Q&A for How to Tie Yourself up in a Spreadeagle Position

You can wear whatever you want (or nothing at all). The degree to which you are dressed or undressed is completely up to you and depends on what you have planned to happen while you're tied up.

No, you should never tie up someone who's under the age of 18 because they can't consent to this type of play. If you come across someone under the age of 18 who has tied themselves up like this, untie them immediately. Tickling them or taking advantage of them in any way while they're tied up would be considered assault.

If they don't want to, find someone else who does. You should never coerce or attempt to persuade someone to do something like this if they don't want to. Respect their boundaries.

Some people might do this as a precursor to an encounter with a sexual or romantic partner. They might also do this if they simply enjoy the feeling of being restrained or being vulnerable. No one necessarily "needs" to do this, but they might want to do it for fun or to have an experience that's out of the ordinary.

Talk to your girlfriend about the scene before you tie yourself up. Make sure she understands your boundaries and what it's okay to do while you're restrained. If you're not okay with her tickling you, let her know that ahead of time. If she does it anyway, that's a consent violation and constitutes assault.

You should always have multiple ways to get out of bondage. As a failsafe, have a friend or partner who knows what you're doing and can come to your assistance if necessary. For example, you might have someone come by and check on you at a designated time. Then, they can free you if you're unable to do so on your own.

Yes, and you should never tie up a baby or child. It's physical assault to tie someone up without their consent, and children cannot consent.

Yes. Spread Eagle is used in tickling more often than not, as it leaves your most ticklish spots bare (usually).

It's not recommended, because it could be uncomfortable and leave bruises on you.

You should be spread out on the ground or bed with each limb tied to a post.

To tie someone else in this position, have them lie flat on their back. If you are using handcuffs, cuff their hands first, then cuff them to the bed. Same goes for the feet. But if you are using rope, tie the rope to the bed posts first. That way it will be easier to tie them up. The same applies to the feet.

If you intend on struggling (for any reason), or tie the ropes too tight, then it could be harmful to your wrists and ankles. Regardless of the situation, you will be putting some strain on those joints. It's usually better not to risk it.

If you believe or know they are good, giving and game about it, just ask them. If you are unsure, perhaps you should bring it up in conversation apart from the situation in which you wish to be tied up.

No. Never do this to someone without their consent/permission. A sleeping person cannot give consent.

It is better to use real handcuffs as the fake ones can increase the risk of getting hurt.

Though you could use this to test your escape skills, it is advised to have someone else know you have done this ready to release you, even if you test your own escape skills. If escaping yourself really is your goal, the slipknot is your best option. Move it as close to the pole as possible to get spare rope and start wriggling, the rope should come more and more loose until you can remove your main hand. From there on out, untie yourself.

Yes, of course. Make sure you’re being safe, however. Don’t cut off circulation and make sure you have a way to escape!

I recommend using a bed with a bedpost on each corner.