How to Dance with a Girl to Attract Her (in a Club)

Reviewed by John Keegan

Last Updated: June 19, 2023

Do you want to sexually attract a girl dancing at a club or a party, which could lead to make out or hooking up with them? Here are some guidelines how to do that.

Method 1

Method 1 of 3:

Jump

Download Article

1
Just jump into an interaction and start. When you enter a party or a club, don't waste time. - Just start doing what you intended. This is a crucial step; the more you delay, the harder it would get. So just as you enter the club, push yourself to begin, even if every fiber in your body is against it. You will realize that your mental state prior to pushing yourself was irrational and feel better instantly. Some of the ways to do that are:
- Start talking to people around you.
- Jump on the floor and dance alone for a while until you feel more relaxed.
Night clubs and parties are very high energy environments, so it is necessary to increase your energy to that level if you want to have fun. If you don't, it is likely that you will never ramp your energy and will lag behind while standing at the side watching other people dance. So don't analyze or think - just jump into the lively interactions. This is not only attractive, but also helps you become action centered.

Advertisement
If you see a girl dancing with another girl or alone, just approach her without wasting time. Use common sense when a girl is dancing with a guy then don't approach her. The more you delay, the harder it's going to be and creepier you will feel about yourself.

Method 2

Method 2 of 3:

Dance: Move forward step by step

Download Article

1
Go to her. Approach her in a way that she sees you coming and start dancing with her, without touching. This will tell if she is down to dance and comfortable with you. There is another dominant way to do it and if done properly then you can skip a lot of steps in between.
- Go and grab her waist. Approach her from side or front, say something like 'Hi, you look adorable' and grab her waist. Don't have a firm grasp, it will sub-communicate that you are too drunk and doing it because of the 'liquid courage'. Don't have a loose grasp either as this will tell that you are unsure and creepy. Keep a balance. This requires a lot of confidence which says that you believe in your core that 'you deserve and are worthy to dance with her and even if she doesn't want to, it would not be a big deal for you'. If she feels uncomfortable after this move, back off and go slow, if she is still dancing besides you, or move on to the next one if she is gone.
2
Grab her hands and lead her. After dancing with her for sometime, grab her hands and lead her as you dance. Learning some simple dance moves does help. Along with that you can also do things like:
- Place your hands around her waist and move her body in a zig zag motion. Use common sense as you both are dancing so it doesn't not mean shake her with force. Go with the flow as your bodies are already moving with the music. Don't use it as a crutch either, see what works for you and what doesn't
- Grab her hands and place them on your shoulders or around your neck. This move will improve the focus between you and the girl and bring you both even closer. This is a very attractive and will emit sexual vibes between you two.
- Keep an eye contact. If you felt awkward or nervous for a millisecond you are most likely going to lose her. Keeping an eye contact shows confidence and also is seductive. Also your eye contact should sub-communicate what you want.
So far if everything is comfortable between you two then the next step is to pull her crotch closer to yours. Grab her butt with both hands and gently pull her closer to you. Again keep a solid eye contact.
Now as there is a good eye contact, you can feel her breath, bodies are fused together, you are dancing slowly and she is not offering much resistance etc., then go for the make out. If she denies, stand your ground and stay there as if its not a big deal, because its not. She is still dancing with you, right? A confident and humble smile helps a lot.
5
Try other angles. Trying the same thing again and again is going to hurt your plan. You must 'keep her on her toes' by trying different angles. There are many different things you can do in this situation to make out with her, like.....
- Grind. Flip her around, in a way, that your crotch is rubbing against her butts(Grinding). Read Grind to learn more about it. This is a sexually charged and effective move to arouse both of you. While your crotch is rubbing against her hips, grab her waist or thighs and pull her closer to make the body contact even tighter. Rub your crotch in any motion to keep the sexual energy going. Adjust your height according to her as the main thing is to keep her hips and your crotch at the same level or its not going to very arousing.
- Bite her neck. Its biology, while animals are having intercourse they bite each other's neck because it arouses them even more. Since we have the same instincts within us, so it helps arouse your partner.
Since the music is loud so this gives you an excuse to bring your face closer to her ear and talk. This is quite sensual as ear is one of woman's erogenous zone. This is a high energy environment so using sexual allusions or references can help your game and take her mind off the uneasiness, if she is feeling uncomfortable.
Take advantage of your grasp around her. Stroking around her body like her back, butts, shoulders, neck etc. is a turn on. Make sure you do it gently. Don't be a creep by going for her breasts, this is not going to get you anywhere, in fact it's going to reduce the sexual energy.
Go for the make out after trying every angle. Remember the rule: As long as she is truly smiling and comfortable, she's most likely attracted to you and the situation.
After making out with her if you feel there could be a good chemistry between you two, then shuffle her to a place where you can talk and connect. This is important if you want to hook up. Read Get a Girl to Go Home With You for more depth.

