Q&A for How to Be a Successful Muslim Husband

A Muslim husband can see or touch his wife in any way. So yes. A Muslim husband can massage his wife's legs when she is tired. Of course, he should respect her decision if she refuses.

Generally, Muslim women should not be alone with or communicate with unrelated men, and they should cover their bodies and remain modest. However, in modern times, women may need to communicate with men, for example in legal situations. In these circumstances, they should do what needs to be done - nothing more, nothing less - and remain modest, lowering their gaze at that which doesn't need to be seen. Personally, to say that women not communicate at all is a tad bit extreme, especially since women are quite independent and have jobs, etc.

It would be better for the children if you and they left this abusive household. Children need to learn kindness, and this begins at home. There is a chance he may abuse the children if you stay.

Allah wants you to respect and honor your wife as she respects and honors you. You are equal in the eyes of Allah, whether you follow traditionally masculine roles or not.

You need to stay positive and calm. When you become angry, your wife starts being afraid of you. You have to think about your words and actions carefully ahead of time. Care for your wife because she has chosen you for eternity and she is your treasure.

No, it is not okay. What you are doing is haram - having unlawful relationships or encounters with women who are not your mahram. This is not only a betrayal of your wife, but a betrayal of the rights of Allah. You are bound by a covenant with your Lord, may He be exalted, and what you are required to do is to fulfill that covenant and not break it.

First of all, you need to find out why she's always angry with you. She's your wife -- talk to her. If you want to help in the kitchen, just do it. Wash the dishes, wipe down the counter tops and gauge her reaction.

You need to contact the police or a local domestic violence shelter. His behavior is inexcusable and you should not have to live with it.

Wife beating is absolutely forbidden in Islam, as well as in the laws of many countries worldwide. In addition, a healthy relationship does not involve violence, hitting, or abuse in any form. In Islam, women's rights are important and honored. The Quranic verse that has been cited as an excuse for wife "beating" is said to have been misinterpreted due to the nuances of the Arabic language. If your wife has done something that upsets you, take a break and wait until both of you are calm, then peacefully discuss the matter at hand. Never resort to violence. On top of understanding this, you may wish to dig deeper into this topic by searching the web for why wife beating is prohibited in islam and understanding why wife beating is prohibited. Also, check out our article on How to Respect Women and Their Rights as a Muslim .

If you're only with your husband for the sake of your child, it might be time to rethink this situation. Even if he's a good father, children know when one or both of their parents are unhappy, and this tends to make them unhappy. If you can't be happy with your husband, you may have to leave him. If you can't or won't do that, consider getting couple's counseling (or talking to your imam if that would make you more comfortable). An outside person's perspective might be helpful in getting your husband to realize how his anger is affecting your relationship.

Talk to a religous imam. It could even be the local one. Approaching firsthand won't help your troubles. After talking to an imam, take action. Talk to your partner and say how you truly feel.

Be honest with her, and tell her that you do not like her behavior. You can discuss things that will help you work towards a better relationship.

It is not allowed for any Muslim to watch pornographic videos at any time. This is strictly forbidden, as it leads to many other evils.

I think you should have a conversation with your wife about this. Ask her why she's not interested in sex. If she says she just doesn't feel like having sex anymore, there's a chance this could be a medical problem, i.e. a hormonal imbalance or something like that. She should visit her doctor. If it's something else, try to talk it through or visit a couples counselor together. If all else fails and she really cannot or will not have sex with you, she should be willing to open up the marriage to allow you to have other sexual partners. If sex is a necessity for you, she's going to have to understand that.

If you can definitely afford the gifts, please do it. She is your life, and to be reminded that nothing is too expensive to please her, as this is halal.

You should say you're sorry. If you really messed up that badly, you need to tell her in person that you're truly sorry, you didn't mean to hurt her, and maybe get her a gift. If that doesn't work, ask her if she would consider going to couple's counseling.

Yes. A wife can always say no to her husband if she doesn't want to have sex.

Yes, you can. You don't need a reason to deny your husband intercourse.

Nowhere does the Koran say it isn't, so yes.

It depends on where you live. If you live in a Muslim country then you can marry at the age of 16 with Sharia authorities' and parental consent.

Muslim women should not be treated by men; if, however, it is necessary (for example, if the male doctor is a specialist), then it is permissible for a woman to uncover to a man. The order of preference is: Muslim woman, non-Muslim woman, Muslim man, non-Muslim man.

You are allowed a maximum of 4 wives. But if you treat any of them as less than any other, or mistreat them at all in anyway, Mohamed (SAW) has said this is like walking on one perfect leg while another is crippled.

It is strongly disliked, as one recites the Qur'an and does dhikr with the same tongue. It is okay to use your hands, however.

Talk to her about it and there are lot if medical issues associated with oral sex. Make her understand that oral won't get her a baby.

If she hasn't accepted this, then the marriage is illegal in the religious context. Divorce her if she still doesn't accept. Without acceptance of nikah, then there's no marriage.

No person is ever a representation of an entire culture, so I wouldn't take it upon myself to try and represent your entire culture. Instead, focus on what makes you unique, on your own thoughts and feelings, your doubts, fears and anxieties and talk about all that with the woman you love. It is less important that she is a Muslim woman than that she is a person you love. If you both always keep an open mind, remember that there are cultural and religious habits or expectations that the other may see differently, then you will always be able to talk about it openly, resulting in a loving marriage.