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75 Interesting Topics to Talk About with a Guy

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Friendly, in-depth, flirty—talk to any guy in style

Co-authored by Maria Avgitidis and Donna Sarkar

Last Updated: August 2, 2024 Fact Checked

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Let’s face it—starting a conversation with a guy you’ve just met or don’t know very well can seem really intimidating. You want to have a fun and engaging conversation that keeps a guy interested and avoids any awkwardness. So where do you start? Fortunately, there are so many different conversation starters for you to choose from. Here’s a list of the best talking points for a meaningful conversation with a guy that’ll leave you feeling confident and ready to start chatting!

Interesting Topics to Talk About

Learn more about a guy's passions by asking about his hobbies and interests.
Share a funny story to connect with him.
Ask him what his favorite restaurant or meal is.
Inquire about what he studies, does for a living, or aspires to do.
Give him a chance to open up about his loved ones.

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Hobbies and Interests

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Guys love talking about their passions in life. Let’s face it, we all enjoy talking about ourselves. Ease into the conversation by asking him about his interests. You might end up having some shared hobbies to bond over! ^{[1]
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Research source} Here are a few questions to get you started:
- What are some fun facts about yourself?
- What do you like to do in your free time?
- What hobbies have you always wanted to try?
- What is your favorite sport?
- Do you have any hidden talents?

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Funny Stories

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Nothing breaks the ice like a hilarious or embarrassing story. Laughter can be a great way to connect with people and relieve tension. Try telling him a joke or sharing a funny story. If he doesn’t find it funny, don’t be discouraged. ^{[2]
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Research source} Keep the conversation going by asking him what he does find funny. You could ask:
- What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?
- What’s your favorite joke?
- Do you have a favorite comedian?
- What are some videos or memes that make you laugh?
- What is the funniest text you’ve ever gotten or sent?
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Entertainment and Pop-Culture

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Everyone can bond over books, movies, and music. Pick his brain about what types of movies he loves to watch or the type of music he likes to listen to. You might just get a great movie recommendation or find your new favorite song. Pick his brain by asking him:
- What’s the best book you’ve ever read?
- What show are you currently binge-watching?
- Who’s your favorite actor or actress?
- What’s your most listened to song?
- What band would you love to see live?

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Food and Drink

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Food is a universal language. Talk to him about the types of foods he loves to cook or eat. You could even exchange tasty recipes or give him good restaurant recommendations. ^{[3]
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- What is your favorite dish?
- What is your go-to drink?
- Do you like to cook?
- What are some good local restaurants to try?
- If you had to eat one specific food every day for the rest of the year, what would it be?

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Travel

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Sharing your idea of a dream vacation can be really fun. Chances are, the guy you’re talking to has places he really wants to see or explore. Find out by sharing travel bucket lists or learning about a country he’s been dying to visit. Try asking:
- What are some places you’d love to visit one day?
- What is the best trip you’ve ever taken?
- Do you prefer flying or going on a road trip?
- What would your dream vacation look like?
- How often do you travel?

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Pets and Animals

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You can bond over animals with just about everyone. Even if the guy you’re talking to doesn’t have a pet, asking him about his favorite animal or dream pet is a great way to get to know him. If you have a pet yourself, you could also share a picture to start the conversation. ^{[4]
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- Do you own any pets?
- What is your spirit animal?
- Are you a dog or cat person?
- Did you have any pets when you were growing up?
- If you could have any animal as a pet, what would it be?

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Career and Education

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When it comes to work, there’s so much to talk about. Ask the guy you’re talking to what he does for a living or what he studies. This can be a great conversation starter and also help you learn more about his daily life. Here are a few questions you can ask:
- What does your typical day look like?
- What is your dream job?
- What was (or is) your favorite class?
- What was your first job?
- What types of skills does your career require?

