Although your relationship is over, you still scroll through your ex’s socials while playing “your song” on repeat. You keep asking yourself, “Why do I miss my ex?” What you’re feeling is totally normal: you’re grieving the loss of your relationship as well as the loss of your routine and plans for the future. There isn’t one “right way” to move on, but we’ve created a list of 20 strategies to help you feel better sooner. Give these a try, and remember: you don’t need to be someone’s “other half” to be whole.
This article is based on an interview with our dating and relationship coach, Suzanna Mathews, founder of The Date Maven. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- Process your emotions by writing in a journal, creating art, or meeting with a therapist.
- If you feel stuck, try switching up your routine, redecorating your space, or exploring a new hobby.
- Employ the “no contact rule” with your ex for at least 30 days. You need the time and space to process without your ex’s influence.
- Express your emotions instead of bottling them up. Lean on your friends for support, and consider meeting with a therapist as you navigate this transition.
Steps
Expert Q&A
Tips
- A warmline is a phone number you can call to receive emotional support. Whether you’re in crisis or just need someone to talk to, their trained peer staff is there to listen. [33] X Research source Find a directory of warmline numbers in the US on https://warmline.org/ . [34] X Research sourceThanks
Warnings
- If you're thinking about suicide, dial or text 988 to reach the US Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Their trained counselors provide confidential support to people in crisis 24 hours a day. [35] X Research source If you need immediate help, dial 911.Thanks
- If you’re dealing with an alcohol or drug addiction, call the US SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) National Helpline at 1-800-622-4357 for referrals to support groups, community programs, and local treatment facilities.Thanks
References
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