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How can I improve my relationship with my siblings?

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You can improve your relationship with your siblings by practicing kindness, stopping name-calling, and speaking to your siblings with respect. Do fun activities together, team up and work towards a common goal such as playing in a band. You can also bond with each other through humor such as practicing jokes or watching comedy shows together. There is an unspoken sibling code, you always have each other’s backs, never tell on them, unless they might get hurt or are in danger. Doing the above mentioned can improve your sibling relationship and increase the chance to become lifelong friends.

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If I'm grumpy, should I go hang out with my sister or stay away?

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Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor based in Wisconsin. She specializes in addictions, mental health problems, and trauma recovery. She has worked as a counselor in both community health settings and private practice. She also works as a writer and researcher, with education, experience, and compassion for people informing her research and writing subjects. She received Bachelor’s degrees in Communications and Psychology from the University of Wisconsin, Green Bay. She also earned an MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University.

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Try explaining that you're grumpy, and telling your sister what you need to cheer up. If you want to be alone for a while, just say so! But don't make her feel like it's her fault that you're grumpy. Say something like, "I'm having a bad day and I'm not in a great mood. It's not you. I need some time to myself for awhile, but tomorrow we can do something together."

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How do you say sorry when you want to be sorry? My sister and I don't have a good relationship and I really want to fix that. I always feel like a bully around her.

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Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor based in Wisconsin. She specializes in addictions, mental health problems, and trauma recovery. She has worked as a counselor in both community health settings and private practice. She also works as a writer and researcher, with education, experience, and compassion for people informing her research and writing subjects. She received Bachelor’s degrees in Communications and Psychology from the University of Wisconsin, Green Bay. She also earned an MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University.

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Saying you're sorry and changing your behavior to really show that you're sorry are two different things. It's great to apologize verbally, but follow it up by treating your sister better. First, do your best to stop bullying her. Use kind words, even when she lashes out at you. Do nice things for her, even when she doesn't appreciate it. It may take some time for your sister to realize that you want to fix the relationship, but it will have to start with you. When she does start to notice, your relationship will slowly begin to improve.

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What if they are rude to you?

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Focus on what you can control. Even if they are rude, be kind to them. Consider having a talk with them about their attitude and tell them that you want to improve your relationship.

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What should I do if I get in trouble for something my sibling has done?

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Talk to your parents about the issue. You can even talk to your sibling to see if they will confess so that you don't take the blame for them.

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