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How do I get better at rolling my hips when I dance?

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William Orrock is a Professional Dancer, Instructor, Group Fitness Instructor, and the Owner of We Evolve Dance. With more than 22 years of experience, he specializes in performance, social dancing instruction, competitive dance preparation, and wedding choreography. William holds a Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Dance with a minor in Choreography from Universidad Las Americas-Chile and a second minor in Acting from Foothill College Acting Conservatory. He is also a national champion in Latin American Dancing, a former dancer for Dancing with the Stars Chile, and a certified judge for ballroom competitions.

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You can get better at rolling the hips by practicing slowly making a "figure 8" with your pelvis. When you roll your hips, focus on moving them side to side. Stick to swinging your hips in rotations that are between the width of your shoulders. Also remember to tilt your pelvis forward and backward to get a better feeling for all the different directions that your hips can move in.

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How do I choose the right songs for my dance routine?

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Think about songs that are meaningful to you and your partner. Remember—these songs don't have to be popular hits. Just focus on what stirs your heart and brings up good memories. It's also a wonderful idea to choose songs that help you "feel the rhythm" and that you feel confident about dancing to.

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What if I get so overwhelmed with a touch from him that I let him keep doing it?

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If you want him to touch you more, let him. If you feel uncomfortable, tell him to stop.

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Can I touch him anywhere I want?

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Of course. But don't let him touch you, that'll drive him crazy.

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Can I have sex while preforming a lap dance?

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Only after, because the whole point of a lap dance is to get your boyfriend/husband to be eager to have sex with you, and after he'll be begging for your body.

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How does a fat girl do a lap dance?

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The same way any other girl would.

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Can I give a lap dance naked?

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You should do whatever you're comfortable with, but many people think it's sexier if you take the clothes off during the dance.

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Is it good to have sex afterwards?

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Sure, if you both want to. You don't need to feel pressured to do anything you're not comfortable with, but know that that is probably what he will want once you've turned him on.

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How can I tell if my boyfriend thinks this is boring?

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Just ask him if he likes it!

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How do I overcome shyness pertaining to my body?

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Try wearing clothes you like and know you feel great in. Remember that your boyfriend/husband chose you because he loves the person you are, not just your appearance. He will be far less happy if you hide away all the time instead of embracing the fact that both of you are in love and care for each other as you both are. Give yourself into abandon, not self criticism, and you'll have a ball.

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How do I not be embarrassed about doing a lap dance?

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Just be confident! Of course you will have some nervousness to begin with but just melt in with the mood.

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How old should I be before giving a lap dance?

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I would say 18, or at least the age of consent in your state considering how sexual a lap dance is.

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What if I don't feel like showing my body to my boyfriend?

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You don't have to fully expose yourself. If you feel uncomfortable exposing yourself, you can just partially remove your clothes or stay fully clothed.

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Can I rip my partner's clothes off while doing the lap dance?

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Yes, if you want to and he's alright with it!

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Can males lap dance, too?

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Yes. Anybody who wants to can lap dance.

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How old should a girl be before trying something like this?

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Wait till you're at least 18, and never do it under pressure from a man. Ideally, you'd be able to do it freely as a treat for the man you've married after you've tied the knot.

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Can you do the lap dance in the shower?

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If it is a big shower, then yes.

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Can I grab someone while performing a lap dance?

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As long as it is okay with the person you are giving the lap dance to, yes.

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Can I squeeze his muscles and play with his penis?

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Yes, you can.

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Can I play with his penis?

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Sure. He's your man, so you can customize your lap dance however you'd like.

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Will this work if he's not my boyfriend or husband?

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Yes, just try to avoid doing it for anyone else's boyfriend or husband, you don't want to cause unnecessary drama.

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If I want to practice this before my boyfriend comes over, could I use a large stuffed animal or something like that?

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Yes, that would work well for practicing.

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What should I do if my boyfriend doesn't love me?

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If he doesn’t love you, that isn’t a healthy relationship. Break up with him. It might hurt, but the relationship won’t go anywhere good if he doesn’t love you.

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Can I do a lap dance with a seated woman?

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You can do it for anyone, male or female. Guys can do lap dances for girls or guys, as can girls.

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What if I'm trying to get pregnant?

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You can still do a lap dance if you wish, and then just don't use a condom or other birth control methods during intercourse.

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Can the guy grab my butt?

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Remember the whole point is to build tension and make him want you so I would wait till the dance is over.

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Can I do also sing instead of just turning on music?

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You can if you want to, but it might distract your boyfriend/husband from the lap dance, which is the whole point. And if you're not a very good singer, that would be an even bigger distraction!

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Can he be naked when I am doing the lap dance?

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If you are both comfortable with it, then sure!

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Will it matter if I have stretch marks?

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No not at all. Stretch marks are nothing, most people either have them or will get them. Enjoy yourself and forget about the marks.

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I have no rhythm, so how can I dance for my husband?

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Try taking dance classes or look up dance videos on YouTube. Everyone has rhythm, they just need to know how to find it.

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