Q&A for How to Be a Mean Girl

Something out of this world, mostly cute like a dress that will have the boy’s eyes glued to you.

The best way to get someone to stop being mean is to throw them off. For example, if they're telling you that you're an idiot, say something like, "But you're super cool!" and smile. It's hard to think of a comeback for that, isn't it? If they say you're fat, say "Go big or go home!" Never show them that they're bothering you, as that will only encourage them. If someone is really harassing you, find an authority figure.

Yes, you can act like this in fourth grade, although it might not be the best idea if you want to make friends.

If you are a girly girl, then you will come off as weak to some (sexist) people, which makes you an easy target. You're correct that this is unfair, but it's still true.

Act innocent. Just act like you never even did it.

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Stop being friends. From the sound of it, you're not friends anyway. People will respect you for making that choice, and chances are, you'll still be popular, but in a better way.

That is probably a risk you take when you're mean. If you want to be popular and well-known in a good way, try to be nice.

Yes. Step two in “Being Mean Like Regina George” says that.

Act like them, be mean to the same people they're mean to, dress like them (not exactly like them, just wear things you think they would wear). Don't date people they've got a crush on or their exes. If they're mean to you at any point, act cool, don't insult them back. You want them as a friend, not an enemy.

You may be subconsciously looking for attention. Try to let your friends be the center of attention occasionally. Be aware and stop yourself when you see yourself trying to steal the spotlight.

You can, but that would be more trolling than being a mean girl. There is a difference so be care not to just be a troll.

Apologize. Tell them you were in a bad mood or you were upset about something and you didn't mean to hurt their feelings.

I agree, the people reading this will have to judge if they're actually ready to do this kind of thing, because it is something you'll never be able to take back. As a middle schooler myself, I read this because it amuses me (and so I can be sure I'm not doing any of it). To everyone reading this, I want you to think about the consequences. There's a very high chance that people will just stop liking you. More likely than not, you'll be someone that people are scared of. You won't be respected. You won't have any real friends. People will go to principals, teachers and parents. Even if you make up, people will still look at you and see a bully. Do you really want to be known for that?

Maybe you can be indifferent instead of mean. Walk with your head held high if she ever insults you or laughs at you. Ignore it and don't show it if you're getting upset. If she persists, either walk away, or if you're stuck where you are, just say "You're not getting anywhere, [their name], I really don't care what you have to say about me. Sometimes being indifferent is more effective than being mean.

You could model yourself after her and be just as mean... Or you could choose to be a bigger person and treat her and everyone else with kindness and respect. Love always wins out in the end over selfishness, narcissism, competition, and jealousy.

Use them as a stepping stone. Like the article said, you need to be fake nice with them.

Respect their power, but don't submit. If they insult you, act cool, like it doesn't bother you. Don't give a comeback, you aren't looking for an enemy! Remember to follow trends and dress similar to, but not exactly like them. NEVER steal the crushes, boyfriends, or even exes of the mean girls. Be mean to who they are mean to, but don't be a straight up bully. Be unique, but don't be a weirdo. They might want more diversity in their clique! Try to get a hold of the rules of the clique and follow them. Never sit with them at lunch unless they ask you, but sit a few seats or a table away so they will notice you.

I would recommend changing your behavior around your teacher so you don't get into trouble. If she confronts you about your rude behavior, just apologize and be sneakier about it in the future.

The best response is simply to smile when she insults you. Let her everyone else know she doesn't bother you. She can say what she wants, but you're mature enough to not let it get to you.

Don't. Turn over a new leaf. Think about what you want to be known for - being a bully, or a kind person. It takes a lot to erase the past, so go ahead and get started.

Act completely innocent, or even try to turn the blame on somebody else. For example, if you told a girl her skirt was "so last year" and she told on you, tell the principal/teacher/authority that you loved her skirt and had the same one last year until it got too small, and she is just out to get you in trouble.

You should keep your friends, because if you ditch them to try to make friends with popular people and that fails, you won’t have any friends, meaning you’ll be stuck with the “uncool” title. Having good friends is better than being popular, since popularity won’t last longer than high school; everyone will have matured. So stick with your friends, even if they aren’t exactly popular.

Wear skirts, crop tops, heels, and pink. Try to keep up with the latest trends.

If you want him to pay attention to you, just be yourself. If he is really rude, you might want to find someone else to talk to.

This is a common theme in movies. However, in real life anyone can be popular, whether they are cheerleaders or not.

Don't be mean, but be firm. Thank the person for their opinion and don't let it get to you.

Serious bullying needs attention. Tell an authority. No, you won't be a tattle-tale, you'll be telling. Tattle-tailing is to get someone in trouble, telling is when you have a serious problem. Leave a note, an email, have a conversation, but do not keep it to yourself!

If you are faced with a bully, then show your friends your mean side. Don't be "really mean and rude" to people for no apparent reason.You might end up losing your friends.

Everybody feels that way sometimes, so try not to stress about it too much. It's also very common for your emotions to get a little out of control when you a preteen/teen. You should talk to someone about how you're feeling, like a parent, teacher, school counselor, etc. You can also write about how you're feeling in a journal. If you try to be cheerful all the time, even when you don't feel that way, it's bound to cause problems. Don't keep your feelings bottled up inside.