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Swiping right and getting that match can be exhilarating, especially with the hope that this person could be the one! Online dating is a great way to get to know someone before meeting in-person, but how can you do that? See if you vibe with your match by asking them some of these questions and playing a couple games before setting up that first date.

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“What’s your favorite thing to do over the weekend?”

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  1. When first starting to date someone online, it’s best to ask open-ended questions. This way they have to answer with more than one word! Learn more about their favorite activities and hobbies by letting them tell you about them.
    • “What do you like to do in your free time?”
    • “Is there something you can’t not do when you have a day off?”
    • “I noticed your picture of you at the lake with that giant fish. Tell me about that.”
    • Be on the lookout for raunchy pick-up lines. If they sexualize an answer to your question and it makes you feel comfortable, try talking to someone else as their idea of online dating might be different from yours. [2]
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“Do you have a favorite movie?”

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  1. Ask them open-ended questions about their favorite things like movies, food, music, and books. These types of questions are a great way to see if you have common interests.
    • “What’s the best book you’ve ever read?”
    • “Who is your favorite musician?”
    • “What’s one food you couldn’t live without?”
    • Lots of online dating platforms have these questions on their profiles. If an online profile has left these questions blank but says their favorite things are what you’ve filled out in yours, they may be fake or trying to scam you. [3]
    • If you find out that you have some interests in common, talk about that!
    • Reader Poll: We asked 235 wikiHow readers, and 59% agreed that they must have a common interest with someone they’re messaging with online. [Take Poll]
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wikiHow Quiz: Which Dating App Should I Use?

When it comes to dating apps, the problem is that most people are on the wrong platform. Looking for a thrilling fling? Then you probably shouldn’t be swiping through serious daters. Searching for your soulmate? That’s great—just be sure that your app is for hopeless romantics, not hookups. Take our quiz to find the perfect dating app for you!
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Which answer best describes what you’re looking for right now?

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“Tell me a little about your family.”

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  1. This is a question often reserved for the first date, but why wait when you’re online dating? The beauty of online dating is you can go at your own pace, getting comfortable with someone before meeting IRL. So, inquire about their family, pets, friends, and life in general to see if you have the same values.
    • “What do you and your family like to do for fun?”
    • “I saw the cutest dog on your profile! Are they yours?”
    • “How do you and your friends spend the weekend?”
    • There can be a lot of mystery when it comes to online dating. But if they're hesitant to tell you anything about their life, that’s a red flag—they may be hiding something behind their profile. [5]
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“Do you have a bucket list?”

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“Would you rather…?”

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  1. A game of “this or that” can be a great way to take a break from ordinary get-to-know-you questions while still learning something about them. All you have to do is message them two choices and see how they respond. Keep the choices relatively tame, or go for some spicier options to keep things interesting. [9]
    • “Would you rather eat bananas for the rest of your life, or eat apples for the rest of your life?”
    • “Would you rather kiss someone you’ve never met, or make out with an ex?”
    • “Would you rather go skinning dipping with a colleague, or go skinning dipping with a stranger?”
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"Kiss, marry, or kill?"

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  1. When given the chance to kiss, marry, or kill off three of their favorite celebrities, what would they do? This game will have you both laughing, and can give you a chance to learn why they make the choices they do. Simply message your online date the names of three famous people and give them the choice to kiss, marry, or kill them.
    • “If you had to kiss, marry, or kill Jim Carrey, Adam Sandler, and Seth Rogan, what would you do?”
    • “Kiss, marry, or kill Harry Potter, Professor Dumbledore, and Lord Voldemort.”
    • “Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, Billie Eilish…Kiss, Marry, Kill?”
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