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Shelby Devlin, MA

Sex & Intimacy Coach

Shelby Devlin is a Sex & Intimacy Coach based in San Francisco, California. She has over 7 years of experience guiding individuals and couples in deepening their capacity for intimacy and pleasure. Shelby specializes in BDSM therapy, D/s, and fetish exploration. She is certified in the Somatic Method, an experiential therapy modality. Shelby is also a certified massage therapist (CMT) and an associate practitioner of Ortho-Bionomy. She has a 5-star coaching rating.

Education

  • San Francisco State University, M.A., Sexuality Studies

Professional Achievements

  • Shelby is an advanced instructor at the Somatica Institute
  • Was named the best sex and intimacy coach for BDSM by DatingAdvice.com
  • She regularly guest lectures at Stanford University
  • Has achieved 5-star reviews on Yelp and Google

Certifications & Organizations

  • Certified Somatica Coach
  • Certified Massage Therapist
  • Associate Practitioner of Ortho-Bionomy

Favorite Piece of Advice

If you want to have pleasurable sex and meaningful relationships, investing in the skill of communication is the best way to have both.

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Co-authored Articles (12)

Bondage 101: How to Tie Up Your Lover, Explained

The step-by-step guide to safe, consensual rope playTying someone up can be a fun and sexy thing to do—for both you and the person you're tying up. The heightened sensations and vulnerability can result in some thrilli...

How to Have an Orgasm (for Women)

Orgasms are a great way to be intimate with both yourself and your partner. These brief moments of pleasure offer a host of benefits, like helping you manage your menstrual symptoms, improving your fertility, and help yo...

How to Hogtie Someone for Bondage or BDSM: Instructions, Safety & More

The safest materials and techniques for sensual, exhilarating bondage playIf you’re looking to spice up your love life with some bondage or role playing, the classic hogtie probably comes to mind. This sensual position...

How to

Buy a Sex Toy Under the Age of 18

It's totally normal to be curious about your body and your sexuality as a teen. Getting a sex toy can help you figure out what feels good to you and allows you to relieve your sexual urges. In most areas, it's not illega...

How to Roleplay as a Dominatrix and Thrill Your Partner

A comprehensive guide to harnessing your inner sex goddess Has your partner mentioned that they'd like for you to dominate them in the bedroom? Acting like a dominatrix is about more than wearing leather and cracking a w...

How Sexual Am I Quiz

So, sex! People are doing it every day, and many more people are thinking about it. It’s just part of nature, but we each have a particular relationship to it. What’s yours? Answer these 12 quick questions and we’...

How to Tell Your Partner about Your Foot Fetish

Break the ice with your partner with these professional tips Don't be embarrassed about having a thing for your partner's sexy, alluring feet. There's a way to tell your special someone about your foot fetish without up...

How Vanilla Am I Quiz

If someone were to give your mind a movie rating, what would it be? Deep down, are you totally PG, or are you more of a late-night, R-rated movie? We’re here to find out. Just answer these 10 spicy questions and we’...

How to

Enjoy Your Fetish

'''Enjoying your fetish comes down to accepting that it's a natural part of your sexual desires and learning to communicate your needs openly with a partner.''' While many people think of fetishes as being outside the ma...

How to

Set up a Romantic Bath

Creating a romantic bath is an opportunity to experience relaxation and intimacy with a partner. You can use items from around the home or bought from stores to create passion in your bathroom. To create the romantic exp...

The Intimate Benefits for Couples That Shower Together

Plus, how to share the space whether you’re getting clean or dirtyLots of couples shower together for various reasons, from having to get out the door in a hurry or for more intimate, steamy experiences. In either case...

15 Ways to Be a More Passionate & Intimate Lover

Stay connected to your partner and spice things up with these tips For a lot of people, sex is a pretty important part of any romantic relationship. Sure, it's not the ''only'' thing, but it's up there—and maybe you fe...