done, well how is that working for you.
If you think you might be in a bit of a rut? You say you work at a cafe, very transferable, get training in bar work, hospitality and be fit you can go any where, Farm work, fruit picking, Caribbean, Greek islands, France, Australia, they always need new people. Move around where you are, an Itinerant worker.
I know a guy that was a boiler maker and with encouragement went to study engineering and then realized he like managing and now has a Masters degree. You are young, my boy left school worked at KFC, then went in to a computer game store, now 30+ starting his Masters in teaching.
You are so young, try things, volunteer at places, get experience, keep growing. It is a big world, go have a look.
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Not sure what you want to do, then start pushing boundaries, try something. If you do what you have always done, well how is that working for you.
If you think you might be in a bit of a rut? You say you work at a cafe, very transferable, get training in bar work, hospitality and be fit you can go any where, Farm work, fruit picking, Caribbean, Greek islands, France, Australia, they always need new people. Move around where you are, an Itinerant worker.
I know a guy that was a boiler maker and with encouragement went to study engineering and then realized he like managing and now has a Masters degree. You are young, my boy left school worked at KFC, then went in to a computer game store, now 30+ starting his Masters in teaching.
You are so young, try things, volunteer at places, get experience, keep growing. It is a big world, go have a look.
You know what to do when you ask yourself what your passion is. That's what makes you happy and eager to get up in the morning. Set a step by step goal board but at the same time be open to what is placed in front of you. Watch for synchronicity signs along the way.
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It's ok to not have figured thing out yet, it normal for everyone! You just have to push yourself to do what you think is the best for you or do what you love.
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Try connecting with other people who are doing work that inspires you Smile. You tend to smile when you're happy. ...
Exercise. Exercise isn't just for your body. ...
Get plenty of sleep. Most adults need at least 7 hours of sleep every night. ...
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Acknowledge the unhappy moments.
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Acknowledge the unhappy moments.
I would say do what you want to do and make your life something to be proud of like as a start for example i would recommend investing but it's up to you and you have to know that it's your life and nobody else has the right to change it unless you want them to.
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I'm reading thru the comments, and I'm finding such kind, compassionate people here. I'm 46, been a public figure, but stood my grounds and got recently got fired from my job, got another job but I'm so dissatisfied and miserable, and paid much lower.
Send out my cv, been for an interview but my ex employer gave me a horrible reference...
I've been so depressed and cry so much for losing this job opportunity.
I have so much of financial commitments so I've just had to carry on working now in a job i don't like...
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Send out my cv, been for an interview but my ex employer gave me a horrible reference...
I've been so depressed and cry so much for losing this job opportunity.
I have so much of financial commitments so I've just had to carry on working now in a job i don't like...
Someone said, if you think you're too small to make a difference then try sleeping with a mosquito
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Don't compair your self to any one and don't look up to any one you are enough yourself and your decision will always be the best in your situation in your time. Plan your present and use the future (as u understand it ) and the past experiences to sculpt your plan.
"If u want flowers you must go through rain:
Sorry for bad English it is my 2nd launguage
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"If u want flowers you must go through rain:
Sorry for bad English it is my 2nd launguage
1st at week ends do some walking because movement or exercise help your mood
2nd try learning something , if you finished some sort of institute or university start reviewing your past courses or start learning some advanced subject in your field
3ed vocational training also may help you
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2nd try learning something , if you finished some sort of institute or university start reviewing your past courses or start learning some advanced subject in your field
3ed vocational training also may help you
Find your passion, purpose and interest, set doable achievable manageable satisfying goals, those you could accomplish and love!
Talking about your work, Remember, there are some people on the planet, who're struggling with overthinking and negativity, not even knowing how their day will be and their thinking is blocked.
Stay grateful my dear.
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Talking about your work, Remember, there are some people on the planet, who're struggling with overthinking and negativity, not even knowing how their day will be and their thinking is blocked.
Stay grateful my dear.
