Q&A for How to Perform a Lap Dance for Your Boyfriend or Husband

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  • Question
    How do I get better at rolling my hips when I dance?
    William Orrock
    Professional Dancer & Instructor
    William Orrock is a Professional Dancer, Instructor, Group Fitness Instructor, and the Owner of We Evolve Dance. With more than 22 years of experience, he specializes in performance, social dancing instruction, competitive dance preparation, and wedding choreography. William holds a Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Dance with a minor in Choreography from Universidad Las Americas-Chile and a second minor in Acting from Foothill College Acting Conservatory. He is also a national champion in Latin American Dancing, a former dancer for Dancing with the Stars Chile, and a certified judge for ballroom competitions.
    Professional Dancer & Instructor
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    You can get better at rolling the hips by practicing slowly making a "figure 8" with your pelvis. When you roll your hips, focus on moving them side to side. Stick to swinging your hips in rotations that are between the width of your shoulders. Also remember to tilt your pelvis forward and backward to get a better feeling for all the different directions that your hips can move in.
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    How do I choose the right songs for my dance routine?
    William Orrock
    Professional Dancer & Instructor
    William Orrock is a Professional Dancer, Instructor, Group Fitness Instructor, and the Owner of We Evolve Dance. With more than 22 years of experience, he specializes in performance, social dancing instruction, competitive dance preparation, and wedding choreography. William holds a Bachelor's degree in Contemporary Dance with a minor in Choreography from Universidad Las Americas-Chile and a second minor in Acting from Foothill College Acting Conservatory. He is also a national champion in Latin American Dancing, a former dancer for Dancing with the Stars Chile, and a certified judge for ballroom competitions.
    Professional Dancer & Instructor
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    Think about songs that are meaningful to you and your partner. Remember—these songs don't have to be popular hits. Just focus on what stirs your heart and brings up good memories. It's also a wonderful idea to choose songs that help you "feel the rhythm" and that you feel confident about dancing to.
  • Question
    What if I get so overwhelmed with a touch from him that I let him keep doing it?
    Community Answer
    If you want him to touch you more, let him. If you feel uncomfortable, tell him to stop.
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    Can I touch him anywhere I want?
    Community Answer
    Of course. But don't let him touch you, that'll drive him crazy.
  • Question
    Can I have sex while preforming a lap dance?
    Community Answer
    Only after, because the whole point of a lap dance is to get your boyfriend/husband to be eager to have sex with you, and after he'll be begging for your body.
  • Question
    How does a fat girl do a lap dance?
    Community Answer
    The same way any other girl would.
  • Question
    Can I give a lap dance naked?
    DaniPurrjoy
    Community Answer
    You should do whatever you're comfortable with, but many people think it's sexier if you take the clothes off during the dance.
  • Question
    Is it good to have sex afterwards?
    Community Answer
    Sure, if you both want to. You don't need to feel pressured to do anything you're not comfortable with, but know that that is probably what he will want once you've turned him on.
  • Question
    How can I tell if my boyfriend thinks this is boring?
    Community Answer
    Just ask him if he likes it!
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    How do I overcome shyness pertaining to my body?
    Community Answer
    Try wearing clothes you like and know you feel great in. Remember that your boyfriend/husband chose you because he loves the person you are, not just your appearance. He will be far less happy if you hide away all the time instead of embracing the fact that both of you are in love and care for each other as you both are. Give yourself into abandon, not self criticism, and you'll have a ball.
  • Question
    How do I not be embarrassed about doing a lap dance?
    Community Answer
    Just be confident! Of course you will have some nervousness to begin with but just melt in with the mood.
  • Question
    How old should I be before giving a lap dance?
    Community Answer
    I would say 18, or at least the age of consent in your state considering how sexual a lap dance is.
  • Question
    What if I don't feel like showing my body to my boyfriend?
    Community Answer
    You don't have to fully expose yourself. If you feel uncomfortable exposing yourself, you can just partially remove your clothes or stay fully clothed.
  • Question
    Can I rip my partner's clothes off while doing the lap dance?
    Community Answer
    Yes, if you want to and he's alright with it!
  • Question
    Can males lap dance, too?
    Community Answer
    Yes. Anybody who wants to can lap dance.
  • Question
    How old should a girl be before trying something like this?
    Community Answer
    Wait till you're at least 18, and never do it under pressure from a man. Ideally, you'd be able to do it freely as a treat for the man you've married after you've tied the knot.
  • Question
    Can you do the lap dance in the shower?
    Community Answer
    If it is a big shower, then yes.
  • Question
    Can I grab someone while performing a lap dance?
    Community Answer
    As long as it is okay with the person you are giving the lap dance to, yes.
  • Question
    Can I squeeze his muscles and play with his penis?
    Community Answer
    Yes, you can.
  • Question
    Can I play with his penis?
    Community Answer
    Sure. He's your man, so you can customize your lap dance however you'd like.
  • Question
    Will this work if he's not my boyfriend or husband?
    Community Answer
    Yes, just try to avoid doing it for anyone else's boyfriend or husband, you don't want to cause unnecessary drama.
  • Question
    If I want to practice this before my boyfriend comes over, could I use a large stuffed animal or something like that?
    Community Answer
    Yes, that would work well for practicing.
  • Question
    What should I do if my boyfriend doesn't love me?
    Community Answer
    If he doesn’t love you, that isn’t a healthy relationship. Break up with him. It might hurt, but the relationship won’t go anywhere good if he doesn’t love you.
  • Question
    Can I do a lap dance with a seated woman?
    Community Answer
    You can do it for anyone, male or female. Guys can do lap dances for girls or guys, as can girls.
  • Question
    What if I'm trying to get pregnant?
    Community Answer
    You can still do a lap dance if you wish, and then just don't use a condom or other birth control methods during intercourse.
  • Question
    Can the guy grab my butt?
    Community Answer
    Remember the whole point is to build tension and make him want you so I would wait till the dance is over.
  • Question
    Can I do also sing instead of just turning on music?
    Community Answer
    You can if you want to, but it might distract your boyfriend/husband from the lap dance, which is the whole point. And if you're not a very good singer, that would be an even bigger distraction!
  • Question
    After the lap dance can he get straight into action and push his penis in?
    Bababooey1234goofyahh
    Community Answer
    Yes, if you want that to happen. When he pushes his penis in, that means you gave a succsesful lap dance.
  • Question
    Can he put his hand up my vagina and suck on my boobs?
    Bababooey1234goofyahh
    Community Answer
    He can, if you want him to and he wants to. It's very erotic when he puts his hand up your vagina and sucks on your boobs.
  • Question
    What if my boyfriend gets a little rougher in bed? Does that mean he likes it?
    Community Answer
    Yes. Talk to him about it. The best sex involves communication.
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