Q&A for How to Plan For a Golden (50th) Wedding Anniversary

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    I am renewing my vows in a church. Would it be proper to walk down the isle?
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    Yes. Treat the ceremony as if It was your wedding again.
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    Should I send out a save the date for our 50th wedding anniversary dinner?
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    Even if it is just a quaint dinner of a special few, sending out save the date cards to those on your guest list will allow them to reserve the date of an event they will surely not want to miss celebrating with you and your spouse.
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    How far in advance should invitations or save the date Evites be sent for a Golden Anniversary party?
    Jada Williams
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    Most invitations are given at least one-two months in advance. This should give most guests and attendants enough time to mark the date and clear their schedules.
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    What kinds of flowers should be used for a centerpiece?
    Jada Williams
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    Usually red, yellow, and white flowers look best as centerpieces. This also depends on the color of the tablecloth and whether you have any theme colors for the event already.
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    Who should give a party for a couple celebrating their 50 year wedding anniversary?
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    Usually the couple's children. If they do not have children, or the children are unable, anyone close to the couple can plan the party.
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    What is the order for the 50th celebratory dinner?
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    There is no order. I celebrated a 50th birthday at a restaurant with a party room, and I simply organized everything from the guest list and invitations to the dinner and dessert! Just talk to your spouse about what to do.
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    We live in a small town and are involved in several volunteering events. Would it be appropriate to post an invitation in the location of our volunteering to include the people we volunteer with?
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    Yes! I'm sure the people you help and/or your fellow volunteers would be delighted to help you celebrate your anniversary.
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    If my spouse and I are celebrating our golden wedding in a church, could we renew our vows during that time too?
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    Sure! As long as you plan to do so ahead of time with the church, then you shouldn't have any issues.
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    Can a close friend officiate a 50th wedding vow renewal?
    Patti
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    This is a renewal of vows, so the couple are still legally married. There is no reason why a close friend could not perform the ceremony.
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    What is the appropriate entourage (including sponsors and bridesmaids, etc.) for a vow-renewal ceremony for a golden wedding anniversary?
    Tom De Backer
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    There are a few templates, traditions, etc. that give good examples of how to do this, but really, it's up to you. Whatever you want to do to mark this occasion, you can. Fly everyone out to Kathmandu, make dinner reservations, rent a concert hall, decide a dress code, choose a theme. You can choose anything and everything.
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    Is it appropriate for a 50th wedding anniversary celebrant to wear a veil and cover her face during the ceremony?
    Tom De Backer
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    One of the functions of these veils and other means of covering a woman's face, is to avoid giving bachelors the thought of courting the woman. If you can't see her, then you can't see her beauty, get excited and can't want to spread your genes. Of course, in modern times men are expected to be able to control these basic urges inside themselves without limiting a woman's freedom by forcing her to hide. In this case, the celebrant is well and truly married, so there's no need to wear a veil. Of course, if she wants to, she's free to do so.
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    If a spouse died, can the wife still celebrate the golden anniversary?
    Tom De Backer
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    Sad though it may be, to technically celebrate any wedding anniversary, both spouses have to still be alive and married to each other. Of course, she can mark the occasion with a family celebration, and she is free to celebrate anything she wants; if she wants to call it that, she is obviously free to do so. But technically, the counter stopped counting when her spouse died.
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    Would it be okay to serve only appetizers for a mid-afternoon party?
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    Yes but do not serve only one style of appetizer. Rather, serve a variety of different types of appetizers to ensure everyone is catered for and it's interesting fare for all those present. This includes some sweet, some savory and some umami choices. Consider matching alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks to the appetizers too.
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    Should I play "Here comes the Bride" on our 50th anniversary while walking down the aisle?
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    If you want to, sure. People will probably think that is very cute.
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    We would like to send out invitations noting no gifts but rather a donation to charity (i.e., our suggestions and their favorite). Do we follow up on them?
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    Yes, you can. If a person does not respond automatically, it's best for you to follow up with an email or a text. Be sure to greet the person with kind regards before politely following up on them; don't burst the question out straightforward.
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    How can I transfer our special music to a piece of jewelry?
    Tom De Backer
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    A bracelet, perhaps? With a small pin that once pulled sets in motion an internal mechanism that plays the song? Or hide a special button in the jewellery that activates a chip to play the music? Maybe you could have sheet music made and use the first few bars as part of the decoration? You could have a musician play the music, take a picture and frame that picture in earrings?
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    Is it appropriate to invite family and friends to join me at a restaurant but they have to buy their own dinner?
    Tom De Backer
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    Sure, why not? If you invite 10 guests to your house for a party and it costs 50€ for snacks and drinks, then if they each give you a 5€ bottle of wine, it offsets the costs. Weddings, anniversaries etc. also work like that, though the gifts often don't cover all the costs of the event. Then again, when they get married or have an anniversary, you benefit too. Make it clear what the arrangement is beforehand, so there are no surprises. You can also offer to pay for the wine during dinner, but not the food. No one expects you to pay for fifty people, in the end.
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