Q&A for How to Write a Love Letter

Share some of your favorite memories with him! This could be a really simple moment that touched your heart but that you never told him about.

Jot down some things that you really love about your partner! You could describe all of their qualities that touch your heart, or just some fun, quirky things about them.

Do it! If you truly want to express your feelings for him, then that's a great way to do it. If you already know he likes you, there's not much risk involved!

In the context of a love letter, "X" is a kiss and "O" is a hug.

The more time you spend with her, the less nervous you'll be. Just take it one day at a time and be yourself.

Yes, I would avoid using strong romantic language like this until you have established yourselves as more than friends.

Keep it simple! Don't be too romantic because it might be too much for the person who is reading it. Also be careful. Make sure to keep the letter in a safe place. You wouldn't want your parents reading a letter that was meant for a loved one.

You should tell her how you feel, but don't be too over-the-top about. Instead of a love letter, think of it as an "I'd like to get to know you better" letter. Tell her you have a crush on her and you were wondering if she'd like to go out sometime since you'll be in the same city for college. You don't want to come on too strong.

You'll have to tell them at some point, and it's your decision when to do so. If I were you, I'd do it sooner rather than later. If they're the type of person that wouldn't date someone because of a disability, you'd want to know about that now so you can stop wasting your time.

Just be honest and try to concentrate on getting your word out. The more you say, the easier it will be.

If you know she’s straight, you most-likely won’t be able to change her mind. But if you want to tell her you have a crush on her, just be honest and upfront.

It depends on how you feel about the person that sent it. If you like them back, tell them! If you don't, just say something like, "I'm really flattered, and I like you a lot as a friend, but I just don't have romantic feelings for you."

You can type the letter if you want, it's just that a handwritten letter usually seems more personal and intimate.

It depends on what you're saying in the letter. If it's something like, "I really like you and I'm glad you're my boyfriend/girlfriend," you can write a letter like that pretty much immediately. If you're talking about actually telling someone you love them, wait until you're absolutely sure that you do. This will likely take a few months.

It doesn't matter. They'll still enjoy it if it's short and sweet, or long and meaningful. Write it as long as until your heart decides it's time to stop, or until you have no more to write about. As long as you're enjoying it, write to your heart's content! This goes for everyone else who might be asking the same question, whoever's just reading, and whoever might just be wondering. Don't let anything hold you back from writing about your love for someone.

Only if you are friends with them and know them in real life, say; if you have met someone online then do not put any personal information in, such as your phone number.

Yes, make it sweet, maybe even put an apology and tell him how much he means to you, how much you love him, etc.

Do you go to school together? You could give it to him there and write at the end asking for him to hide it or throw it away once he’s read it. You could do the same but ask for a friend to deliver it. If your parents don’t have access to your devices, you could send him one digitally.

Yes - it’s a nice idea to give your phone number in a way that offers up communication without any pressure, and without any expectation of contact. Leave the ball in their court!

Getting over a crush is really hard and sometimes all that helps is time. Burning the letter may help you process your feelings and thoughts, and accept that you’re giving up on him, but your feelings won’t disappear right away.

In the end, there’s no way of preventing them from discussing the letter - wouldn’t you seek advice from your friends if you got a love letter? However, if you are afraid this person will gossip/make fun of you, consider whether this is the kind of person you feel comfortable confessing to. The most you can do is mention in the letter that you are a private person and would appreciate a discreet response.

There’s nothing wrong with writing it anonymously if you just want to express your feelings and you’re not looking for a response. However, you should keep in mind that people might suspect you (if others already know about your crush, they recognise your handwriting, or see you dropping off the letter) and prepare for this.

It’s okay - although a letter from someone she doesn’t know well might be confusing for her. Express your feelings sincerely but don’t use very strong romantic language (“I.e. I love you, you’re my everything”). Think about the letter as a way to introduce yourself to her, and don’t pressure her for a relationship or response.

Why hide at who you are? If you are that embarrassed about the letter or very nervous at their reply just simply say it by how you feel, but if you know that they might not be interested just start out by saying how nervous you are but want them to be understanding and honest if they are surprised at you. But never, never hide yourself from the one who could be yours for eternity.

Yes, that's so sweet! Make sure it is tailored to the person you're addressing, though. If they are just a friend, maybe shy away from very romantic quotes. But if you have been with someone long enough, quotes are very lovely.

Yes, she will not know who it is, you may consider saying, "From A Classmate" (If you are in school) or, say "From you're secret admirer".

I say just shoot your shot! If you miss when you shoot for the moon, you land among the stars. If you're rejected, then that's okay. It's part of your life, and your crush might be lying, because I remember a while back when I confessed to another interest. He never answered me or said anything, and now I think he likes me (we're still really good friends.) Time will tell the actual outcome, and anything short-term will dissipate. Just go for it!

Try to remember that if she is straight, it's very unlikely that you can change her mind, so don't try to pressure her in the letter. Make it clear that you're admitting your feelings and not necessarily expecting her to love you back.

Since you're so sure that she likes you too, you should think about the type of person she is. Is she romantic? Shy? Funny? Just think about it as if you could or were saying it to her in person. Think about what would make her happiest to hear, and write it from your heart.

Check the methods in Confess to Your Crush .