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How do you move on when you're still in love?

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Be careful to avoid a rebound relationship. If you've been rejected by your crush, it's normal to feel sad and be closed off. Give it time if you're not ready to open up and be vulnerable, as this will pass.

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Can you love someone new if you still love your crush?

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Yes! It's okay to love different people for different reasons, but you have to accept that you have feelings for a former person in your life, since they were a part of your life and you can't simply close up your heart on a whim.

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How do I react to my crush being with another person? I'm not mad nor do I hate them, I'm just very upset and confused and I don't know what to do really.

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It is just something that will take time. It is a strange feeling and it is normal to feel upset about it. The best thing you can do is to try and keep busy and try to move on.

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He is the most popular guy in the class and the person he is dating is the most popular girl in the class. I'm his best friend but I'm still in the friend zone. What I do?

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Be a good friend. If you honestly think that this girl is not good for him then tell him. If you're accused of jealousy just say you're worried about him.

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What if I think that I have no possible chance with my crush?

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If you have absolutely no chance with your crush (like if they are not interested in people of your gender or something), follow the steps in the article to move on and forget about them. If you're just saying this because you don't think you're good enough, you should give it a shot and tell your crush how you feel. You never know what might happen!

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What if my crush's boy/girlfriend lives in another country?

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It doesn't matter where they live. Respect the fact that your crush is in a relationship and don't try to come between them and their significant other.

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What if your crush's boy/girlfriend is treating her/him badly?

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Unfortunately, it's really none of your business. You can be there for your crush, but trying to break them up will not end up well for you. If you believe real abuse is occurring, tell a trusted adult.

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Why do they break up and find another person? Are they desperate?

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Sometimes, yes. If it was a bad break up between the two of you, then the other person is probably just trying to rebound. Just enjoy your life as a single and start dating only when you're ready.

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I don't know if my crush is dating, but I saw him with other girls, how do I find out?

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Ask and see. If you don't tell him how you feel, you will never know how he feels.

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What should I do if my crush has a crush on my best friend and my best friend likes him back?

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It will be tough, but if these two people really like each other, you should not stand in their way of being happy. Whatever you do, it's not worth breaking up a friendship over a crush, so talk to your friend and try to come to some kind of understanding.

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What if my crush tells me all about his relationship, and why does he still want to chat and talk to me?

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They might just consider you a trustworthy friend, or they might be trying to make you jealous. If you don't want them to tell you about their relationship, tell them that.

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What if my crush knows how I feel but still went on to date someone else?

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They might not feel the same way about you.

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How do I tell my crush that I’m upset because he’s dating a girl who cheats on others?

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It's best not to interfere in their relationship. If there's cheating in the relationship, it's unlikely to last. Don't get involved or you might be blamed for their breakup.

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I am in 7th grade and my crush is dating this girl and I am so sad. What do I do?

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Stay friends with your crush and see what happens. Their relationship might not last and then you might have your turn. However, try not to get involved or try to break them up.

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I have never spoken to my crush, but their friends made up lies that I'm a stalker and I'm obsessed. He has a girlfriend. What do I do?

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Defend yourself calmly if anyone brings it up. Otherwise, ignore the rumors and don't let on that they bother you. You know the truth.

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We are good friends and I'm confident that he has some feelings for me, however, he just asked a really popular girl out. What does that mean for me?

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He might be more interested in this other girl at the moment because of her popularity or because he thinks they have more in common. Continue to be his friend and be kind to the girl he is dating as well. This is more likely to endear you to him than saying nasty things about her or trying to break them up.

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My crush and I are good friends and he kind of (in a way) confessed he like me. His girlfriend doesn't know but she's jealous of our friendship and thinks I like him. What now?

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Continue to be his friend, but don't try to break up his relationship. If he is more interested in you, it's up to him to end it. Be kind to his girlfriend as well. She probably feels insecure because of the friendship you have with her boyfriend, so there's no need to be mean to her as that will only make matters worse.

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