Confusing relationship (who do I truly love?)

05/06/25 8:21pm

What can I do in a situation whereby many people fall in love with me but it is hard for me to know who I truly love among them and what can I also do to know those which really love me

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wikiHow Editorial Team

05/06/25 8:22pm

It can be tough to choose between people when you have feelings for all of them, and it's definitely possible to love more than one person at a time. Consider who you could imagine building a life with and being with in the future. Who has similar values, interests, and hobbies as you? Who makes you feel safe and cared for? Who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be your best self? On the flip side, who has displayed red flags?

Think about what you really want from a partner and out of a relationship. What are your must-haves and your deal-breakers? Who would fit best in your life? It's also possible that none of these people are the one for you if you feel unsure.

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Crista Beck
Dating Coach & Matchmaker

05/06/25 8:39pm

You can tell you really love someone when you've spent time getting to know them, and you develop a good connection with each other. Seeing how someone acts in their life and seeing how they respect you and treat you is a great foundation for long-term love. It's a good sign if you can picture your lives together and you have a mutual respect for each other.

When you're falling in love with each other, you get excited when you see them and your heart beats faster when they reach out to you. You want to spend lots of time with them, and care about what makes them happy.

Sometimes, people feel like they're falling in love, but they're more infatuated with someone. Infatuation tends to happen when people have a lot of chemistry, but then it can easily turn into a kind of obsession or attraction. That doesn't necessarily mean that it's love or made for the long-term.

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