Find someone from high-school you're comfortable with on the same path you would like to be on get he or she to guide you. Good luck
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Why u dnt try to open up in your partner, I'm sure your partner is very proud of you.The first thing is dnt be think a Negative,
always think positive..
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always think positive..
Hit up the military, they will give you the skills to lead a good fulfilling life.
Even if it's a short stint to get college or a trade. The values the will instill in you will last a life time!
I wish I did at your age !
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Even if it's a short stint to get college or a trade. The values the will instill in you will last a life time!
I wish I did at your age !
Chin up ,Everything in this life unfortunately happens for a reason.I have lost the use of my right arm and hand but i know there is a reason for this,what im not sure yet but i know one thing,You should be thankful for every single day that you wake up and are healthy.head down and work hard you will get your reward..John..
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I don't know what to do with my life
I am 24 years old and I don't know what to with my life
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I am 24 years old and I don't know what to with my life
Don't be so hard on yourself, for one. You ate young, all these things come in time, you can't expect perfection, only progress. The fact your looking at this is very good, but you are being very hard on yourself. It's tough in the economy we are in, it's overwhelming for some one so new, as you learn, and grow older, you will find coping skills that benefit you through the hard ship and stress of finances. Relax, be good to yourself. Also think of something you love to do, after work, give yourself something to look forward to. I like a glass of wine after work and an episode or two on TV. Make lists of things you enjoy, it doesn't have to cost anything, it can be friends or family, it can be getting your nails done, or a new haircut, or as easy as a bubble bath with candles or dream about where you'd like to see yourself.
Be good to yourself, these things that your all worked up about will work themselves out, do what you can to stay positive and show yourself some love.
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Be good to yourself, these things that your all worked up about will work themselves out, do what you can to stay positive and show yourself some love.
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It’s completely understandable to feel lost and overwhelmed, especially at 21 when so many changes are happening.
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Reassess yourself today, think of what you do the best; work two jobs , go to school for whatever you found in yourself that you do best and just work hard at that for 5 years you'll be straight.
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Get a piece of paper, draw a line down the centre. On the left list every single thing you don't like. Then on the other side the polar opposite of the left hand list.
Life is an experiment, pivot plan try fail or win and as long as you have fun.
Do it
Good luck, remember there is a beautiful world out there and the walls we build to keep the bad stuff out and keep the good stuff coming in as well.
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Life is an experiment, pivot plan try fail or win and as long as you have fun.
Do it
Good luck, remember there is a beautiful world out there and the walls we build to keep the bad stuff out and keep the good stuff coming in as well.
Its official. Im done. My parents call me a shame to the family, my grades are terrible (only 2 A's, the rest are B.) My wrestling coach almost kicked me from varsity, I'm overeating, every girl I ask out mentally destroys me for asking her before rejecting me, and I hate every part of my appearance and mental state. I can't talk myself from the gutter and nobody sticks around long enough to pull me out. Where do I go????
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I know that things feel this way now but you are so young. (even if I am younger than you...by far...I'm still a teen!) And take advantage of being young! I know that stuff is hard now and that you are working a bunch but maybe you don't really enjoy your job and maybe you just need a change in your life to help you! I know I am younger than you but trust me on this and please don't pass on my advice I just want you to know that this may help you!
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its ok find something u love to do you will be ok it might be hard right now but it will get better trust me
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The way we think of ourselves is what we put out into the World. So if you think you are not good at anything, you will not be good at anything. Your thoughts control your reality! Your reality is based off your perception of the world around you. Simply change your thoughts just a little at a time. This takes time and patience. Using positive thoughts and words about yourself will help change the way you think. Practice gratitude. Think of as many things as you can that you are truly thankful for. Observe how that feeling of gratitude feels and Practice just feeling that gratitude as often as you can. Surround yourself with positivity! Find new music that is positive and listen to that as often as possible. Watch positive videos and eliminate all things that that have a negative influence on your life.
