How to Go from Ugly to Popular (Girls)

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Many girls question their physical appearance and social worth during the teen and preteen years; for some, this self-doubt lasts even longer. Ultimately what matters is not reaching society's standard of beauty, but creating your own. This article will teach you how to be pretty , attractive , and popular in your own way.

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Looking Your Best

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  1. Keep your body, face, teeth, and hands clean. Put together a good hygiene routine, and stick to it every day. [1]
  2. Dress to impress . Wear clean, good-looking clothes in a style you enjoy. Donate clothes that are ill-fitting, that aren't a good color on you, or that you just don't enjoy wearing. [2]
    • If a shirt gets a hole in it, throw it out, use it as a dust rag, or mend it (if you can sew).
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  3. Have you ever seen a girl in makeup who looked like a clown? She most likely wasn't wearing the right colors for her skin tone. [3]
    • In the way of lip color, for fair-complexioned people, soft or light pinks and salmons work best. For dark-complexioned people, rich, deep reds, browns, and even purples will work best.
    • You might have to experiment with foundations, concealers, blush, and other face makeup. Try to get a foundation that matches your jawline. Concealers generally should be a couple shades lighter than your natural skin tone.
  4. Makeup is very optional, and you don't have to wear it if it isn't your style.
  5. Some people get into a pattern of doing things that hurt their bodies. If you have a bad habit, talk to a trusted adult about how to handle it. [4]
    • Picking at or popping pimples won't fix the problem. Instead, you'll likely make the red spot bigger and worse.
    • Don't tan. This can damage your skin, and increase your risk of cancer. Use sunscreen if you're going to be out in the sun for long. [5]
    • Avoid fad diets, or restrictive diets. Starvation and yo-yo dieting can damage your metabolism, and make you heavier. Instead, make little habit changes (like eating more fruits and vegetables) over time. Eat when you're hungry, and stop when you're full.
    • Stay away from cigarettes, recreational drugs, and alcohol.
  6. Regular exercise helps you look and feel your best. Try to spend at least half an hour, three times per week, moving around. [6]
    • Even light exercise, like taking a walk, is good for your body! You can invite people you care about to go on walks with you, to get some quality time together.
    • Get some sunlight if you can.
  7. Healthy food can give you more energy, and help you get glowing skin. Try to fill 1/3 of your plate with fruits and vegetables, and go for the healthy snacks. [7]
    • Pay attention to cravings. Sometimes they tell you about what nutrients your body is missing.
  8. Most teens don't get enough sleep, and this can lead to irritability and a less attractive look. Getting a good sleep will help you feel fresh and alert. Try to get up at about the same time each day, and go to bed around the same time. [8]
    • Minimize screen time before bed. If you plan on doing it, install a blue light filter to help prepare your brain for bedtime. [9]
    • Pay attention to feelings of tiredness. You probably feel tired for a reason, so get some extra rest.
  9. Keep a water bottle at your desk, and refill it when it gets low. Use a drinking straw if it encourages you to drink more. Proper hydration helps give your skin a healthy glow. [10]
  10. Take time to relax and do something you enjoy each day. Pay attention to feelings of stress, and figure out ways you can deal with your emotions in a positive way.
    • Talk to a doctor if you're experiencing stress that interferes with everyday activities like school, family, sleeping, eating, or relaxing.
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Changing Up Your Appearance

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  1. There's nothing wrong with experimenting, or with taking your look in a new direction.
  2. Look for new ways to wear your hair in magazines or on the internet. Experiment with new styles that look interesting to you. [11]
    • Trim off any split ends.
    • Try getting a new haircut. To choose something especially flattering, figure out what your face shape is, and go for a haircut that looks good with your face shape.
    • Try temporarily dying your hair a new color to see if you like it.
  3. Try learning to do new things, like contouring . Play with it, and see how it goes.
    • If you aren't sure where to start, try highlighting your favorite feature, like your pretty eyes or big lips.
    • Start small, and work your way up. If you overdo makeup, or don't know what you're doing, you may end up looking clownish.
  4. Try out a new style if you'd like, or find things that match your own personal style. Look for clothes that you think would be fun to wear, and that suit your coloring and body type. [12]
    • Stick to what’s trending by buying what’s featured in your favorite stores. If you see multiple mannequins rocking a particular style, it’s most likely in style.
    • Try figuring out what your body type is, so that you can dress to enhance your natural beauty.
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Socializing Well