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Childhood

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Get him reminiscing about growing up. There are so many memories from our childhoods that make for a great conversation. Exchanging childhood stories can help you bond and relate over similar experiences. If he seems open to talk about his past, try asking him:
- Where did you grow up?
- Where did you go to school?
- What were you like as a kid?
- What’s your favorite childhood memory?
- How is life different today compared to when you were growing up?

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Family and Friends

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We all have people we care about in our lives. Giving him a chance to talk about the people that are important to him will allow him to lead the conversation. If you both know someone in common, you can both talk about that person, especially if they were the one that introduced you to the guy. Get the conversation rolling by asking:
- What’s your family like?
- Do you have any siblings?
- How often do you see your family?
- Do you have a close friend group?
- Who is the closest person to you in your life?

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Love and Relationships

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Everyone has an opinion on love. Let’s be honest, if you are interested in the guy you are talking to, you are probably curious about his dating life. ^{[5]
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Research source} Even if he’s already in a relationship or you just want to be friends, talking about his love life is a great way to share something heartfelt and meaningful. Start the conversation by asking:
- Are you seeing anyone romantically?
- What do you look for in a relationship?
- What was your first date like?
- What qualities do you find attractive in a partner?
- What are your relationship deal breakers?

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Compliments

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Guys love compliments. Just like girls, guys also love receiving compliments. ^{[6]
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- “I love your fashion sense or style.”
- “You have a really nice smile.”
- “You have a great sense of humor.”
- “Great job on your presentation today.”
- “You have excellent taste in movies.”

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Social Media

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Most people spend a good amount of time online. Even if you don't have a heavy social media presence, we all have that one social media platform that we can’t get enough of or just spend too much time on. You may have even met or built a relationship with the guy you’re talking to online. ^{[7]
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- What is your favorite or most visited social media site?
- Do you spend a lot of time on social media?
- Have you seen this meme or funny video?
- What is your least favorite social media platform?
- Do you prefer online or real life interactions?

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Zodiac Signs

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Astrology is a hot topic to mention right now. Whether he knows all about his zodiac sign or has no clue about astrology, this topic could spark a really fun conversation. ^{[8]
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- Do you know what your zodiac sign is?
- Do you believe in horoscopes?
- What is your birthday or birth month?
- What are the common traits of your zodiac sign?
- Do you know what element (water, air, earth, or fire) rules your zodiac sign? ^{[9]
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Goals and Dreams

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Guys love talking about their hopes and dreams. Asking him about what he’s looking forward to might reveal common goals you share and help you learn what he envisions for his future. Here are a few solid ways to bring up the topic:
- Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
- What has been a lifelong goal of yours?
- If a crystal ball could reveal your future, what would you hope it includes?
- What are your future career goals?
- Do you see marriage or kids in your future?

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About Yourself

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Keep the conversation from being one-sided by sharing about yourself. Talking about yourself will give him the chance to get to know you better and make him feel more comfortable to open up to you. ^{[10]
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- Talk about your favorite hobbies or what you like to do in your free time.
- Discuss your profession or career and what you like about it.
- Give him some good movie or book recommendations.
- Share some memorable childhood stories.
- Talk about places on your travel bucket list

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If you're at a social event or in a business environment, try asking the guy what his plans are for the weekend or break the ice by commenting on why you are currently at the same social event, as this can help him open up to speaking with you.

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Avoid asking too many questions at once. The last thing you want in a conversation is to feel like you’re in the hot seat or being interrogated. ^{[11]
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Maria Avgitidis

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This article was co-authored by Maria Avgitidis and by wikiHow staff writer, Donna Sarkar . Maria Avgitidis is the CEO & Matchmaker of Agape Match, a matchmaking service based out of New York City. For over a decade, she has successfully combined four generations of family matchmaking tradition with modern relationship psychology and search techniques to ensure her professional clientele are introduced to their ultimate match. Maria and Agape Match have been featured in The New York Times, The Financial Times, Fast Company, CNN, Esquire, Elle, Reuters, Vice, and Thrillist. This article has been viewed 161,295 times.

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