Q&A for How to Confront Someone Who Has Been Gossiping About You

It may actually be helpful to go to their boss and report it. Don't cry or yell, though. The idea is to just go there and express your concern. Whatever the issue, make it clear that your habits or behaviors are being discussed in a group setting and let them know how uncomfortable you feel with this.

The best way to approach this would be directly and politely. You don't really need to confront the person, but try to engage in conversation. Just give them a chance to respond.

After talking to the person, they probably won't admit it, but this will make them realize that you're aware of the gossip. The individual will certainly think that going behind your back won't be helpful in the future, as it's going to get back to you and escalate the situation further.

Simply confront them. It might be hard, but know that you are completely in the right and have a good reason to confront them, as they spread a rumor about you.

First, stop defending yourself. Allow your future actions to show your character. To continue to address this just feeds the gossiping. Continue to watch your conversations and do not entertain those who gossip to you. THINK before you speak. THINK stands for True Helpful Inspiring Necessary Kind.

Tell them that it is none of their business, and that if you told them, you'd be creating more gossip!

Ignore her. Cut her out completely. A real friend wouldn't do that. If she realizes she made a big mistake and apologizes for her actions, you can consider taking her back, but I would just avoid her in the meantime. Don't worry about the gossip. If someone asks you about the rumors, feel free to correct them, but don't say negative things about your "friend" in return. Just say, "That isn't true, I never said that."

If people interrogate me, just say something like "I misinterpreted whether it was true or not and I shouldn't have discussed it any further". If you hear something about the said person, keep it to yourself until there are true confirmed facts before you tell everyone. Even then, don't spread facts for malicious or mean-spirited reasons.

That seems pretty awful of her if she accepted your apology. I would confront your former coworker directly - ask her why she accepted your apology if she was still hurt by your actions. See if the two of you can work it out that way. If she continues trying to ruin your life by preventing you from obtaining a new job, consider taking legal action.

In this situation, it's going to be hard to ignore it. Teachers are not allowed to verbally abuse students; I think that what would be best is to talk with either that teacher or take it to the hands of the principle of your school. Let someone know, because this is bullying and it's not okay.

If someone asks you about it, simply tell them it isn't true. If you have a good friend or someone you're close with, you could ask them who is saying this about you, and confront the person. But it's usually best to just ignore it and be more mature than the gossiping people around you. These kinds of rumors usually blow over after a couple of days anyway.

Who else would you fight with? Of course you're fighting with your best friend, that's what friends are for. However, you can let your friend know you want to decrease the time spent fighting and increase the time spent having fun. Also, talk about how to make fights more satisfying. I.e. if you're just yelling and screaming, you're merely exhausted and have learned nothing. Agree on a method and rules to use for arguments: "You speak, I'm quiet; then I speak, you're quiet", "first one to shout, insult or throw a punch, loses". Try to postpone the debate every time it gets heated. And most importantly: listen more than you speak.

Not everybody has to like everybody. If you (person A) are friends with one person (B) and with another (C) you can't force B and C to be friends as well. If they're not, they can't demand that you stop being friends with the other. Just manage your time a little. Hang out with one, then with the other the next day.

It is better to not. Confrontation would be awkward and would probably not do any good.

Let bygones be bygones, If it happens again don't bring it up sometimes forgiving without the sorry is the best choice you can make.

If you can't confront the gossiper, just ignore them. You don't always have to respond to rumors/gossip.