I dont know what to do I just want to be there for her im scared that i might loose her i mean bipolar is a serious illness daisy I love you!!!1
anyone who can help please help me im crying and shaking im soooooooo scared please someone has to be out there that understands my pain
Marina
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Hey Jada. What’s happened? Have you found this out recently?
yes okay on tuesday my best friend just started cying and she wouldnt tell me why at first and then she finally told me that her medicine hasnt been working for her bipolar and she just got really upset and she told me that no cares about her and that she hates herself and im scared i havent seen her since than
Hey, Jada.
Okay - take a few deep breaths until your mind is settled. Breathe in for four seconds, hold it for four seconds, and then let it out for eight seconds. I know you’re worried about your friend, but you can’t help her if you’re too panicky to think straight.
What’s worrying you so much about the situation? Do you think your friend is at risk for harming herself in some way? Mental illness in and of itself isn’t deadly; just having a mental disorder doesn’t hurt someone. But the thoughts that can come from mental illness can be hard to suppress; do you think your friend is struggling with thoughts of hurting herself or ending her life? Or is there something else worrying you about your friend having bipolar disorder?
Please feel free to email me at any point - I’d be happy to talk this out with you. I know from direct experience that this is really rough stuff. /hugs
*breaths in and breaths out breaths in and breaths out and the one thing that is worrying me is that it might get really bad and she might start back cutting herself again even though she promised but she cant help it I really want to be there as much as i can mentaly and physicaly /hugs back to u
how do i make it better? for her she dosen’t deserve this *tries to stay strong
Okay. Keep up the steady breathing - it’ll help you to calm down and stop that shaking feeling.
So you’re worried that your friend may return to self-injuring. That’s understandable; it’s upsetting to see someone you care about deliberately cause harm to themselves. While there’s nothing you can really do to make
her stop (I’m sorry, I know that’s hard to hear), our article on How to Help Someone Who Self Injures
might be of some use to you. Do important figures in your guys’s lives know what’s going on? An adult who you trust, if you’re teenagers, or a mental health worker, would be a good person to turn to and talk about this, if nobody is already aware.
I know it’s really, really scary to talk to people about this stuff, especially if your friend doesn’t want you to tell, but if you think it’ll be safe to do so (which more often than not, it will be), it’s really important to reach out to someone else and tell them what’s going on. Oftentimes, others don’t realize there’s something wrong because the person struggling puts on a “happy face” and hides it. Has your friend told her psychiatrist (or if she’s a teenager, her parents) that her medication isn’t working anymore? Because if not, that’s a huge roadblock - nobody can try to help her if they don’t know she needs help.
All you
, as a friend, can really do for her, is be her friend, and support yourself. Be there to listen when she’s upset and wants to vent, and support her as much as you can. (But if you believe she’s going to hurt herself, please reach out to someone else and let them know, whether it’s adults, mental health workers, or emergency services.) Make sure to take time for yourself, as well - it’s really hard to be friends with someone who has a mental disorder if you don’t have anyone else to talk to. Talk to someone other than her about this - whether it’s parents, other friends, a therapist, or a school teacher or counselor.
Is there anything else you’re unsure about or need help on in this situation?
okay so yes her parents and mine are aware so her parents are watching her and okay im calming down but i realy just want to take it away form her you know? ITs hard to be here for her and then on top of that trying to stay caught up in school ,but yes her parents and other adults are aware thanks for understanding and you are my new friend hugs
just thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach
did my new friend Galactic leave NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO lol
I apologize - I had to go do something else for a bit
I understand - it’s really hard to watch someone you care about struggle. Maybe How to Help Someone Suffering With Bipolar Disorder
would be a good help for you? How to Help a Friend with Depression
might also be a good resource, even though it’s not about bipolar disorder.
Hey Jada, it’s nice to meet you. I really like your name, it’s pretty.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I’ve had something similar happen to my friend as well, although it was a lot worse. As Alex has suggested, the first thing you should do is try to calm down. Perhaps listen to some calming noises or music? This channel has plenty of them them: https://www.youtube.com/user/RelaxingWhiteNoise/videos
A lot of great articles were shared here. Please consider reading them to help both you and your friend. Let me know what happens. You are more than welcome to e-mail me, I will try to respond as soon as I can.
Good luck to you Jada,
Nadia
tanks everyone i have talked to her and shes okay so hank u sooooooooooo much everyone love u all and plz read my article its my first one thx
^ So glad to know she is doing okay =) I am really happy for both of you. If you ever need to talk to me, feel free to me e-mail me.
Good luck to the both of you!
Nadia
hey everyone so my best friend daisy is going to her couselor today to see whats going on with her bipolar im sooo nervous about whats going to happened
I hope Daisy feels better. I’m glad she’s going to her councilor. She needs it. And in the meantime when you can’t talk to her, try talking to us. In this thread or in the twitter thread. And don’t be nervous. Think about happy things. All happiness. Imagine yourself having fun in a unicorn land or something else that’s really cheerful. Try typing in a search bar ’ images that make you happy’. And keep up with those breathing techniques. It’ll help you calm down. We’re all hoping that she’ll feel better. Keep in touch with us on this thread. I want to know how you both are feeling. I hope this helped. : )
Im passing trought some similar stuff, so i think she would feel kinda of better if you show you are there for her, that shes not alone. Support and got her back. And Im so sorry for her… But it will be okay!
^ Good luck to you as well @Super_Mah
. I wish you all the best for both you and your friend. And remember - as much as you should help your friend, don’t forget yourself. Always take care of yourself both physcially and emotionally.
Hugs,
-Nadia