Also, at 22 you are figuring out who you are and it takes time to figure that out. Always be ready and willing to try new things. Put your best effort in and stay positive even when you feel like you are failing. Never forget that when life falls apart it is preparing to give you the life you desire, you just have to be patient while the new life unfolds. You are Amazing and you can do it!
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Also, at 22 you are figuring out who you are and it takes time to figure that out. Always be ready and willing to try new things. Put your best effort in and stay positive even when you feel like you are failing. Never forget that when life falls apart it is preparing to give you the life you desire, you just have to be patient while the new life unfolds. You are Amazing and you can do it!
you should try getting an office job or save up and retire early and do exciting stuff!!
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If you’re unsure about what to do with your life, don’t stress—figuring out a career is a journey, not a one-time decision. Here’s how to start:
1. Reflect on your interests: Think about what excites you or what you naturally gravitate toward. What hobbies or activities make you lose track of time?
2. Identify your strengths: What are you good at? Consider skills others compliment you on or tasks you find easy and enjoyable.
3. Explore your values: What matters most to you? Is it helping others, creativity, financial stability, flexibility, or something else? Knowing your values can guide your choices.
4. Research careers: Start looking into industries and roles that align with your interests and skills. Use tools like career quizzes, job shadowing, or informational interviews to learn more.
5. Try new things: Internships, part-time jobs, or volunteering are great ways to test out fields without long-term commitment.
6. Consider education or training: If a particular career excites you but requires specific skills, explore options like certifications, workshops, or degree programs.
7. Talk to people: Connect with professionals in areas you’re curious about. Hearing about their paths can give you ideas and inspiration.
8. Don’t fear mistakes: Your first choice doesn’t have to be forever. Every step you take teaches you something about what you do or don’t want.
Starting small and staying curious can help you gain clarity. Focus on what feels right for you now, and trust that you’ll figure out the next step as you go!"
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1. Reflect on your interests: Think about what excites you or what you naturally gravitate toward. What hobbies or activities make you lose track of time?
2. Identify your strengths: What are you good at? Consider skills others compliment you on or tasks you find easy and enjoyable.
3. Explore your values: What matters most to you? Is it helping others, creativity, financial stability, flexibility, or something else? Knowing your values can guide your choices.
4. Research careers: Start looking into industries and roles that align with your interests and skills. Use tools like career quizzes, job shadowing, or informational interviews to learn more.
5. Try new things: Internships, part-time jobs, or volunteering are great ways to test out fields without long-term commitment.
6. Consider education or training: If a particular career excites you but requires specific skills, explore options like certifications, workshops, or degree programs.
7. Talk to people: Connect with professionals in areas you’re curious about. Hearing about their paths can give you ideas and inspiration.
8. Don’t fear mistakes: Your first choice doesn’t have to be forever. Every step you take teaches you something about what you do or don’t want.
Starting small and staying curious can help you gain clarity. Focus on what feels right for you now, and trust that you’ll figure out the next step as you go!"
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They say it takes 10,000 hours of practice to master something, so if you aren't good at something and you think it's your purpose in life to pursue it, don't let it stop you! Start practicing and you'll soon be good enough to make that your life's work.
Courage is not the absence of fear; it's taking action despite fear. If you know what you want and you're not taking the first step, realize that's on you. You must be the one to take the jump into the deep end, so don't hesitate!
Picture how you'd spend your time if you had infinite money and no responsibilities. That's probably a good hint as to what your purpose is in life!
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It's okay to feel like life is miserable, but if the feeling becomes so overwhelming that it becomes difficult to function or complete daily tasks, please seek help. Even if life sucks, it's still worth living.
If life sucks because it's inherently meaningless, that means that you get to choose what matters! You are the master of your world. Nothing else matters beyond what you want.
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Your goals will almost certainly change over time. You will want to eventually pursue a new career or follow a new path. Who knows, maybe you'll wake up one day and want to move to Japan! The point is, don't treat your life plan like it's this fixed thing that can't be adjusted later on.
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