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How can you get better at rolling your hips while you're dancing?

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William Orrock is a Professional Dancer, Instructor, Group Fitness Instructor, and the Owner of We Evolve Dance. With more than 22 years of experience, he specializes in performance, social dancing instruction, competitive dance preparation, and wedding choreography. William holds a Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Dance with a minor in Choreography from Universidad Las Americas-Chile and a second minor in Acting from Foothill College Acting Conservatory. He is also a national champion in Latin American Dancing, a former dancer for Dancing with the Stars Chile, and a certified judge for ballroom competitions.

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You can get better at rolling the hips by practicing slowly making a "figure 8" with your pelvis. When you roll your hips, focus on moving them side to side. Stick to swinging your hips in rotations that are between the width of your shoulders. Also remember to tilt your pelvis forward and backward to get a better feeling for all the different directions that your hips can move in.

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Should I be twerking while he is grinding on me?

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You don't have to, but if you want to turn him on or make the grind more intense you can.

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What should my face expression look like? How should I react?

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Smile, maybe even look back at your partner. It's nice to know one's partner is into the dance.

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What if the girl doesn't know how to grind, but she is interested in learning?

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Show her how to grind by holding onto her hips and leading. If she's still interested, you're both grinding! But if she feels uncomfortable, let her go.

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What if he puts his hands on my hips and brings my butt closer to him

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If you're uncomfortable, say you are. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. Otherwise, just keep dancing.

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What if you want to grind on a girl but you are too afraid to?

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Try dancing with her normally at first. If she is willing to grind, she might lead the way, especially if she's around other people who are grinding. You can start by doing front grinds or a lean grind from the back. It's up to you if you want to take the chance, but those are ways to ease into it.

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How do you prevent yourself from ejaculating when you're doing this? It always happens so fast.

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Reduce the pressure when you need to. You can try applying a numbing cream or take the edge off before you go to the dance.

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What if you want to grind but no one wants to grind with you?

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Don't do it. Grinding with someone without their consent could be considered sexual assault.

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What if I want to grind with a dude?

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It's perfectly acceptable. Do the same thing you'd do with a woman.

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If a girl drops down while she's grinding on me, do I have to follow her?

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No--"dropping it low" is a move a lot of girls do while grinding, and it's usually a way for her to take the lead momentarily and add some variation to the movement. All you have to do is stand there and wait for her to return to her original position so you can resume grinding.

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What if you were grinding and the boy doesn't hold on to your hips and his hands are behind his head?

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That's okay and you can go along with it if you want. If you want his hands on your hips, feel free to grab his hands and move them. It might be a little embarrassing for him, but he'll forget soon enough.

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What if he doesn't like it?

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It's alright. Some men like that and some don't.

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How do I know I'm doing good?

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If the girl responds in a sexual manner, or she keeps smiling, you're doing great. If she is trying to move away or change her motions, go with it! It's always a good idea to verbally check in as well, just say something like, "Do you like this?"

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In a club, could I undo a guys pants and grind on his underwear?

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You could, but that's risky. Firstly, it might be indecent for the venue or surrounding people. Secondly, a guy might take that as an invitation to go even further. Only do that with a guy you trust and do it discreetly.

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If I feel the guy getting hard, should I whisper to him that I like the feel of his penis?

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If you want to. That will most probably turn him on more. He might also expect that this is a prelude to you having sex with him.

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Should a take my clothes off and start thrusting against him?

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Only in private, and if you both are ready for sex, since that is what this is that you describe.

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is grinding on another dude gay?

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Most likely. A guy friend might be comfortable with doing that even if he's straight, but probably not.

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