Q&A for How to Know Your Sexuality

Absolutely—it's definitely okay to be confused about your sexuality. In general, sexuality is very fluid and not always black and white. It's okay to not have a direct answer for what your sexuality is, and it's also okay to explore! See if you're ready to take that next step and see how you feel within that situation. If the experience doesn't feel right to you, you'll at least have a little more clarity.

You might be aromantic and asexual. That's okay. You could make the most of it with platonic relationships.

If you don't feel attraction, you could be aromantic, asexual, or both! It's also okay to not be sure what you are. If you still don't know, you could just use the label "queer" or go unlabeled.

If you feel attraction but don't want a relationship, you could be orchidsexual or orchidromantic. These are when you feel romantic/sexual attraction, but you don't want a relationship.

If you aren't interested in having sex with anyone, you could be asexual or on the asexual spectrum. I suggest looking into different labels to find one that fits you.

You could be abrosexual! Abrosexual is when your sexuality changes sometimes. You could also look into the SAM (split attraction model) if you're, say, romantically attracted to men but sexually attracted to women.

You can have multiple different labels, many people do! You can figure out your orientation at any time, and your orientation and labels can change over time.

You could possibly be an asexual person that experiences only romantic attraction to men.

You could be toric or uranic. You could also label yourself as bisexual if you want a less specific label, because bisexual doesn't necessarily mean men and women, it just means attracted to two or more genders!

Yes, of course! While you could see yourself with someone one the same gender as you, you don't have to want a relationship like that in the present.

You could be minsexual, androsexual, or heteroflexible/homoflexible. Look at labels to find one that fits you if you like!

You might be bi-romantic. It’s the same as bisexual but with the asexual label as well. You can want to have sex with a woman even with this title and just not have sex with a man.

From your description, it sounds like you could look into labels like asexual, graysexual, and hetero/homoflexible. It also sounds like you could be transmasculine or nonbinary. Look into different labels if you want, or you can just be unlabeled!

You might be bisexual. If you would much rather be with opposite gender, it is okay.

You could be bisexual. If you also experience attraction to non-binaries too, you could be pansexual.

You might be bisexual. If you find yourself liking non-binaries too, you could be pansexual.

If you are attracted to girls and guys, you're most likely bisexual. Being bisexual means somebody is attracted to only two genders.

Any age can be asexual. Though, people don't tend to understand sexualities and whether they experience attraction to people or not until they are either pre-teens or teens.

Yes. Sexuality changes over time. You might slowly experience less or more attraction to certain genders as you get older.

They could be queerphobic/panphobic, or they might not understand what that really means. If your "friends" don't support who you are, find people who do.

You could be bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, or heteroflexible. There's nothing wrong with you, and you're not alone!

You could be on the asexual or aromantic spectrum. If you aren't interested in dating someone, you should let them know that you aren't interested. You could also be cupioromantic. Look into labels until you find one that's right for you.

If your safety, well-being, or living situation would be put in danger by coming out to them, it would probably be best to wait until you're more independent before coming out. If you are independent enough, before coming out you should try to anticipate how they will react when they learn you're LGBTQ+.

Lesbians generally are attracted exclusively to girls (or on some cases non-binary people whose gender is close to female). Many bisexual people have a preference for one gender over another, so if you are attracted to more than one gender, but mostly girls, you could still be bi.

It could be a sign, but not always. Many people watch porn that doesn't align with their sexuality. Pornography isn't real life, people may watch porn for the fantasy. Instead you should focus on what you want in real life. Who are you attracted to when you are not watching porn?

It's up to you. You could simply say that you don't know, or that they are not entitled to that information. It depends on how comfortable you are with this person.

Traditionally, people made the distinction that bisexual meant being attracted to two genders and pansexual means being attracted to all genders, but the definition more loose than that. Bisexuality is better defined as being attracted to two or more genders. Some people identify as bisexual even if they are attracted to all genders, but gender still plays an important part in their sexuality. So in the end, it's up to you which if you feel bisexual or pansexual fits you better (omnisexual and polysexual are other sexualities you may want to look into). Of course, it's okay to use more than one label, or not label yourself at all.

If you want to look into different labels that you think could describe you, you can do that! You can also just be unlabeled, and it's perfectly valid either way!

The quizzes can't tell you for certain. They might give you an idea, or push you in the right direction, but only you can know for certain.

Of course. There are some people in the LGBTQ community who don't label themselves and that is completely okay. As long as you're happy with who you are, don't feel that a label is needed.