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  1. Not everyone may think you're interesting or attractive, and that's okay. Instead, look for people who "click" with you.
    • Personality is far more important than looks. A sweet, plain-looking girl is far more attractive than a gorgeous mean girl. [13]
    • It's okay if you aren't popular. It's more important to find a group of friends who you enjoy spending time with.
  2. You won't instantly make new friends, even if you get a huge makeover. If you've felt lonely or left out before, you'll still have those feelings sometimes. Making new friendships takes time. You may not become popular instantly, but that doesn't mean you should give up.
    • Avoid the temptation to compare yourself to other girls. You can't see their insecurities and problems, only their public face, so it's not fair to compare your worst moments to their best ones. [14]
  3. People admire confident people, so work on presenting yourself well. Keep a straight posture, and look people in the eye. If you don't feel confident, don't stress! just remember to be yourself and fake it 'till you make it! soon, you will realize that you do have many reasons to be confident.
    • If you have a disability that makes eye contact uncomfortable to you, you can fake it by looking at people's noses or mouths. Most people can't tell the difference.
  4. Speak slowly and clearly enough to be heard. Be polite, and avoid mean words and foul language. Work on keeping a warm, friendly, and upbeat tone of voice in everyday social interactions.
  5. Don't hide parts of you that are unique. Instead, let your quirks shine. They're part of your own unique beauty.
  6. Don't gossip, call names, or say things that could hurt someone's feelings. Kindness makes a big difference when it comes to making friends and building a positive reputation.
  7. Make eye contact, say hello, and join conversations. Take it one step at a time.
  8. Be a good listener . Give people your full attention. Look at them, and nod your head or make remarks like "I see" or "And then what?" from time to time to show that you're listening. Validate their feelings to help them feel understood. [15]
  9. In any situation, ask yourself "What is the kindest choice I can make?" Strive to be caring and helpful to other people, without expecting anything in return. People remember these things.
    • There's a difference between being kind and overextending yourself. If you think something would drain too much energy, it's okay to say no. You can't pour from an empty cup, and you can't help others if you're exhausted yourself.
  10. Keep secrets, and keep your promises. If you think you can't do something, be upfront about it. People like people who they can rely on.
    • If you can't do something that you said you could, text the person right away and explain what's going on.
  11. Instead of trying to change yourself to be more popular, focus on being the best possible version of yourself. Only do what feels authentic to you.
    • You don't need to fit a narrow standard of beauty. There are many kinds of beauty, so work on embracing your own kind.
    • People can often tell when you're trying to be someone you're not. It may make them feel less comfortable around you. It's better to be authentic.
  12. Look for people who help you feel good about yourself and the world, and who have traits that you admire.
    • It's okay if these people aren't very popular. What counts is whether you enjoy spending time with them.
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    First of all, recognize that there are many types of beauty. Just because you look different from the beautiful people you see doesn't mean you're ugly; you're just a different type of beauty. Stop seeing your quirks as flaws, and start seeing them as assets: crooked smiles, chubby faces, freckles, gap teeth, and other traits can all look charming with the right attitude. Embrace yourself as-is. For more ideas, check out our article on how to Accept Being Unattractive .
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    Think about your hobbies and interests. Spend lots of time on those, and look for friends who share them. Having something you enjoy helps you stand out. Treat people with kindness, and do good things for them; this will help them remember you positively and help you stand out from the crowd. If you want to feel special, then spend time with people who treat you well and help you feel good about yourself. Also, see if there's a way you can spend time volunteering to make a difference, from helping at a soup kitchen to improving articles at wikiHow.
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    That's okay! You don't need makeup to look great, or to make friends. Wash your face well each day to help keep it healthy, and try applying sunscreen to protect your skin. Play with different ways to style your hair, like braiding it or using creative accessories. (Find inspiration online.) Try using jewelry and accessories for fun, too. Most of the steps in this article, like reaching out to new people and getting more exercise, can be done with no makeup! You can make friends and look fabulous with a makeup-free face.
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