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    How do you test if your boyfriend loves you?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Look for these signs that your boyfriend might not be in love with you anymore: he isn't showing up for you the way he used to. He's not taking your calls or answering your texts. He's starting to pull away. He doesn't want to spend as much time with you or has too many excuses to not see you. He'd rather hang out with his friends than you. He's not as playful with you as he used to be.
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    What if my boyfriend doesn't speak to me?
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    Ask him what's going on. He's probably bothered by something else and does not realize you are affected by it. You're in a relationship, and one of the pro's for that is that you should always be there for each other. And most importantly, listen.
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    I always call my boyfriend rather than him calling me. This makes me feel sad but if I complain it starts an argument. What can I do?
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    Tell him your feelings without blaming him for them. Tell him you fear that the relationship is one-sided. If he values you, your happiness will be important to him, and he should make an effort to please you.
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    My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to show him my breasts on Skype. I don't like this and I refuse, but again he forces me. What should I do, show him or fight with him about this?
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    You should keep telling him no, and possibly break up with him. He is not respecting your boundaries and your feelings, and you deserve to be treated better than that.
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    What if we just started dating?
    Community Answer
    He may not love you yet. It takes time to build up true love.
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    What does it mean if he hugs you during school when everyone is looking?
    Community Answer
    That he is not afraid to show his affection for you in front of others.
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    Do I need to sleep with my boyfriend to show him I really love him?
    Community Answer
    Absolutely not. If you're not ready, tell him that. If he cannot accept this, he doesn't respect you and you should break up with him.
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    How do I know if a guy is hiding something from me?
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    He will probably act distant, like he doesn't have much time for you, won't return your calls, etc. He'll generally be avoiding you so that he won't have to answer any questions and/or get caught in a lie.
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    How can I know if my boyfriend has another girl?
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    That's the thing, you can't really know, it all comes down to trust. If you want, you can investigate a little, but don't get caught. Don't snoop on his phone or anything. You could ask your friends or his if he's talking to other girls. Again, the best thing to do is trust him, unless he's really given you a reason not to.
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    How can I make my boyfriend spend more time with me?
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    Tell your boyfriend that you miss him and that you'd like to spend more time with him. Try to set up a date where you get to do something that both of you enjoy.
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    Sometimes he's really loving, and sometimes he's not. I don't know how to deal with these changes. What do I do?
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    Talk to him about it. Try to provide some examples of when he has run hot and cold on you, and tell him that you're not happy. If he really cares for you, he should make an effort to change.
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    How can I know if I will marry my boyfriend or not?
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    Unfortunately you can't be 100% sure that you will marry him. But if you have a healthy and communicative relationship, and continue to love and respect each other, the odds are good that one day you will be husband and wife.
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    How do I know that my boyfriend isn't just dating me because he feels sorry for me?
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    I wouldn't worry about this. Look at how your boyfriend treats you: if he holds your hand, kisses you, hugs you, cares for and listens to you, etc., then he almost certainly loves you for who you are.
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    I have some problems with my boyfriend. What should I do?
    Community Answer
    Talk to him about the problem. Communication is always the answer to a healthy relationship. If the communication doesn't work, you might just as well end it.
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    What if he always wants to see me every day?
    Community Answer
    It sounds like he really likes you. If you feel like he's putting any pressure on you or things are getting too serious, though, just tell him you need some space.
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    What should I do when my boyfriend hits me or slaps me or says bad words to me in front of everyone?
    Community Answer
    If your boyfriend is hitting you and abusing you, then you should leave. End of story.
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    How do I know if my boyfriend misses me after I've started avoiding him?
    Community Answer
    Does he try to contact you? If he does, then he misses you. If not, he is either busy or needs a break.
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    What should I do when my boyfriend is upset with me?
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    Ask him why he is upset and then go ahead and try to do what you can do. If it is something that you did wrong, apologize to him.
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    What happens after we kiss?
    Community Answer
    Nothing has to happen - just cherish the moment and enjoy being together.
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    What if my boyfriend doesn't hold hands with me and only says "I love you" when I say it first?
    Community Answer
    Maybe he's shy, or he prefers to show affection in other ways. Does he do other things that make you feel special/loved? If not, try talking to him about it. Say something like, "You never say I love you unless I say it, and it makes me feel like you don't really mean it." Make sure to say it calmly, don't pick a fight.
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    I want to end the relationship, as he never cares for me, made me cry on my birthday, and cheated on me. I need a good reason to end it. What do I do?
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    Any of these are good reasons to end things. Just tell him you're tired of being mistreated and you don't want to be with him anymore. If he tries to talk you out of it, don't listen to him. Ignore his calls and texts and block him on social media.
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    If I'm in a long distance relationship, how do I know my boyfriend is not cheating on me?
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    You can't really know, it all comes down to trust. For a relationship to be strong, you need trust your partner. If he's not making any effort to talk to you, or he seems like he's always trying to hide something, you might have reason to worry. Otherwise, you should trust him.
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    How can I ask my boyfriend if I can look in his phone?
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    Ask him if it's okay to look; if he loves you enough, this won't bother him much. However, if he's intensely private, you need to respect that as part of who he is and leave it be. Or, you can tell him you didn't bring your phone with you and need to text someone or call someone. Most likely, he will lend you his phone. However, this is sneaky and not the stuff of a loving relationship as you'd be checking up on him, which means you don't trust him.
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    How can I make my boyfriend love me?
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    Unfortunately, you can't make someone feel a certain way, especially when it comes to love. Such a deep emotion needs to come from the heart, and it needs to come willingly. Keep in mind that your boyfriend may love you, but he may just not be good at showing his love.
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    What should I do when my boyfriend has a best friend who is a girl, but I'm jealous of that and don't like it anymore?
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    Relationships are based on trust and conversation, so you should talk to him about it. It is really important to tell him how you feel about it, so he can understand you.
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    What do I do if my boyfriend discuss my weakness with my friend without asking me first?
    Tom De Backer
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    It shows that he's concerned about you. He notices something that he doesn't quite know how to handle and he's looking for all the advice he can get. That's a good thing. Talking to your friend is also a way to make sure you get this information, because that's what friends are for. He must have known beforehand that your friend would tell you, so it must have been his intention. Maybe he was worried and afraid to talk to you directly? It's also a little weird asking you for permission. However, it's not really a good idea to discuss your intimate things with others. I would let him know you appreciate his concern, but do not approve of talking to outsiders about this, friends or not.
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    My boyfriend (kind of) confesses to me only in texts, never in real life. Is he scared to talk to me? Why is he so shy?
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    Opening up can be difficult, especially in real life. You risk getting hurt, after all. Give it time, give him your trust, start out with small things, like talking about the things he likes so he'll start to open up to you.
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    What should I do if my boyfriend doesn't give me much of his time?
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    Try talking to him about this. Tell him you feel neglected and make it clear exactly what you need/expect from him. If he still doesn't make time for you after that, you should break up with him.
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    If he gets broken up with and then an hour later asks me out, is that true love? I've seen that if he breaks up with someone, he immediately gets someone else/
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    It is definitely not true love. It means that this guy hates to be alone. Maybe he doesn't really like himself and needs to be with someone to feel validated. Ask yourself if you want to be just another name on his list of exes.
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    How do I know if my boyfriend's feelings about me have changed?
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    If your boyfriend's feelings towards you have changed, he will act differently around you and seem like he's hiding something from you. If you really want to know, just ask him or sit him down and talk about it.
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