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    My two best friends are going to a different middle school. They tell me to make new friends, but I'm not sure how to. I want to be popular from the start, but, I feel like I'd say the wrong thing.
    II BoomSmash II
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    You'll never know if you don't try! Try to identify the potential popular girls from day one and start talking to them. It can't hurt to try, and you won't already have any kind of reputation since you're new there.
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    What if you are scared the girls will judge you or not like you and wonder what you're doing here?
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    Look at how the girls treat each other, or how they treat other people who try to hang out with them. If they act mean, they're probably not pleasant people to be with, even to each other. Find a different group of friends instead.
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    I'm in the sixth grade and the popular crowd doesn't like me. What do I do?
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    You cannot force people to like you. However, you can work on being more social, kind, and a better listener. If, at the end of the day, these girls still do not like you, work on strengthening the friendships you have. You can be popular in the sense you have a lot of close friends without necessarily being part of the popular click.
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    The popular kids at my school are always talking in lessons and getting detentions. How can I be one of them if I'm not allowed to get detentions?
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    You decide what you're comfortable doing, not them. You can still talk to them, but don't let them tell you what to do.
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    I just started hanging out with the "populars" about a week ago and I wanna go back to hanging out with my friends. How do I convince my friends to forgive me?
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    Apologize and admit that you made a mistake. If they don't accept you back, try calling your closest friend. You might be able to hang out just with the two of you, and gradually earn your way back to the others.
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    How do you make friends halfway through the year?
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    If everyone is hanging out in cliques, try to make friends with people sitting next to you in class, or pick a group that looks friendly. Think of a conversation topic you can all talk about, like something that happened at school.
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    What if you get bullied by the popular girls?
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    Stay away from anyone who bullies you. Let an adult know it's happening (and keep talking to adults until one takes it seriously). By the way, popular bullies often bully each other just as much as the people around them. Trying to fit in with them is not worth it.
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    I'm smaller to the other kids at school and I feel kind of left out. Most of the popular girls are quite tall. What should I do?
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    You cannot change your physical appearance when it comes to things like height. However, personality goes a long way. Strive to be fun, kind, and outgoing. If you have a great personality, people will focus on that far more than they'll focus on your looks.
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    I'm not an overweight girl, but what if I become uncomfortable with my weight due to how other girls look?
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    I'm sure you've heard this before, but don't compare yourself to other people. It's pointless. Everyone has a different body type and not everyone can be thin. That's just the way it is. Be a healthy person. Instead of thinking about being skinny, try being athletic. Build muscle. Eat right. Don't look at the numbers on the scale, and appreciate your body for what it CAN do rather than feeling lousy about what it can't or won't do.
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    I don't show my hair. I am a Muslim girl and I cover my hair. So, should I change my scarf style if I am bored with it ?
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    You should not do anything to become popular that you are genuinely uncomfortable with. If it is against your religion to show your hair, you're better off refraining from changing that aspect of yourself. Work on socializing more and your personality over changing your looks.
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    How do you make sure you're not socially awkward? What's a good page that helps me gain social skills?
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    We have an article on exactly that subject.
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    What if I make friends with the popular girl and she ditches me because of my other friends?
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    Then she wasn't a very good friend to begin with. Anyone who would tell you to ditch your other friends is not a nice person (unless your other friends are harming you in some way). Stick with the people that treat you well and you'll be fine.
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    What if my friends are talking behind my back?
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    If it's really bad, I suggest going to a teacher, counselor, principal, etc. If you don't want to do this, go up to your "friends" and confront them about it. Don't tell them how you figured it out, just say that you know what they said and that you are not okay with it. If they continue talking about you after that, you should find some new friends.
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    What if I don't feel comfortable asking for phone numbers or starting a conversation? How will I ever become someone's friend?
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    If you want to be popular and/or have friends, you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Most people do not naturally find it easy to approach others and start up a conversation, but it's really the only way. Once you've done it a few times, you'll find it a lot less scary.
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    How do you fit in with the popular group straight away? I'm going to a new school and want to be popular from the start!
