Q&A for How to Talk to a Shy Guy

Talk to him. Try to become his friend. It's hard, but you won't get anywhere by sitting and waiting for him to make a move, especially if he's shy. He probably looks away when you look at him because he's nervous about you noticing that he's staring.

You will probably scare him off if you do this. Try saying hi first. Have a casual chat. Once you get to know him better and he feels more comfortable around you, then you can ask him how he feels about you.

1.) Persistence is the key. 2.) Try to find common interests. 3) Observe, observe -- if he is particularly good at something, compliment him on it. 4.) If all fails, you may have to accept the fact that he's not interested in a relationship -- at least not at this point.

Go on a date to somewhere that involves communication -- like rock climbing or game night at the house. Do something you both enjoy that also forces him to take his hands out of his pockets and forces him to communicate. Once he gets comfortable talking, then he will open up and talk to you about some other things.

Sure, yes, these are good signs. But it's also no more than just one drop of water into a bathtub. If love is taking a nice warm bath, then a smile is just the first drop of water to fill the tub. Next, try to engage him in more meaningful conversations, especially outside of the usual setting. Give him some personal information about you, like your true thought about this or that subject; let him feel you're honestly opening up about it - that is really attractive. But make sure he is in the same gear as you are.

Don't get frustrated; go slowly. Remember that for two people to get together, there are four options: yes-no, no-no, no-yes and yes-yes. Only 1/4 leads to a relationship; if he doesn't want to, you can't force him, and your yes alone is no guarantee. However, at a certain point you can perhaps jokingly scold him for his unresponsiveness: "I've been trying to get your attention for decades; I'm getting ready to flash you just to get your attention." But if he really doesn't respond, try backing down entirely. If he doesn't like you, he'll do nothing; if he really does like you, he'll come to you.

Try to engage in more conversation with him and be open, also read his moods and body language to tell if it is the right time, also spend more time with him or sit with him at lunch.

When we love someone, all we want from this life is to be with that someone. All day, all night, in wake or sleep, with every breath we draw. We want to touch, talk, dance, listen, be near. Of course, if we want to keep this person in our life, we have to give some distance too, or they get suffocated and we lose the love we had. If his distance is balanced by lavishing affection at other times, then it's good. If not, then it's bad. And someone who gives you no more attention than saying hi and bye to you isn't your boyfriend; that's barely a casual acquaintance.

We have the right to annoy and bother people. When you visit a house, you ring the doorbell, not knowing if the homeowner is on the toilet that very moment, which would be annoying. You can't know if it bothers him until you talk to him, but you can leave him alone again as soon as he indicates you're bothering him.

He could be into you, or he could only be concerned that you're cold. Only he knows. But consider the logical consequences of which one you assume it is. If you assume he's into you and act accordingly, you might get to know him better, make a new friend, or even find love. Even if he was merely concerned that you were cold, if you show you at least want to have a few short conversations, his feelings might grow because of that. That's how we take initiative, and how friendships grow.

It is completely up to you. If you have deep feelings for him, and he has done the same, and you feel as if you two would have a stronger relationship together, go for it! Talking about dating with him will help, chances are he is feeling the same way as you.