Q&A for How to Make an Unknown Girl Into Your Best Friend

Sometimes, when someone wants to be your friend, they'll ask to sit by you or hang out. They might also try texting or calling you, making excuses to be near you, or just trying to spend as much time with you as they can.

Find out her interests, and ask her open-ended questions (those that require more than a "yes" or "no" answer) about them. Find excuses to spend time with her.

You need to come out and say it. The worst that could happen is she says she's not interested. If you are still afraid, take it slow. Get to know her as a friend first and see where it goes from there.

It's going to be tough to become friends with a girl if you don't speak to her. Start small; say hi and smile every day until you become comfortable with that, then try small talk.

On the first day of school, smile and look approachable. The other students will probably ask you if you are new and invite you to sit with them at lunch. Once you have your foundation set, it gets so much easier to make friends along the way. Don't try too hard to make people like you, or else you will look desperate. If you see someone, go say hi and introduce yourself and always be nice and smile. This way people will view you as a fun person.

Let's say she is at a party with you. Just walk up and say "hi" and give her a compliment. Ask her a few questions about herself.

Tell her what is going on in your life. If she listen to you and only talks about herself, you should consider finding a better friend. A good site to vent to people is blahtherapy.com

If she's already a good friend, then you should speak to her the same way you always speak to her or how you speak to any of your other friends. Don't talk to her differently, because that might weird her out. If you want to be closer friends with her, just try to spend more time together, share your interests and secrets with her, be a good listener, etc.

Try to talk to her during lunches, breaks, and after school.

You should just be you. Be kind and a good person. Take good care of yourself by being clean, smelling good and dressing nicely.

There's nothing you need to 'do about' her boyfriend. She has the right to maintain whatever relationships she has. If you want, you can try to befriend her boyfriend too; otherwise, just be a good friend to the girl.

Simply go up to her and start a conversation. Sometimes shy girls seem a little intimidating and it may take a little longer to get to know her, but with persistence and patience you can draw her out of her shell. You might find she is not as "simple" as she appears.

Try having some of your friends distract her friends and approach her when they're distracted.

If she does that around her friends, try talking to her alone! If she continues to act like that, maybe try looking for other people. Ask if it'd be okay to get her number or social media username. But make sure you aren't bothering her or disturbing her. Don't make her feel like she being harassed in any way. Try just being friendly and don't make her your best friend right when you start talking. Take things slow.

You should hang out just you and her and find out what movies, music, etc. she likes. Ask her questions, but not awkward and weird ones. Connect with her on social media. Text and call her. Over time you will learn what type of person she is, but it will take a bit.

Just say "hey." Ask her about herself. Playing 20 questions is a good way to do this. Become friends in social gatherings. Compliment her, tell her she's pretty, etc.

Apologize. Say you are sorry and you don't know where your head was at when you said no. Tell her you've been thinking it over and you'd really like to be friends if she's still willing.

You can't make anyone into a friend, it has to happen naturally, but one of the keys is to be a good listener. Be receptive and open to what they say, and ask questions. Bond over mutual or common interests. Make them laugh, be silly, let your guard down and be honest about something. If they are not responsive to you, then it won't work out and you dodged someone who won't actually care about you. Find someone who you love and who loves you back.

Just relax and try again. Girls sometimes react like that at first but don't worry and follow step 1.

Approach like you would any other friend! Say hello, tell her your name and ask her questions to get to know her.

You can make her your friend just like you would anyone else. Be nice to her, talk to her frequently, ask if she wants to hang out, etc. Don't bring up whatever issues the two of you had in the past, and she probably won't either. Just start fresh.

If you genuinely want to be friends, it doesn't matter if she's single or not. However, once you are her friend, you can ask her. Go up to her, say "hi," make friendly conversation, and be yourself.

Try FaceTiming, that tends to work, so do that for a while and take baby steps, sooner or later you will be nonstop talking.

Talk to her more. Find out what she's interested in and learn more about these things. If you have shared interests, that's even better. Since you both like books, you could start with, "Have you read any good books lately?" The more conversations you have, the closer you'll get to becoming best friends.

You can't make someone love you. Just focus on being the best version of yourself and be kind, but not clingy or overbearing.

Ask her for advice on something that you're having trouble with. It could be home related, friend related, or school related. Girls love to give advice and give her updates so she knows how her advice worked out.

Be polite and kind to her, but don't act fake. Ask to hang out with her and then try to find common interests between each other. Be patient, it takes time to get to know new people.

No. It would show her you're interested in her.

Ask your friend to introduce you. Make it casual. You could say, "Hey [friend's name], I've heard you mention your friend [her friend's name] on occasions. She sounds really nice. Next time we go to the gymnastics club, shall we see if she wants to tag along?" Or you could approach the girl and say, "Aren't you a friend of [your friend's name]?" and then introduce yourself.

Then leave her alone and find someone else to be friends with.