Method 3

Method 3 of 3:

Be Prepared

Download Article

Yes its a cliché but truth. Mind creates the environment around you. Its subliminal and not completely understood, but you would have noticed it that when you are feeling confident and exhilarated from deep inside, this is seen in your actions and this is also reflected in the feedback from people around you, this also makes you look attractive. Good things happen to you when you are feeling good from the inside. In the same way when you are feeling anxious and fear, you get more related thoughts and same is seen in the environment around you. To snap out of irrational and anxious state of mind, push yourself without wasting time. Just Jump.
The balance is, "I want to dance with you but I am fine without you." This is important, as girls are attracted to guys who are not needy.
The girl in your arms is your priority. Make her feel special, genuinely, because she is. She agreed to dance with you and allowed you to come so close to her, Right?
The most important thing is to have fun. Thinking and nonsense thoughts are only going to make it worse. You gave your mind any room to think and this is going to destroy your game. Ask yourself, What's the worst that can happen? She will say no. That's it, bottom line. Remember If you are not having fun you are not doing it right.
Women like a guy who is confident. Displaying confidence helps to convince her you know what you are doing and sure of yourself. And by doing so, may help rid yourself of any nervous emotions so you can continue to have fun.
Yes, its normal. Who would feel like home after coming to a club or party?.

Expert Q&A

Search

Add New Question

Ask a Question

200 characters left

Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.

Submit

Tips

Wear a good cologne or deodorant, it will improve your chances of attracting women. The way you smell is very important. But keep in mind not to wear a heavy amount or this will result in the opposite effect.

Thanks
Helpful 1 Not Helpful 1
It's a good idea to bring a friend/wingman with you, if you are approaching a group of girls So he/she can occupy the other girl/girls. If you didn't, you are most likely to get blocked.

Thanks
Helpful 2 Not Helpful 0
To increase your energy to the club level, its good to talk to few people or dance for sometime, as it helps to ramp up your energy level quickly.

Thanks
Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0

Show More Tips

Submit a Tip

All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published

Name

Please provide your name and last initial

Submit

Thanks for submitting a tip for review!

Warnings

Pay attention to the signs. Humans communicate verbally and physically. If she seems to stray away, loosen grip, make weak eye contact or look around nervously, it is likely she is not interested or not ready for this type of interaction. And it will decrease your chances.

Thanks
Helpful 3 Not Helpful 0
Don't try the same thing again and again, try different angles to arouse her.

Thanks
Helpful 12 Not Helpful 7

Log in

How to Dance with a Girl to Attract Her (in a Club)

Steps

Jump

Dance: Move forward step by step

Be Prepared

Expert Q&A

Tips

Warnings

You Might Also Like

About This Article

Did this article help you?

Quizzes

You Might Also Like

Featured Articles

Trending Articles

Featured Articles

Featured Articles

Watch Articles

Trending Articles

Quizzes

Explore Categories