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How do you get someone to open up over text?

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Normalize their situation by sharing a similar, tough situation that you went through. The other person might be more comfortable to share their story after you've opened up a bit.

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How do you comfort someone over text?

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Send them supportive messages as a reminder that you're there to listen. Instead of sending unsolicited advice, ask them first if they'd like some advice or feedback on their situation. It's okay if you can't "fix" their problem—a lot of people just want to be heard!

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How do I help a friend who has lost their self esteem?

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Remind him why he is your friend. Compliment his good qualities - he's trustworthy, kind, intelligent, etc. Celebrate his accomplishments, when he gets a good grade, excels at sports, etc.

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How do I help my male friend after he broke up with our female friend?

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Be very supportive about it. Take him out. Take his mind off this girl. Go out and do things you know he loves. Don't talk about the girl or the breakup unless he brings it up first.

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What do I do if my guy friend is worrying about what I think of him?

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Tell him how you feel about him and that he has no need to worry. Maybe give him a hug if that is something you normally do.

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What if my friend keeps walking away from me when I try to talk to him?

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Give him some space. It sounds like he's not ready to talk about whatever is bothering him. If possible, let him know that you'll be available to talk if and when he decides he wants to.

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What do you do if you are in a secret relationship with somebody and get feelings for someone else?

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Be honest. It may hurt them, but it's worse being lied to. If you're not happy in your current relationship, then talk to that person and maybe take a break from each other.

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How can I cheer up my male bestie when he is tired of his life?

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Sometimes the best way to cheer someone up is just to be there, but if you think he may be becoming suicidal, try to get him help. If a person has already thought seriously about killing or hurting themselves, they may be beyond even your reach, and in those cases they need professional help. If you're a kid/teen, tell an adult.

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What should I do my crush is upset because of his haters?

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Be there for him. Maybe talk to him more and tell him positive things. Tell him something funny to make him laugh. Show him you're a true friend and make him smile.

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How can I make my male best friend laugh? We are more comfortable texting.

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Tell him some funny jokes or poems. Try something with roses are red, like, "roses are red, violets are blue and vodka is cheaper than dinner for two.''

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How do I pacify my guy best friend when he is jealous?

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Try to talk it out. Ask him why he's jealous, and tell him that what he's doing/saying is making you uncomfortable. If he's jealous because he'd like to be more than a friend with you, explain to him, gently but firmly, that a relationship isn't going to happen.

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What should I give my crush when he's down?

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Candy, his favorite DVD, a card full of compliments and affirmations.

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My friend is a bit upset and he doesn't want to talk to anyone. What can I do?

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Just let him know you are there if and when he is ready to talk.

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My guy friend is being called a loser and stuff by his best friend ever since I rejected him. What can I do to cheer him up?

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Let him know that you still think he's a great person, that you just think the two of you are better off as friends. Tell him he's not a loser and that his friend is just saying this to mess with him.

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If your boyfriend is saying he is lonely, what should I do to talk to him about it?

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Ask him if he wants to go to events, cafes, or meet other family with you. Tell him you think these events will help him to feel less lonely and he can meet new people for friendships and support, and that you'll be with him as he does so.

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What should I do? My crush likes me and he is sad about losing a basketball game.

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You can write him a note and tell him to meet you at lunch. Then at lunch, hug him, and tell him to try his best at the basketball game, to make him feel better.

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My guy friend is upset because his female friend’s boyfriend and some of his friends convinced her to end their friendship but he was just being a gentleman to her. What can I tell him?

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Tell him she doesn’t know what she was doing. Suggest to him that her boyfriend and his friends are just jerks and that one day she might rather be your bestie then his girlfriend. Also tell him that you are still there for him, no matter what. And maybe think about talking to her on his behalf.

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