Q&A for How to Tell if a Female Friend Wants a Romantic Relationship

That can be tricky. You don’t want the friendship to end if the relationship does not work. Honesty is the best policy and it’s best to discuss with your friend what your thoughts are.

Leaning or other types of close physical contact (like touching your arm or letting her hand brush against yours) are usually signs of affection. However, some people enjoy cuddling up to their friends, so don’t assume it means she likes you romantically—it’s best to ask how she’s feeling in order to be sure!

You might notice her glancing at you a lot or making lingering eye contact when she speaks to you. Look for a smile that reaches her eyes when she’s talking to you (i.e., you should notice smile lines, lowered brows, and twinkling eyes), since this means the smile is genuine and not forced. You might also notice that her pupils dilate when she’s looking at you.

She might talk to you often, flirt with you, find reasons to be near you or to touch you, visibly light up whenever she sees you, or act upset when you show romantic interest in other people. However, the only way to know for sure is to ask her. If you don’t feel comfortable asking her directly, try asking her friends—she might have mentioned her feelings to one of them.

Yes, they are. Presents aren't the only thing that defines a friendship. If they're there for you, they're your friend.

She probably isn't lying. If she really did want to be with you even if she said no, she would do something so you would know. If she says no, she probably means no.

It probably means she is interested in you but she doesn't want to give away her feelings, or she's just not ready to be in a relationship right now for whatever reason. You could try asking her how she really feels sometime when the two of you are alone.

Not always. It depends on the girl. She might just want to be your friend.

She has a crush on you, and on the inside, she does not want you to have crushes on other girls. She gets hurt because she wants to be the only girl in your life, but doesn't want to let you know because she likely is afraid you will reject her. Talk to her about your feelings and hers, and if you want to be in a romantic relationship with her, let her know. If you prefer to remain friends, tell her so gently and honestly.

Yes, most likely she does.

She might say something like "you're like a brother to me" or talk about other guys around you. If she tells you everything that goes on in her life, you are in the friend zone.

It means you're in the friendzone and staying there. Sometimes girls boyfriends get angry and they don't care, they want to keep their friends.

Just approach them at a time when the two of you can be alone, and tell them how you feel about them, and ask them if they feel the same way about you. If you'd prefer, you could also just ask them for a date. Saying something like, "Would you like to get coffee or go to a movie sometime?" will usually be interpreted as a romantic invitation.

Just listen to what she says now. How she felt years ago has nothing to do with how she feels now. People's feelings change. Maybe she didn't use to have romantic feelings for you, but she later developed them.

Admitting to someone you like them is like the first jump into the pool, it's super scary. Rejection is something you can be sure of, so if you aim for that, you're sure to get it. The best way to go about these things is to go slow. Just talk about other things together, maybe send a few signals like holding a hug a little longer than usual, to give him a sense of how you feel before he admits how he feels.

Yes, if she was trying to make it work and find a time that worked, it is most definitely a date.

It sounds like she has a crush on you.

Try observing her around other people and see if she treats everyone the same way she treats you. You could also ask her friends if she's always like that or if they happen to know how she feels about you.

You should ask her out! If you like her, and she shows she likes you, go for it! She may even be waiting for you to ask her out.

These are potential signs, but she might just be being friendly.

Yes. I think this girl likes you. If she hangs with you a lot, and sometimes brings you gifts, I think you two could be something more than friends. Drop a few hints during your late night talks that you have feelings for her and see how she responds.

If she says she's not interested in you romantically, you just have to accept that, even if you suspect it isn't true. Without knowing what you mean by "sleep together," I will just say that girls/young women are often very physically close, touching, hugging, sleeping in the same bed, etc., without it meaning anything romantic. It's very common, and this is probably what your friend is doing. Don't push the issue or you'll probably lose her as a friend.

She is probably nervous to admit that she likes you. If you like her, make the first move or tell her about your feelings.

A platonic relationship is a relationship that is friendly rather than romantic.

Tell her how you feel! Don't just walk up and try to kiss her, have a conversation about it. If she likes you back, she'll tell you.

Ask her why she is not responding. If she does not respond again or comes up with some lame excuse, you should let her go. This is difficult, but you will get through this.

Her friend might do these things for two reasons. The first reason may be that her friend likes you and she is trying to separate you from your crush. The second reason may be that your crush has noticed that you like her and she is uncomfortable about it, so she told her friend not to leave her alone with you. The only way to be sure is to ask your crush how she feels about you.

Meet him somewhere. A coffee would be good. Observe his facial expression and his body language. If he's interested, he will seem quite happy with a natural smile and he will ask about your life more than he will boast about his.

Her eyes dilating is not a sure sign and can happen, or not happen, regardless of her attraction to you.

It most likely means she was just being kind, a friend, and a little harmless innocent flirting with no other intentions. When you told her you like her, she may have realized her own behavior contributed to that, giving you the wrong idea, and now she may be trying to give you the right idea. However, she might also be angry because she gave you all these signals and all you did was say 'I like you', where perhaps she was hoping for a much stronger response. Now, don't take that as a cue to walk straight up to her and kiss her. Instead, talk to her openly and honestly. Let her know why you're confused and ask how she would like to get past this and back to normal.