I'm in the middle of something just like this. Myself and her have become really close over the last 6 months. She knows I wanted more but she said she didn't see me that way and it upsets her because I have all the qualities she would look for. But she can't figure out why she can't get there. So I took anything more than friends off the table. We were constantly together and she told me last week she developing feelings for me now. She is afraid I may run away because she has been so back n forth with it. Needless to say we went out again and she had to leave early for a work thing. I got in my feels and text her the next day that I wanted to put distance between us. Why? I don't know why I did that. I guess I just felt that I don't know what to do at this point. So in doing that we didn't speak for two days and that's a long time for us. I ended up texting and telling her I apologized for my text but I deserve someone that is emotionally available. And she agreed with me, again, saying she is trying to get there but isn't there just yet. And she doesn't know what she's holding back either. That got some reason she just hasn't been able to give me her heart. Reality is I haven't asked for it. When we're together there's no you hu feely on my part. I respect her and admire her. But we have a ton of fun together. In a nutshell we both agreed that we feel like we are losing a best friend if we stop seeing each other. She said she, in all caps, WANTS me in her life at whatever that capacity can be. As a man I'm all sorts of confused. She said she is not and has no desire to date anymore for herself. I know she has feelings but is this some sort of game that even she doesn't know is going on? She did tell me she is used to unhealthy relationships and struggles with me because I'm none of that. Now, I understand to be, big-time! But I grew up and have zero time for games. So when is enough enough? Should I take the summer and spend more time with her and see where it goes? It was on my last week where she told me she is having feelings for me on more than one occasion lately. Did I just set myself back months because I got like every other man and became impatient? I don't know. Troubled minds.