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    A great way to become popular from the start is to walk in with confidence, walk with your head high and smile. Make sure your clothes are clean and fashionable and fit you well.
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    The popular kids in my school are mean to other kids and do drugs and stuff like that, but I'm not myself at school because I'm afraid they will judge me and I will not be popular. What do I do?
    Trying2help
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    You don't want to be around those kids. If they're cruel to others, don't devote a second of your time towards them. Popular or not, hanging around with mean people is a waste of time and will actively make you unhappy. Popularity isn't like in the movies: outside of their clique, every other person will often make their own judgments on whether they like you. Just focus on being nice to people and pleasant to be around - you'll prove yourself to be likable just by being you.
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    Do you have to be in sports to be popular?
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    Of course not. It’s just something popular boys and girls tend to do. However, if it appears that you’re good at a sport, you may gain some friends who happen to also be in a popular clique.
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    How can I look like I'm wearing makeup when I'm not?
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    Take care of your skin. For eyebrows, use an old toothbrush and warm water. For bags under your eyes, get a piece of ice and rub it on them. If you like, you could use lip balm instead of lipstick.
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    I think I am friends with a girl from the popular group, but I think I was too eager. How can I help now?
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    Try to back off just a bit, but don't disappear completely. Keep talking to her occasionally, but not every chance you get. Playing "hard to get" can make someone want to be your friend even more. But don't overthink it to the point where you're driving yourself crazy.
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    The popular girls at my school are super mean, but they have so much more fun than my friends. And being around my current friends is sometimes embarrassing. I want a change. What do I do?
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    Seriously, don’t. Take it from my experience - ask yourself, do you have fun with your current friends?Are they ever mean to you? I had popular friends and they were always mean and kept telling me I’m nothing without them. I put up with that for 5 years, but now I have friends that are nice and I'm so glad. Don't ditch your friends for popularity. If you're bored with your friends, try doing some different activities!
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    I'm really shy, but want to be popular; how do I overcome my shyness?
    Community Answer
    There's some good advice in wikiHow article Overcome Shyness .
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    How do I tell my old friends that I want to hang out with the popular girls now?
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    Tell them you want to spend some time with some of your other friends, and reassure your old friends that you aren't abandoning them.
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    I'm in seventh grade. Everyone says I'm really pretty, but I'm not popular. What do I do?
    Trying2help
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    Make yourself known as a nice person who talks to everybody. Try to smile, participate and chat a lot, and people will pay more attention to you.
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    What if my friends are the less-popular people and I can be popular without them, but don't want to hurt their feelings?
    Trying2help
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    Ask yourself why you want to be popular. If your current friends make you happy, and you like them, you'll be sad without them. Anyone else who would judge you based on the company you keep isn't really worth trying so hard to impress.
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    What if my friend encourages me to smoke?
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    Don't do it. Tell them that your health is important to you and you're not going to put it at risk by doing something dumb like smoking. If they continue to pressure you, walk away and/or tell an adult.
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    How do I get a tiny waist as a kid?
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    Don’t change yourself just for popularity. Besides, not every skinny person is popular, and not every popular person is skinny. Don't worry about your weight.
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    If I'm the most popular girl at my school, what's the best thing I can do with my life after I graduate?
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    You should do whatever you want to do. Different people are good at different things, have different passions, etc. Your popularity (or lack thereof) shouldn't determine what you do with your life.
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    I don't have any classes with the popular kids. What should I do?
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    You should try to be the only popular kid in your class. Be friendly to the other students, have a good attitude, and you will be well liked.
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    If I want to get into a popular squad but I have to not be myself, should I make another popular group or change myself?
    Community Answer
    Make another popular group. If people can't accept you for who you are, they're not worth hanging out with.
  • Question
    This one popular girl complimented a pair of boots I have, so how often should I wear them? I don't want to seem desperate.
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    Just wear them as often as you were wearing them before. Don't overthink it. She might have just been trying to talk to you. If you think that's the case, try and compliment something she has next time you see her.
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